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  Share Your Tales of Annoying Car Group Advice

  by DarioKehl in

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  ohhhh.... do i ever have loads of these stories!

  i pioneered in the mid-90's (mostly out of guilt and fear and hope to pacify my parents before dropping the "i wanna go to college" bombshell on them, but i digress...) and i gotta tell ya, it was the most frustrating 2 years of my life!

  at that time, there were over 20 of us as many my age recently graduated high school to "join the ranks" (as the co at the time said).

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  I remember on some really hot summer Saturdays beingout in service with a huge family, in their huge van with like 8 people in it and I felt like I am suffocating cause the windows in the van would barley crack open. The pioneer mom of the family would tell me to "imagine" I was cool and then I would feel better.

  I was probably 11 or 12 at the most when a wife of an elder went to my mom after service and told my mom she did not like how I was so "flirty" with her husband. I was so crushed and embarrassed when my mom told me to not be so "touchy" - I felt I had the plague.
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  Why I Eventually Left

  by itscrap&theyknowit! in

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  i am new to this but, for years, i was already out.

  don't know where to start.

  as i have read the many posting, i'm not alone in my feelings.

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  FirstLastName

  Welcome !

  JW's are all about appearences !I grew up in an elder family and we were always out in service, always early to the meetings, always had to have three answers ready for the Watchtower study and were on stage as toddlers.

  The reality was my parents barley talked, I had raging anxiety and thankfully my mom did not work, cause being a JW mom is two jobs in one !

  You will enjoy this board - there are so many good stories to share. Good for you for getting out !
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  Your most memorable Kingdom Hall meeting disruptions!

  by easyreader1970 in

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  i remember about twenty years ago some teenagers were caught fornicating in one of the additional schools.

  the schools were downstairs, essentially separated from the rest of the kh.

  they weren't just happened upon, though.

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  I recall one meeting were a elder was giving a talk. He was acting very strange and was sluring his words. After he sat down the meeting continued.

  There happened to be a DF'd young man in the audience that was an EMT. He went over to the elder who had been sluring his talk and then after a brief chat ran out of the hall. The DF'd man called 911 cause the elder was having a stroke, and because he was an EMT, he reconized the signs.

  An abmulance was called and they came in and layed him on the gurney and wheeled him out.

  The super strange thing is that - the meeting continued while all this was happening! The elder on the stage kept talking and the stunned people in the audience were watching what happening. I am sure that everyone felt weird - as I did - cause of everything that was going on around us. But the brother on stage just refused to stop. We were probably being lead in song while the guy was wheeled out.

  I think a brief pause was in order....but what did I know - I was a lowley sister.

  I also recall a funny episode when the bookstudy was at my house when I was growing up. A newly interesting person was visiting and started speaking in tongues and my dad who was the bookstudy conductor had to tell her to shut up.
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  Are you a fader, Df'd, DA'd, or Still In?

  by brotherdan in

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  i thought this would be an interesting poll that would show everyone the backgrounds of all of us when we left, if we have.. for myself, i am not df'd, but i am attempting a fade.

  i still go to some meetings with the wife to help with kids, but that's it.

  no commenting or field service.. what about everyone else?.

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  I have not stepped foot in a hall in almost 6 years. Surely I am atleast listed as inactive - but no one ever tried to call me or "encourage" me or advise me of my status.

  My older brother who is an elder avoids me like the plague - so I could be DF'd and just not know it ! I guess I could ask him, but I do not care enough to open the dialog.
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  What's Your Worst/Best Quality About You?

  by minimus in

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  i'd say my worst is sometimes i don't like to deal with important things and don't unless necessary.. my best quality (and there are so many that this may be difficult.

  what aboutchoo?.

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  FirstLastName

  Worst: I am type A and can demand the same from others.

  Best: I am type A - I am very organized and get a lot of things done.

  :)
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  Most embarassing JW moment

  by mamalove in

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  mine will surely give me away, but i don't care.

  when i was preggers, i was supposed to have a c-section the first week of the new month.

  so i knew i needed to go out in service so i would not be irregular that month.

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  FirstLastName

  I dreaded giving talks. I am not good at public speaking. Also, the pressure was so immense ! I joined the "school" really young cause my dad was an elder. Can you imagine the pressure on a 10 year old girl to write a 5 minute dialog with another person and incorporate a introduction, illustrations and a closing but also remember to gesture? What exactly was I preparing for? Theatre? or how to teach people about the bible? I regress.

  I recall at about the age of 18, when EVERYTING was a bigger deal than it really is, giving a talk. This is hard enough, except now I get to sit in a crowd of 100 people will an elder (who was a security guard) ripped my talk to shreds and said over the platform that I did "not do any of the required points and that he was going to have me work on that again".

  I took myself out of the Kindom Ministry School that week. For what I understand, they do not give council over the platform anymore? Maybe is was a blessing for me cause it was my start of the exit strategy?

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  Any Marathon Runners here??

  by confuzzled777 in

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  my hubby and i have registered for our first 1/2 marathon.

  now, i have never been a runner, which is kind of scary.

  but i have been going to a personal trainer 3 days a week for the past 11 weeks, in addition to doing 60 min.

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  I heard a GREAT quote that kept me smiling when I was running :

  My sport is your sports punishment.

  :)
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  Any Marathon Runners here??

  by confuzzled777 in

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  my hubby and i have registered for our first 1/2 marathon.

  now, i have never been a runner, which is kind of scary.

  but i have been going to a personal trainer 3 days a week for the past 11 weeks, in addition to doing 60 min.

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  I ran my first 1/2 in Oct. I have two more runs scheduled this year. I never considered myself a runner before, and if I can do it anyone can. I find that runs with many "distractions" to be best for me (i.e. bands, downtown scenery, cheering people) as opposed to running in the woods (however some prefer this).

  There are some great training programs online. I ran 3 miles a day for years and then decided to up the stakes and to the Half Marathon. It took about 3 months of intense training and it was the hardest physcial thing I have every done in my life (again, not a natural runner). And I applaud people that can run the full marathons - which is amazing to me.

  I did not run to win, I ran to finish. Good Luck - sounds like you have a good program in place !
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  Did you ever find the meetings refreshing?

  by highdose in

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  i can remember one pompous elder asking me "how can you be depressed after sittiing through such a wonderful meeting?!!".

  i only ever felt relief at getting away, what about you?.

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  If you feel asleep during the meeting - when it was over, you woke up refreshed.

  I found them mentally draining and then further depressed cause I was told I was supposed to feel good and I didn't.
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  What 'hooked' you... and what made you leave?

  by s0rt3d in

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  i wasn't born in.

  i got hooked in as a teenager.

  was going through a tough time, wondered why we exist, why god wasn't doing anything to solve man's problems, if there was a true religion and, hey-presto, a jw classmate showed up with book that not only asked the questions i was asking but answered them too!.

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  I was born in. I did not get baptised until 17 and wild rumors circulated about why I was waiting so long. 17 is waiting to long? I did not know what I wanted to do for a job and yet - I should know what I want to do with life...right?!

  After being married at 20 and living life for many years with an abusive drug dealer (and yet still JW on the surface - seems every had a double life) and finding out that he was cheating on me, I went to the elders to ask advice. They gave me a long list of Watchtowers to read which all said to stay with him (no proof of cheating and he was not about to admit it). I never went back - neither to my ex or the congregation.

  Getting out took years, but after the final blow - the desicion was easy.