For all the lurkers and also for Mankelli: Your life and mental health will improve after you leave Jehovah's Witnesses. And if you go smart about it, you don't have to lose your friends and/or family.
I can tell you that, because I am living this myself. And so is my wife.
My extended family are almost all JW, and most of them are long-time, well respected in the Organization and the male members are Elders, ministerial servants, some bethelites and ex-bethelites and some were and others are still pioneering. They all together could keep easily a team of psychiaters occupied for as long as they will live. The constant pressure they are living is not just driving them into depression, it is causing serious physical health problems too. At least 3 of them were on the brink of starvation because the emotional strain drastically reduced the functioning of the liver and the intestines. Quite a few are running from one practioner to the next, and that for many years.
I have found this confirmed and repeated over and over again in all the congregations that I have visited.
Even I was draining myself in the service of the Org, depraving myself of sleep, balancing between preparing for meeting parts, attending to the sorrows of the pubs in the congo who weren't helped by the elders, service and secular work.
If I had rough times when I decided to leave, than it was caused by discovering how much I was lied to. That nothing what they claim to be promised or taught in the bible that makes JW unique, is true. It is the deep disappointment in the organisation that hurt me the hardest.
And I discovered that the majority of the people living outside the Jehovah's Witnesses also have high standards. And that you will not be their friends unless you live up to them. And that their friendship is not necessarily connected with membership of an organisation, but because they appreciate what you really are.
To please friends and family we still attend the odd meeting from time to time. Lately they turn out be so boring, so full of unfounded nonsense, that it is an encouragement to stay away. (the bookstudy this week was excellent, so much conclusions drawn about Paul and Barnabas without as much as a millimeter of biblical support, it really has become a sad show). Once you have woken up, and you can see through it all, it is so sad that such good people let themselves fooled by it for so long.
If you are in the possibility, put an exit-program in place to make yourself slowly free from this evil organisation. Give up any position you might hold, drop your service reports, reduce your meeting attendance. And start doing real research about the bible and how the witnesses misuse it. It is the best thing you can do in your life.
Thanks for Makelli for starting this thread, I am just afraid he or she won't see that (s)he is believing in fairy tales.
And with all respect for No Room for George and the difficulties in his life, if you skip through his threads, you will find many reasons it is better outside the org than inside.
It feels so good to be out
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