The JWs wrecked my family and my childhood. I'm just gratified that I went on to a fulfilling, happy life with many "true" friends and relatives. Don't look back, there's nothing there. Your life has meaning, love and beauty if you imbue it with those things.
imasheilatoo
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5 years inactive and still sometimes I'm haunted.
by ctrwtf ini've lately been thinking about the pernicious nature of the belief by the jw's that they are the one and only true religion.
how this belief allows for an egotistical world view and allows them to shun and denegrate those that do not share their opinions.. please pardon my round about thinking process as i've been mulling this rant for some time.
while my father's side of the family has been entrenched with the jw's for two generations before him, my mother was a new convert.
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Do you think it's rude or disrespectful to be in the bathroom for any reason while the brother is praying?
by toto555 ini had a publisher tell me this recently that she felt that it showed disrespectful to the brother up there giving the prayer, like you're ignoring him or something.
what do you think?
and if so, any bible scripture or watchtower or awake backing this idea up specifically?.
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imasheilatoo
If you gotta go, you gotta go. The alternative is worse.
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I can't remember the 'Most Important Date of My Life!' Can you?
by Diest ini honestly cant remember the exact date when i was baptized.
it does not bother me one bit.
i didnt have it stamped in that shitty reasoning book/babel that i got at the time, so i guess the only place i could find it would be my cards, which are far away..
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imasheilatoo
I was 11, that's all I remember. The most important date of my life was the day my son was born.
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imasheilatoo
I meant to say also that I am completely against the "Personhood" movement. Life does not begin at the fertilization of an egg. It has not even implanted yet. It is just a collection of cells. By the personhood reasoning even the removal of a wart would be murder.
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imasheilatoo
I am comfortable with abortion only up until the first two to three months. And unless there is a case of health of the mother in jeopardy, or a case of the fetus not being viable, I don't see why any woman should not be able to make up her mind in that time period. The more advanced medical science has gotten, the more we know about the existence in utero of the fetus and the earlier we have been able to save babies born very prematurely. This has made me much more wary of later term abortions. However, making abortions illegal will not solve anything, and will only result in more deaths of women from getting illegal abortions. Women have been aborting their babies for thousands of years with or without help, and they are not going to stop just because it's illegal. If we truly want to stop abortions, then we must be in favor of and fight for free contraception, sex education in schools, equal pay for women, and social support for families. These are the programs that will cut down on unwanted pregnancies and/or support an unexpected addition to the family. We cannot be against these programs and also against abortion, it makes no sense. Every abortion is a tragedy in some way, but I would rather an early term abortion than an unwanted child.
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When You See A Witness What's Your First Reaction?
by minimus ini saw a few mindlessly working a neighborhood as i was driving the other day.
they looked so unhappy, just walking in baby steps, looking like zombies..
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imasheilatoo
I feel sorry for them. They don't look unhappy to me, but they are so utterly clueless, and wasting their lives. And I remember the times that I was doing exactly what I see them doing, and I WAS unhappy. I'm so glad to have a life now, and to have been able to fulfill myself in whatever ways I could after a wasted childhood and young adulthood.
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If You Never Were A Witness Do You Think You Would've Had A Vastly Different Life?
by minimus inwould you have gone to college?.
would you have gone to jail?.
would you have been wealthy?.
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imasheilatoo
Just to follow up on the post above, my own mother said in my presence when advising a young "sister" in her congregation that being a mother was nice, but you might not like how your kids turn out. That was a reference to me, not being a JW anymore. Shows where her priorities are -- JWs first, children somewhere after that. I'm so happy, so pleased and gratified, to be a better parent than she is. Being free of the JWs means my son comes first, and that's how it should be.
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If You Never Were A Witness Do You Think You Would've Had A Vastly Different Life?
by minimus inwould you have gone to college?.
would you have gone to jail?.
would you have been wealthy?.
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imasheilatoo
Found Sheep: In some ways, waiting that long was good for me and for my son. I am a better mother for having been older, wiser, and more ready to devote my life to a child instead of selfish interests. I also appreciated it more than I ever could have if it had come easier. But if I had started younger, I could have had more. Never mind, I am so blessed for having a child. I wish you the best on your quest to become a mom. There is nothing more difficult, nor anything more joyful and rewarding, than being a parent. All the best to you.
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If You Never Were A Witness Do You Think You Would've Had A Vastly Different Life?
by minimus inwould you have gone to college?.
would you have gone to jail?.
would you have been wealthy?.
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imasheilatoo
I would have graduated college at the age of 22, instead of 39. I would have chosen a career instead of getting stuck in a job that I picked because I was supposed to dedicate my life to preaching. It would have been a fulfilling career, like medicine or social action. I would have married a man because he was the right partner for me, not because he was a Witness. I would have had more children, instead of the one I finally managed when I was 42 years old. Yeah, life would have been vastly different. I missed my whole childhood and I had to learn how to live when I was an adult. But you know what, I'm lucky, because I made a go of it in spite of the JWs and I'm here and I'm happy.
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Are you sure leaving is a wise decision ?- Lurkers think twice- Part 2
by mankkeli inin the previous thread of this series, i called lurkers attention to the need of being discreet when contemplating an exit from the jw religion.
i mentioned that the thread was borne as a result of the general observations i made reading old posts here and discussing with many ex-jws and their lives have gradually turned out.
that thread alone was visited more than 2,980 times and graced with 204 contributions.
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imasheilatoo
If life is hard on the outside it's only because we were never taught to live on the outside. We had nannies that told us what and how to do everything, including how to think. So we enter the outside as emotional and mental babies. It takes a while to grow up out there, and there will be plenty of mistakes. But the risk is worth it, to live life free and with meaning. No matter what the JWs want you to believe, their way is not freedom and it has no real meaning. If you're thinking of leaving, get support before you go. Make sure you have someone to talk to, and a network of friends. There is so much more out there than the JWs want you to believe.