At times during the grieving process, we mourn the loss of the person for what they were, but also for the person for what they were not. You find yourself grieving the relationship which was never what you wanted it to be, and you're grieving the loss of hope that it might have gotten better. Whichever way your memory goes,..embrace the person fully in their humanity...the good, the bad, and the ugly. I am so sorry for your loss and am sending heart healing thoughts across the miles....
Babyruth
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Since my Elder dad died...
by aquagirl inive been sad.i miss him alot.but i must say,it is very nice to not be hearing all of the "doom and gloom" all of the time.the "we will all be in paradise except you,and even tho i wont be supposed to,ill still miss you" speech.
{still chokes me up a bit}.hell,yeah,i miss my dad,and feel like i was robbed of many years of a good life with him by the jw's and their petty doctrines and spys.i still have my mum,and she goes to the meetings occasionally,but she knows the deal.my dad was just too damaged from his time in aushweitz to really ever be happy of free.poor soul.i hope he has found some solace and peace at last.dad,i still love you,even tho you made my life hell with the jw thing,i know you were doinf it cause you really did believe it...but its nice to be away from it.i hope he is at peace at last......
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To Dissassociate or just Fade into Inactivity ? Your Choice ? Reasons ?
by flipper inthis has been asked before, however i thought it may be good for newer members of the board to read some of our reasons on how we decided to exit the jw cult and why we decided to do it the way we did.. first off - i have been faded for almost 8 years.
essentially i decided to fade into inactivity and not da because i have elderly jw parents who would shun me if i did get dfed or daed myself.
also- i like keeping open the possibilities that some of my many jw relatives may in time start doubting and have questions and reach out to me in my inactive state.
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My hubby and I have been fading for the past 11yrs. We chose to do it this way out of respect for our elderly parents. We never speak out against their faith, yet kindly listen when they want to talk.
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I have shingles
by coffee_black ini was officially diagnosed today.
started out a little over a week ago with pain in my back, and a week ago the rash appeared.
according to the dr, it seems i have been through the worst, and should clear in a week or so.
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Well, the kitchen is foreign territory for him.
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I have shingles
by coffee_black ini was officially diagnosed today.
started out a little over a week ago with pain in my back, and a week ago the rash appeared.
according to the dr, it seems i have been through the worst, and should clear in a week or so.
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I am in my 9th week of Shingles. The nerve pain is just now getting tolerable. I can't remember the month of June at all as I was in a 'pain brain haze'. I wouldn't wish this on my worse enemy and I can think of a few who would qualify. I'll tell ya how bad I was: my husband has lost 20lbs!.....
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The Generation(s) That Wasted Their Lives
by undercover ingrowing up as a jw, you see the world differently than most everyone else.
you see the world as something that is going to end very soon.
all that we know will be gone by the time we're adults.. when we were young, we were living in the last days and were expecting armageddon before we grew old.
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When my brother threw a baseball and broke our kitchen window my Dad seriously pondered weather he should replace it, because after all "the end is so near". The year was 1959
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Reaching the Goal of Baptism ... old enough?
by wannabefree inthe watchtower november 15, 2010, young ones - what will you do with your life?.
page 14, paragraph 12.
... you should get baptized when you are fully aware of what being one of jehovah's witnesses involves and when you are sure that you are ready and willing to take on this responsibility.
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So now, the bros. are putting on the pressure for her to get babtised. She came home this week and told her Dad that she has made arrangements with the brothers to go over babtism questions. He reminded her of his household rule: No babtism till 18yrs. by then she will we an adult and will have the maturity of an adult to make this important decision. wellllll it doesn't help when the mom is sabatoging this rule by pushing for her to get babtised. Poor guy, now he is getting the ' silent treatment' from both wife and daughter. But he says he's willing to be the 'bad guy' on this issue and will stand firm NO BABTISM TILL YOUR 18 !!
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Closing a number of Branches is an EXCITING Development???
by Rank&FileGuy inthis is an exerpt from the aug. 15, 2011 wt p.18:.
why is down-sizing an "exciting development"?
amazing how they spin it..
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I had a talk with a Bro. who was very excited about the closing of the local Branch here and those around the world. I asked him what was so exciting about these developments. He told me that he 'thinks' that these closings free up the Bethal workers to join with the local congs. in a increased witnessing work the likes never seen before. He talked about the march around the walls of Jericho for 6 days, well we are now engaging in the 7th day march for 7 times...and then destruction of this system like it happened to the walls of Jericho crumbling. I don't know where he got his info, unless it was 'water cooler talk'
Now some 7 months later I see him and inquire about how things are going. Well... his previous excitement is gone. He is bemoaning about how hard it has been on the local congregations who have taken in these bethal workers. These people had no where to go and not means to provide for themselves. These Brothers have actually become a burden to the congregations instead of a blessing.
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Closing a number of Branches is an EXCITING Development???
by Rank&FileGuy inthis is an exerpt from the aug. 15, 2011 wt p.18:.
why is down-sizing an "exciting development"?
amazing how they spin it..
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Closing a number of Branches is an EXCITING Development???
by Rank&FileGuy inthis is an exerpt from the aug. 15, 2011 wt p.18:.
why is down-sizing an "exciting development"?
amazing how they spin it..
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Babyruth
Ooops! I still think it is a great quote no matter who said it.