Posts by kheli

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Forgotten/Unforgotten Friends

by kheli in

since i am recently out of the "truth", i still find that i have a couple of people that i really miss.

i have managed to get past the stage of obsessing about whether or not certain people still think/care about me.. but, every now and then i wonder about my (ex)best friend.

she was like a sister to me.

kheli

Thanks for the compliment Daniel, I'm sure that my time will come soon.

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Forgotten/Unforgotten Friends

by kheli in

since i am recently out of the "truth", i still find that i have a couple of people that i really miss.

i have managed to get past the stage of obsessing about whether or not certain people still think/care about me.. but, every now and then i wonder about my (ex)best friend.

she was like a sister to me.

kheli

Talk about irony...I ran into my ex-best friend today. She looked directly at me, but did not acknowledge me in any way.

I feel that I've gotten the "closure" I need.

I'm an "all or nothing" type of person. I refuse to accept being told that she still have feelings for me, when her actions suggest otherwise. She is still bonded to the organization and I know that she believes that she is serving the true God, the true way. I choose to respect her privacy and as a result, I will not contact her again.

If she wants to have a relationship with me, she is fully capable of pursuing that.

Kelley

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Whats your fav song or band?

by Beans in

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other than the kingdom songs i`m sure we must have squeezed in some time to listen to the radio between territories and on the way to the mettings.. my musical tastes vary from classical to heavy head banging music,basically i like everything!i love the cult,rush,van halen,boston,etc anything from the 80`s retro era.. but my favourite song would be everything counts by depech mode and she sells sanctuary by the cult!.

beans.

kheli

I love anything by Incubus, No Doubt & Miles Davis.

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Forgotten/Unforgotten Friends

by kheli in

since i am recently out of the "truth", i still find that i have a couple of people that i really miss.

i have managed to get past the stage of obsessing about whether or not certain people still think/care about me.. but, every now and then i wonder about my (ex)best friend.

she was like a sister to me.

kheli

singsongboi -

I'm glad you got closure with your friends before the big announcement. I did get to talk to my best friend, before everything was finalized, but I guess I knew things wouldn't be the same. But I do see that there are better things to come...I'm having my first child this summer! Woohoo!

jesussaves -

Thanks for the advice on moving on & making new friends. I'm working on it.

Venice -

I'm sure these feelings I'm having will go away. ("This too shall pass") I just have to try to keep putting things in their proper perspective.

It is certainly unsettling to know that our ties to an organization has proved to be so traumatic for us (at times). This couldn't possibly have been what Christ had in mind for true Christianity.

Thank you all for your replies, I appreciate them very much.

Love and Respect, Kelley

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Don't want to stumble anyone!

by Beck_Melbourne in

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did you have narrow minded turds as elders/overseers in your congregation?

yup so did i...they're everwhere.. "there was this one time..at band camp"....it was in a hired hall actually...where we used to organise congregation functions like farewells etc.

this usually consisted of food...non alcoholic beverages...and some entertainment...usually square dancing and some skits...and a presentation or speech.. at one function a particular elder was offended that the 'gay gordon' was one of the dances for the evening...so he promptly left...yup...at the next function it was renamed the 'happy gordon'...as his conscience wouldn't allow him to attend otherwise.

kheli

Apparently, I had one earring too many for a certain sister I ran into while I was out in streetwork. She commented on how surprised she was that the elders hadn't talked to me about it yet.

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Whats your cultural background ?

by Beans in

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i am 50% german.

25% italian.

12.5% scottish.

kheli

I'm African-American.

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Whats the dumbest thing you were counselled for?

by Beck_Melbourne in

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i was once counselled by the elders for watching 'knots landing'....it became widely known in the congregation that me and a few other sisters would rush home from field service to watch our favourite soapie.

if we missed it, we would ring each other up for an update...or...if we weren't near a tv we would ask someone to put the phone handset on the top of their tv so we could hear it...pathetic huh...but that was all the excitement we could scrounge up in our otherwise dull and uneventful lives.

one of the elder's wive's conscience got the better of her...and she confessed to her husband..lol.

kheli

I got counseled for studying the WT with a "mature" christian for spiritual encouragement because I was already baptized. So much for being "counscious of your spiritual need".

Another time I was counseled for turning in a regular pioneer application because in the previous month(s) I didn't get "enough" hours. So I was turned down, and consequently stopped going out in service alltogether.

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A Young Girl Lives, Thanks to Ceasar

by messenger in

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http://www.thestar.com/nasapp/cs/contentserver?pagename=thestar/layout/article_type1&c=article&cid=1014203908594&call_page=ts_world&call_pageid=968332188854&call_pagepath=news/world.

feb. 20, 06:06 edt .

court denies teen's religious objection to transfusion .

kheli

My hat goes off to Ceasar for extending this young lady's life.

I hope her father will help her not feel guilty for having the transfusion (because we all know the org is good at promoting fear and guilt).

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Forgotten/Unforgotten Friends

by kheli in

since i am recently out of the "truth", i still find that i have a couple of people that i really miss.

i have managed to get past the stage of obsessing about whether or not certain people still think/care about me.. but, every now and then i wonder about my (ex)best friend.

she was like a sister to me.

kheli

Beck,

Thanks for the different perspective. I do need to respect her decision to be a "good" JW.

Just a side point:
When I got DF'd, I was leaving because I was burned out on the lack of love in the congregation, the rules, the guilt and the idea that divorce is always a bad thing (unless adultery is a factor). So really, to walk away from the org was relatively easy, I ONLY felt bad about leaving my best girlfriend. Everyone else were just "substitutes".

I even thought, at one point, that I'd go back. But after having my eyes opened to the real truth, I KNOW I will not return. She promised that she'd be "waiting" for me when I got reinstated. So much for that reunion.

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Forgotten/Unforgotten Friends

by kheli in

since i am recently out of the "truth", i still find that i have a couple of people that i really miss.

i have managed to get past the stage of obsessing about whether or not certain people still think/care about me.. but, every now and then i wonder about my (ex)best friend.

she was like a sister to me.

kheli

Kep:

Thanks for your reply. I hope there's hope for me and my friend. I'm still debating contacting her. Now may not be the best time anyway, I'm having a baby now and if any of the JW's got wind of it, all the rumors would resurface.

As for the loan, She has been very responsible in keeping up on it. Resently, she wanted to get a different vehicle in her own name, but due to some financial wreckage that my ex-husband got us into, her credit got messed up too. I offered to do a little intervention with the credit bureau and the bank, but she has never responded to me on it. I feel so bad that I can't make things right on that matter.

She's probably bitter about that too.