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  "Field Service Groups" are more important now than ever before?

  by easyreader1970 in

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  the scare bells are ringing again in the congregations.

  this past week, the field service group leader/commander/overlord/whatever made a pretty lengthy announcement that, going forward, the field service groups are going to be of the utmost importance as we wind down towards the end here.

  while no indication on when this end might actually be, it was hinted that we might not always have access to the congregation proper and that the few families that are part of the fsg would have to become close knit that they might depend on one another when things get ugly.. i haven't read everything that has passed through the wbts' sphincter lately, but did i miss something?

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  whathappened

  This post and comments have given me some good belly laughs which was good for me todayl. Thanks.
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  How do you view the people you left behind?

  by sabastious in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i had a lot of anger towards them for a good amount of time.

  but now, i like to think about the good times we had.

  i like to think about their attributes i admired.

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  whathappened

  They are just like I was, before I new the real "truth." I feel sorry for some of them. I wish I could help them get out before they waste any more time and energy serving an organization while believing they are serving God. The are deceived. Remember how Jesus felt sorry for the crowd because they were like sheep without a shepard? He was angry at the scribes and pharasies, not the people. That is the way I feel. There are some dear, sweet, sincere people in the congregation, but they belived God will destroy them if they leave and never return to the Kingdom Hall. False hope of salvation keeps them in. So sad, such a sad situation.
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  Don't know how to leave: FADE or DA letter?

  by porfiada in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  hi folks.

  i wondered if any of you ex elders can help me to figure out what my status is and therefore how to log out from the borg.

  i was baptized at 15, faded at 18. never heard anything from the elders after their first visit, which wasn't about a big deal and had no conclusion.

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  whathappened

  I like the idea that they have no authority over me. I don't have to play by Watchtower rules anymore. I will not meet with the elders nor write a letter. Why should I give them the time of day. They can do their own research and find out what BS they are going along with. I just took the excellent suggestion to destroy my blood card. That's the last thing I want is the Hospital Liason coming to visit me when I don't feel good in the hospital. Excellent suggestions.
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  Did you Fade Gradually or Stop Attending Meetings Quickly ? Reasons ?

  by flipper in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  been thinking about this and curious about what makes us all come to the decisions we came to in our fade/exiting the jw organization.. i think for myself having been born-in & raised a jw my doubts about the generation doctrine had simmered for years within me quietly and by the time i finally left in 2003 i had reached my breaking point.

  also seeing unjust treatment of rank & file witness ( myself included ) just propelled me into my decision even quicker.

  so - one day after meeting with 3 elders in a back room before a meeting and seeing their judgmental aggression towards me - i just told myself " enough is enough ".

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  whathappened

  I have quit cold turkey. My last meeting was about 6 wks ago. I will never step foot in a KH again, maybe not even for a family members funeral. I cannot pretend to tolerate the bs anymore. I have thrown all my literature in the dumpster. I have only a couple of bibles and an old Paradise book, just for sentimental reasons. Threw out my return visit book too. Those folks are off the hook. 2 elders have called to check on me on the phone. I was perky and told them nothing is wrong. I am going to play this by ear, but am a pretty good actress, and may fake a stumbling or something similar.
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  I told my daughter I was leaving "the truth" this weekend.

  by whathappened in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  last week, i told you i was going to tell my daughter that i was leaving the truth this weekend and you all gave me sound advice.

  but, i cannot keep a secret this heavy from the person i love most on this earth, my only daughter, who is beautiful inside and out.. well, i have always had an open and honest relationship with my daughter, and i guess it paid off.

  this weekend i visited my daughter (who lives in another state) and i told her i was leaving "the truth.

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  whathappened

  I am laying low. I haven't had any phone calls, letters, emails or anything, but that's not unusual. My daughter has a job and a 2 1/2 year old toddler son. Her husband is a handful himself. I am not going to push her. I very much doubt she will go to the elders because she is very private and I live in another state. Keeping up hope. Will let you all know when I hear anything from her.
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  New Board members within the last 1 year.....

  by stuckinamovement in

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  2. friends

  i can't believe the amount of new posters this board is getting.

  it seems as if every day there are at least 2 to 3.. if you are a new poster, what made you decide to stop lurking and start posting?

  how many of us are there that have joined in the last year?.

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  whathappened

  My sister, GrandmaJones advised me to join so I could get rid of any lingering doubts I had about leaving. Joining has convinced me the JW's are a cult and do not even practice what they preach. I joined after about 1 week of looking around. I was scared that I would be caught and turned in and df'd. So far, the coast is clear. I am enjoying this site almost daily. Would rather surf this site than watch tv.
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  My Marriage Ending...Or Other Options

  by doinmypart in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i don't usually post regarding my personal relationship, but i need some help.. i've been married for 20+ years (married young, both of us raised as witnesses), and my wife and i have kids.

  my wife feels like i've disappointed her, made a fool of her, and betrayed her when i stopped being a witness.

  other than the witness-thing we seem to have a pretty good marriage, but she can't get over the fact that i'm never going to be a witness again.

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  whathappened

  It sounds to me as though your Mrs. is into appearances and social structure. She doesn't want to go to the meetings alone or face "the friends" who will feel sorry for her because you left. She probably married you thinking you would help keep her in the faith and now feels betrayed. She probably wont leave you. Wait this out. Be patient with her, firm but loving. Tell her you are willing to stay with her when she has different beliefs than you, why can she not do the same for you. There are not many marriageable men in the congregation to choose from. She will not be free to remarry. She needs to think this through. She is best to stay put with a man who loves her and wants her that to go it alone. I speak as a woman who has been alone for 13 years, waiting for a husband in the faith. I'm done and am looking elsewhere.
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  Hello to everyone from Totally ADD

  by TotallyADD in

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  sorry new at this after all i have add.

  been lurking for 3 years.

  my better half sign up with you back in may of last year.

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  whathappened

  Welcome TottalyADD. You mentioned your fade going well. Any advice. My sister and I are trying it. Tonight, an elder called me and asked how I was and I told him I was just tired. Havent been in over a month. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks.
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  I told my daughter I was leaving "the truth" this weekend.

  by whathappened in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  last week, i told you i was going to tell my daughter that i was leaving the truth this weekend and you all gave me sound advice.

  but, i cannot keep a secret this heavy from the person i love most on this earth, my only daughter, who is beautiful inside and out.. well, i have always had an open and honest relationship with my daughter, and i guess it paid off.

  this weekend i visited my daughter (who lives in another state) and i told her i was leaving "the truth.

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  whathappened

  Luckily, my son in law is not a servant. He has been told he needs to consistantly get 10 hours a month in field service and he can't quite make it. They wont even let him handle the microphones!

  I am going to play this by ear for now and not push anything. I have read Crisis of Conscience but I fear it would be too overwhelming for her. When my sister, GrandmaJones first told me she was leaving, I tried to "save" her because I love her. I wrote her a letter, too. I suspect, my daughter will try to do the same, which will give me the opportunity to introduce more information to her, as my sister did to me. That's the reason I'm here today.

  Thanks to everyone for the support you have given me.
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  I told my daughter I was leaving "the truth" this weekend.

  by whathappened in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  last week, i told you i was going to tell my daughter that i was leaving the truth this weekend and you all gave me sound advice.

  but, i cannot keep a secret this heavy from the person i love most on this earth, my only daughter, who is beautiful inside and out.. well, i have always had an open and honest relationship with my daughter, and i guess it paid off.

  this weekend i visited my daughter (who lives in another state) and i told her i was leaving "the truth.

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  whathappened

  I could not have realistically expected a better response. I would have been shocked if she would have totally caved in and said "oh my god, you are right, I'm outta here too. " That's too much to ask. The facts were presented to her in a truthful, emotional, loving and intimate way. I was pretty sure she wasn't going to shun me, but, there is still her husband. Her husband is the type who goes and mows the KH lawn when it's 105 out, and goes to chip the ice off the parking lot so that they can have meetings after ice storms. He also, on the other hand, will see Harry Potter movies, the Twilight movies, and plays violent video games. I don't know how she is going to tell him or what he will say. The drama is not over yet. Worst case scenerio is, I go visit with her and the grandchild on a Saturday in a public place and don't go to the house at all. I will let you all know what she says in the letter and what his reaction is.