Unbelieveable. ***My disclaimer...I'm not a JW, never been one*** but I just don't get it. Why do JW's think that leaving the org equates "leaving Jehovah"? What mental gymnastics do they have to do in order to come up with that conclusion?
I'm an only child, so maybe my opinion isn't worth much with these sibling issues...but I think I'd take your wife's advise and skip the whole ordeal. Why play the WT game? Some people (family included) are simply toxic...and I don't care what religion they practice...of course, some "religions" are just more TOXIC than others. If you do not agree with this second class treatment, don't subject yourself to it. Just my .02 cents.