50 wasted bloody years.
I guess what I'm asking is, does it sound normal that I hold this resentment and am frustrated that I can't explain to him?
Sounds about like our story (wife & me). Both born-ins. My father even took an early departure from the military (and the pension he would have gotten) because, well, you know.........Armageddon was "right around the corner" and he didn't want to be on the "wrong side". Mom is still in. Which is a good thing for her situation. Her friends are there.
As far as anger/resentment against my parents -- I can't say I have any. They were wanting to give their kids (me) what they felt was the best circumstances for the future. Sure they were misled and misguided, but can you hold them at fault? I was slow to awaken and I live in the age of the internet. They didn't have websites or CoC available at the click of a button. They only had crazyass apostates (Evil Slave, they were called then) marching around at conventions with placards. (You think everyone would have found better ways to help awaken others today.) They did they best they could with what information (or lack of it) available back then. (I do kind of resent whoever gave/sold great-grandpa the Studies in the Scriptures.)
OTOH, my wife's parents bailed after the failed 1975 prophecy. Yet, they supported/encouraged their kids who remained active JWs. Now THAT is pissy! Evidently (WT TM), they saw something long before we ever did. WTF didn't they share all that with their kids who assumed that they just didn't want to live the JW lifestyle (smoking, drinking, etc). Yes, she has some resentment when talking about that.
The greatest revenge is living a happy & successful life!