Posts by headisspinning

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Canadian Newspaper Willing to Cover Watchtower Child Abuse Issue

by headisspinning in

i have been in touch with a canadian reporter for a major newspaper.

she is interested in covering the candace conti story but needs to make it relevant to canadians.

so, she has asked if there is a canadian victim of child abuse who would be willing to speak with her.

headisspinning

You guys rock! It was a nice suprise to wake up this morning to all of your messages.

Thank you to those who have provided leads, contacted the reporter and offered your support!

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Canadian Newspaper Willing to Cover Watchtower Child Abuse Issue

by headisspinning in

i have been in touch with a canadian reporter for a major newspaper.

she is interested in covering the candace conti story but needs to make it relevant to canadians.

so, she has asked if there is a canadian victim of child abuse who would be willing to speak with her.

Thank you for all the suggestions. I did try contacting Barbara Anderson on Facebook but no reply yet. I will try on here too. I have also suggested to Wendy Gillis that she try contacting her directly.

I also looked up information on Vicky Boer's case and sent that along as well.

Also, pretty big news is that the Toronto Star reporter had a lengthy, three way telephone interview with both Candace Conti and her lawyer this afternoon!

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Canadian Newspaper Willing to Cover Watchtower Child Abuse Issue

by headisspinning in

i have been in touch with a canadian reporter for a major newspaper.

she is interested in covering the candace conti story but needs to make it relevant to canadians.

so, she has asked if there is a canadian victim of child abuse who would be willing to speak with her.

headisspinning

Here is a message directly from the reporter with her appeal to any Canadian victims. Please contact me or Wendy directly. Thank you very much!

Hey there, I am a reporter with the Toronto Star in Canada. I am hoping to write an article about the Canadian implications of the Candace Conti ruling this month. I am looking for a Canadian current or former JW who is open to speaking about sexual abuse in their life. I know it's an incredibly difficult topic and would be very respectful of that. But I do need someone who can illustrate the problem in Canada by telling their story. Please be in touch if you think you can help. You can message me on Facebook or email me at [email protected] All the best, Wendy

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Canadian Newspaper Willing to Cover Watchtower Child Abuse Issue

by headisspinning in

i have been in touch with a canadian reporter for a major newspaper.

she is interested in covering the candace conti story but needs to make it relevant to canadians.

so, she has asked if there is a canadian victim of child abuse who would be willing to speak with her.

headisspinning

We need your help! I have been in touch with a Canadian reporter for a major newspaper. she is interested in covering the Candace Conti story but needs to make it relevant to Canadians. So, she has asked if there is a Canadian victim of child abuse who would be willing to speak with her. The person would not necessarily need to reveal their last name. She just needs the story.

Is there anyone out there who is willing to help?

Please let me know asap.

Thank you very much!

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Watchtower's April 9 BOE Confidentiality Letter - Child Abuse - Did Jane Doe lawsuit play a major part?

by SweetBabyCheezits in

i'd bet my left.... pinky toe that the wt's monster 4/9 confidentiality letter was put out as a direct result of the jane doe/candace vs wt case as they were preparing to go to trial.

there had already been a year of legal proceedings - surely the wt knew the shit was about to hit the fan.. thanks goes to atlantis for posting the boe letters originally as pdfs.

the person that a restraining order is a personal legal matter that does not involve the congregation.. thereafter, the elders should call the legal department immediately for direction..

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Here's a question: What is the Watchtower referring to when they say "4. Direction on handling child abuse matters can be found in separate correspondence."?? Does anyone have the separate correspondence?

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Help! I'm having serious thoughts about going back

by lola28 in

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friends

hello old friends, i've been thinking about going back and need you all to give me your thoughts on it.. the last year has been a horribe one for me, in the span of less than a year the following things have happened to me:.

lost my mom to cancergot hit by a carhad a professional set back that will cost over 600k to resolveended a three and a half year relationshipit just feels like every time i think things are going to get better something else hits me and knocks me down, a small part of me wonders wether i brought all these things on myself because i left the organization (yes i know how silly that sounds) and i have given serious thought about going back.

i need you guys to talk me out of it!.

headisspinning

Hi Lola

What a terrible ordeal you've been through... and I'm very sorry to hear about your poor mom. That's very sad.

You need to make the right decision for you. Nobody can tell you what that decision is. All we can do is share our own personal experiences and opinions on the matter.

For me personally, leaving the religion has been very difficult. Sometimes, I miss feeling all safe and secure thinking we knew the 'Truth' and we were going to live forever and too bad for everyone else who wouldn't listen. Now, after leaving the religion, I am left with a void. A void that is going to take a lot of healing and learning and growing to fill. But I would rather be uncertain about life, the future, God and everything else than to live a lie.

I am free now. Free to choose. Free to live. Free to decide and to find my way. Yes, there are big challenges along the way and I miss the idea of 'all the loving brothers and sisters' and the sense of community. BUT... I learned the hard way that all of that was merely a facade and in my darkest hour, I was alone.

But guess what I found out? The one person I needed to pay attention to ALL this time... she was with me every step of the way, if I just stopped to notice her.. that girl was me.

:) All the best.

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Love You Guys - Thank You - You Saved Us

by headisspinning in

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friends

hello to all my jwn friends.. it has been a long while since i posted but it's only because all of you helped us so much.

i recently directed a facebook friend to my very first post on jwn - high profile case seeking reinstatement - i cannot believe how far we have come and i attribute much of it to the help and support we received from all of you on this website.. we are really not hiding our ex-jw status anymore at all.

i think we have many of you on our facebook as friends at this point.

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To JWDaughter...

Yes, our little 'darling' is a force to be dealt with let me tell you! He is 22 months old now and out of the five kids, neither of us have ever had to deal with such a scamp. Or maybe it's our old age? LOL! Or the lack of God's spirit on our household... JOKING!

In answer to your question about our current views on the WTO... We believe that there are many sincere people in the organization who truly believe they are doing 'Jehovah's will' so the individual people are not the ones we have an issue with. Even the elders that have hurt us and our families... they are are terribly misguided and brainwashed and controlled so we cut them some slack at the end of the day.

The leaders of the WTO are another story... we believe they are terribly corrupt and that the WT is nothing more than a cult. A very dangerous, destructive, high control CULT. At this point in time, I can't cut the ones at the top any slack whatsoever. They know full well what they're doing and this is nothing more than a big business to them. $$$$$$$

At this point in our journey, neither of us are sure of what we believe, but that's okay. We would both prefer to live our lives not knowing until the day we die rather than be a part of a big fat lie. My husband has strong leanings towards being an athiest... I guess I'm agnostic right now. But I really, really want to believe in God or something along those lines. Nature is what gets to me most and so I am doing a lot of contemplating and pondering.

We still have struggles in regard to the older children. My husband's kids are still fully brainwashed and refuse to see him unless he goes back to the religion. He gets one phone call a week and it is very limited what he is 'allowed' to talk about. My oldest son is still firm about not ever being a JW, but he still attends the meetings as this is a requirement of living in his father's home. My daughter is still pretty into the religion although she and her brother both watched the Sparlock video and both were aghast!

My current Facebook picture is Sparlock and I'm actually thinking about being one of the first to get a Sparlock tattoo. I'm just working on the concept because I don't want it to be too cutesy. I think the Watchtower has dumped pure gold into our collective laps - you couldn't hire someone to create a better brand for the ex-JW community. I think this is having a very uniting effect and is inspiring a lot of people. Sparlock Rocks!!

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Love You Guys - Thank You - You Saved Us

by headisspinning in

jw
friends

hello to all my jwn friends.. it has been a long while since i posted but it's only because all of you helped us so much.

i recently directed a facebook friend to my very first post on jwn - high profile case seeking reinstatement - i cannot believe how far we have come and i attribute much of it to the help and support we received from all of you on this website.. we are really not hiding our ex-jw status anymore at all.

i think we have many of you on our facebook as friends at this point.

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Hugs to all of you.

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I've never seen JWD/JWN so obsessed re. Sparlock

by UnConfused in

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did the generation change or the child abuse revelation spawn this many threads?.

headisspinning

It's because the WT had inadvertently created a brand and dumped it into our collective laps! This is pure gold. Money can't buy something this rich. NOW we finally have something to show people. Something that the average person can look at as say: What the heck is going on here? Duh! Cult!

I've shown the video to a cross-section of non-JWs and they all react the same as we do. You don't use fear and guilt to control and manipulate little children. That's the bottom line.

I am seriously considering getting a Sparlock tattoo. I have three tattoos right now and they all have deep meaning. For me, a Sparlock tattoo stands for the loss of what should have been a relatively carefree childhood. The loss of my teen years. My twenties and the early part of my thirties. And for what?

Sparlock is a silly plastic toy.

BUT... Jehovah hates magic. So he hates Sparlock. And if I like Sparlock, where does that leave me (asks the 5 year old... asks the 10 year old... asks the 35 year old... )

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Love You Guys - Thank You - You Saved Us

by headisspinning in

jw
friends

hello to all my jwn friends.. it has been a long while since i posted but it's only because all of you helped us so much.

i recently directed a facebook friend to my very first post on jwn - high profile case seeking reinstatement - i cannot believe how far we have come and i attribute much of it to the help and support we received from all of you on this website.. we are really not hiding our ex-jw status anymore at all.

i think we have many of you on our facebook as friends at this point.

headisspinning

Hello to all my JWN friends.

It has been a long while since I posted but it's only because all of you helped us so much. I recently directed a Facebook friend to my very first post on JWN - High Profile Case Seeking Reinstatement - I cannot believe how far we have come and I attribute much of it to the help and support we received from all of you on this website.

We are really not hiding our ex-JW status anymore at all. I think we have many of you on our Facebook as friends at this point. If any of you are on Facebook and would like to add me or my husband please send me a private message. I just don't want to put names on JWN since some of my past postings have been very emotional through this process and I don't want to hurt any family members unintentionally.

So a big thank you!

I think the first 'ex-JW' I ever contacted in the real world was someone who composed music for the current songbook. Many of you know who I mean. His kindness and care meant so much. Also, our dear AndersonInfo (who know who I mean)... I couldn't believe it when she actually responded to my email when we were first looking for help and support out of desperation.

There are so many, many others - I'm not going to name any more names. You know who you are.

Love you guys.

Thank you.

Julia