how'd you do that?
By telling them the truth, that I had not been able to make the truth "my own" during my active years. I was referring to doubts concerning myself and my position in God's plans. I did not attack any doctrinal issues, I really couldn't either, as said I've not been able to make truth "my own". I was however prepared to whatever outcome. I understood they could interpret this as DA (it was not what I was searching for), they could find the reason to start DF process (I believe they have means, knowledge and right to pursue this too), that it was OK was the least expected outcome.
I have my family in, I have extensive amount of "friends" I've learned to know during years. I would not have resisted the DA/DF either, I know what is the consequense of that. Put I really believe that each and everyone must themselves be satisfied with what and how they believe. It cannot be outsourced to a collective body. If someone really believes personally I'm glad for them, if someone has found out that they cannot believe this way, I'm equally glad form them, because both parties have made a personal decision.
Ok, this went slightly OT, sorry for that