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  ***Update***

  by Searchn4answrs in

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  howdy ya'll....as of earlier this year a judge approved a custody order that allows me to use my better judgment in regards to time sharing with the x.... however, because my children choose sports and academic "endeavors" (as the x refers to it);he chooses to treat them like the enemy and shuns both my 8yr &16 yr old.... while i dont mind that i have them 365 days a yr. its really affecting my lil one.

  we have attempted to call ,email and text .

  however he is totally refusing communication.

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  Thank you for your responses...@ mrsJones5 the organization has no bearing on the legal aspects,however I see him carrying on with his privledges as a Rnk &File... Technically Im still "in". So I have every right to share this bit of info with these clowns.

  I wish they didnt want their father in their lives,but they do. All I can do is be both parents for them. They are both well behaved children...Excellent grades ,and participate succesfully in sports.Im not sure ,why any sain parent would act as if their children were dead??

  And I definitely keep a tight record of all are communications. He was warned ,that if his lack of communication persisted I would be granted Soul and Legal custody. I have total faith in the legal system. Its been really empowering for me. Him and his faith are a joke to the courts. Its actually really embarrasing,as he represents himself.(and he claims jehovah is on his side)

  @DianaNetherton,thank you. I will definately PM you
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  ***Update***

  by Searchn4answrs in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  howdy ya'll....as of earlier this year a judge approved a custody order that allows me to use my better judgment in regards to time sharing with the x.... however, because my children choose sports and academic "endeavors" (as the x refers to it);he chooses to treat them like the enemy and shuns both my 8yr &16 yr old.... while i dont mind that i have them 365 days a yr. its really affecting my lil one.

  we have attempted to call ,email and text .

  however he is totally refusing communication.

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  I had included this update in my last thread.But didnt get much notice....hope this latest thread does.......

  Howdy Ya'll....As of earlier this year a judge approved a custody order that allows me to use my better judgment in regards to time sharing with the X.... However, because my children choose sports and academic "endeavors" (as the X refers to it);he chooses to treat them like the enemy and shuns both my 8yr &16 yr old.... While I dont mind that I have them 365 days a yr. Its really affecting my lil one. We have attempted to call ,email and text . However he is totally refusing communication. He did petition for joint custody and refused to let us leave the state at out last hearing. However his custody request was denied and his visits every other weekend were eliminated. But I was not granted permission to leave the state. Because he refuses any conventional methods of communication; We were both ordered to respond to any emails within 24hrs. He has repeatedly failed to do so. I have countless emails requesting verification of my youngest's drop off arrangements. However there is no response;despite copying an elder in an email,to insure his compliance. My question is how do I go about composing a letter for the congregation to expose his failure to comply and provide (emotionally) for his children???

  PS...I plan to send a copy to the WTS and our local news station...
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  Im trully beside myself..

  by Searchn4answrs in

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  really do appreciate the excellent info shared on the site...this network of such a dubious bunch, has provided much needed therapy .... .

  anyhow,i would like to share my dilemma.... i recently went to court.i petitioned for sole and legal custody and more child support.. i was granted more support,however custody wasnt even reviewed..i prepared extremely well for this hearing.

  actually that was my priority.

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  Howdy Ya'll....As of earlier this year a judge approved a custody order that allows me to use my better judgment in regards to time sharing with the X.... However, because my children choose sports and academic "endeavors" (as the X refers to it);he chooses to treat them like the enemy and shuns both my 8yr &16 yr old.... While I dont mind that I have them 365 days a yr. Its really affecting my lil one. We have attempted to call ,email and text . However he is totally refusing communication. He did petition for joint custody and refused to let us leave the state at out last hearing. However his custody request was denied and his visits every other weekend were eliminated. But I was not granted permission to leave the state. Because he refuses any conventional methods of communication; We were both ordered to respond to any emails within 24hrs. He has repeatedly failed to do so. I have countless emails requesting verification of my youngest's drop off arrangements. However there is no response;despite copying an elder in an email,to insure his compliance. My question is how do I go about composing a letter for the congregation to expose his failure to comply and provide (emotionally) for his children???

  PS...I plan to send a copy to the WTS and our local news station...
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  CO talked out of both sides of his mouth

  by life is to short in

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  today was the last day of the co's visit, my husband stayed home from the meeting and we painted the house together which was good, but he wanted to tie into the meeting, i was ok with it as it allows me to point out the stupid parts of this religion.

  there were many things that made no sense but one that truly stuck out.. in his talk the co went on about how there are so many things satan uses to distract us from jehovah and one of them was fear of our future and how some work all their lives for retirement, many at jobs they hate.

  people do not enjoy the here and now all out of fear for what will happen when they grow old.

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  True story,I have a aunt ,that claims her CO says ,there’s possibilities of traveling to space in the “New System”. She’s totally sold on that idea!.Talk about Nucking Futs!!
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  Stupid rules

  by MrFreeze in

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  there was no end to the amount of stupid rules put in place.

  one that always bugged me was "no shirts with slogans when doing kh yard work or at jw gatherings.

  id always get talked to about it when i'd wear shirts with a band on it or whatnot.

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  No participation of school-related competitive sports..But everyones invited to Bro Lame-ass's house ,for SuperBowl..Everyone wear team colors!!!
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  Anyone wanna place a bet on what will happen to me when I have to go to the Kingdom Hall this Saturday??

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  well since there is no "betting" (as it reeks of gambling) in jdub land, lets place a friendly wager on what will happen to me when i go to my father's "memorial" service at the kingdome hall this saturday..... to give you newbies background info: i am neither df'd or da'd- i left 2 years ago with no explanation.

  i have been hounded by elders in my cong because they have suspicions that i am living with a man, but they have no proof (well, no proof in jdub land- you know...two witness rule).

  after many attempts to get me to meet with them- i finally sent the elders a "cease & desist" letter after one of them spied in my miniblinds to see me eating breakfast with someone (they couldn't identify who).

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  My condolences CHG,

  Id like to say they will respect your greiving ,and allow you ,your space. That be to proper,and not to mention ,Sane!!...(sigh) Good luck with that hot mess! y thoughts are with you...Keep us posted.....
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  JWs always deny the information control

  by AuntBee in

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  an active witness on fb just told me that they are taught to "always question what we are taught" and use not only the wt publications, but any research materials, and come to a conclusion about what they find!

  this is not what i've heard from you guys!

  does she go to some unusual-type kingdom hall, or is she mesing with my mind?.

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  Ironically, most witnesses are eager to prove an informed person wrong. My parent’s argument was; the material I found was written by men…(go figure).So although I have done research, and produced proof, they chose to stay ignorant…
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  Abusive Families Drawn Like Moths to a Flame or Does WTS Help Develop Abusive Attitude?

  by OnTheWayOut in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so many ex-jw's are stepping forward here and other places and relaying information about their upbringing in the jw's being an abusive one.. we have the two types of abuse- physical and sexual.

  i thought i would give a chance to everyone to ponder on what's up with the high levels within watchtower congregations.

  i know the subject has been covered before, but some fresh voices and some new readers might want to know that they are not the freak, not the problem in their family, not alone, able to relate to others.. as far as physical abuse goes, i consider the attitude of wts that is passed on- beat the littlest of children in order to keep them quiet during meetings.

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  It attracts such low functioning people. Typically, in the real world a man of high position would need to be educated, to some degree. However, in this organization uneducated, ignorant, impoverished men hold positions of power. They can easily become abusive. I’m certain their clueless, on family dynamics, diversity and basic child development…
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  Im trully beside myself..

  by Searchn4answrs in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  really do appreciate the excellent info shared on the site...this network of such a dubious bunch, has provided much needed therapy .... .

  anyhow,i would like to share my dilemma.... i recently went to court.i petitioned for sole and legal custody and more child support.. i was granted more support,however custody wasnt even reviewed..i prepared extremely well for this hearing.

  actually that was my priority.

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  I do have a Child Custody Packet,thank you....My attorney and I are prepared. Hoping for the best.
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  Im trully beside myself..

  by Searchn4answrs in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  really do appreciate the excellent info shared on the site...this network of such a dubious bunch, has provided much needed therapy .... .

  anyhow,i would like to share my dilemma.... i recently went to court.i petitioned for sole and legal custody and more child support.. i was granted more support,however custody wasnt even reviewed..i prepared extremely well for this hearing.

  actually that was my priority.

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  Not sure if I should start another thread for this question...Is it common to have watchtower lawyers represent a parent in a custody case???