AlmightyDog,
Welcome to the board, I am also new to this forum, and am still an active member, though a Ministerial Servant, not an Elder. My wife doesn't "freak out" when I express contrary ideas about WTBS doctrine to her, but she clearly doesn't want to talk about it either...same ol' "trust the organization" garbage.
Like you, what petrifies me the most is raising my children to be Jehovah's Witnesses as well. I can't imagine willfully trapping them into the same predicament I am in currently. I would say that this is the main reason I began to really do some soul searching on my beliefs. I don't have kids currently, but my wife is pregnant with our first. I have never prayed more or read the Bible more than I currently am. This has only lead me further away from Jehovah's Witnesses emotionally and spiritually. How could that be if they are God's true organization?
Be careful with your wife. Making an adversary out of her will probably not help her follow you out of "The Truth" if that is your long-term plan.
Giordano's suggestion of reading The Bible with your family is the best thing you could do. There is no way she'll be able to argue with the sensibility of the Scriptures when considered in context. The Watchtower magazines are only designed to expound on and defend a particular belief system, using the Bible to support that, rather than the other way around. They will not help you one iota.
If you discuss the passages as you read them, and share with her what you feel they mean, she'll be able to see the difference between what is actually written, and what The Watchtower says is there. You won't have to point it out everytime.
I wish all the best to you and your family. Take things with a grain of salt that are said on this forum (in case someone offends your sense of loyalty), and keep your nose in your Bible.
-dpl