Best solution is to become "inactive". You'll keep your social network & you are free from participating. Over a period to time, people will get used to this situation. As many will attest on this site, move very slowly in convincing your wife. Be extremely careful at not being labeled an apostate. Friends will put up with "inactive" but the "apostate" label is a game stopper. Good luck. I lost 50 yrs. & a daughter to this religion. Glad to see you out early.
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Walking a thin line - Resigning Elder
by Sanchy inwarning of a long boring post ahead.
i feel like i need to vent my story out, as i feel quite helpless at the moment.. i'm 31 year old, married, father of toddler with another one on the way, due later this month.
i've been serving as elder for about 4 years now in a south florida congregation.
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How often do you....?
by Lostandfound inhow often do you, ........ no not that, how often do look at this forum ?
and how long does it last,....... no not that again (one track minds) how many looks are you addicted to a day?
keep coming back to see anything new, or do you look at posters who you know from experience have comments that will interest you?.
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mrquik
I check every day. I know someday I will see posted here the end of this cult. I don't want to miss even a minute of that "Good News"....
PS: I like you Stan...
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The slow trickle has become a steady stream!
by freddo inin the last few weeks it seems that instead of one or two new posters a week we seem to be getting several every day.
many seem to be long time jw's who are troubled by the path of the organisation.
this is really encouraging to those of us who have been here sometime.. welcome!
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mrquik
No organization can continuously lose qualified management people & survive. Yet this is what the GB will have to deal with. It's a double edged sword. You have to be intelligent enough to lead which means you're also smart & perceptive enough to realize it's just another manmade religion. That paradox will slowly drain this cult of leadership. Just look at the current clowns they have running this show. If the GB boys were smart, they would grab their collective golden parachutes & bail from this burning wreck. -
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Is this a true statement? Elders that are DF will be reinstated much quicker than the average publisher.
by James Mixon inback in the early 70's there was a brother, well known in the circuit did the no no with.
a few of the young sisters in the congregation.
he was df and the word, he would never be.
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I was a well known elder that got DF'd after a divorce. I had one on the JC that told me to my face that as I was well known, it would be awhile. I can't thank him enough. I stuck it out for 2 years, sitting in the back of the hall. I got sick of the hypocrisy, did my research & left. It was ironic because the elder himself had been disfellowshipped for adultery & it was 10 years before be was reinstalled as an elder. Again, thanks Frank. You'll never know how much of a favor you did for me. -
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"Even if it isn't the truth, it's still the best way to live"
by Simon inhave you heard that old chestnut?
i have.. typically it's the last resort when you have dismantled a jws beliefs and they have no way of defending them.
they know they are beat so they come out with that one.. its effectively an admission that you are right and they have no argument but they are still going to attend meetings because they like the social club.. what a lame way to defend your faith..
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If it isn't the truth, you're in a man made religion. If your in a man made religion you're part of "Babylon the Great".
If your a "true Christian" you're obligated to obey the mandate to "get out of her my people". To stay in would label you as an opposer to "the truth". And we all know what happens to opposers......... Better to worship God privately & be a good Christian. As I always say; Live Well...Enjoy Life!!!
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knock knock
by Sabin inif jw`s come knocking at your door, do you open it & engage in conversation, tell them to sod off, or just not answer the door?.
my husband`s has asked me not to answer the door to them if he isn't here?
he hate`s the fact that they make a point of calling when they know he will be at work.
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I tell them I just moved in from out of state & used to study. When they ask why I quit I mention a few things I found out while doing my own research. I've had a great time shooting down 1914, meaning of a generation, pedophiles, flip flop doctrine. They eventually quit stopping, but not before they get a thorough anti- witness from me. -
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Hello all just moved to Lakewood NY
by Still Totally ADD init has been along time since i have posted something.
my wife and i have just moved to ny just west of jamestown.
our log house in pa was so far from everything it was costing us to much time and money.
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mrquik
Hi ADD; I'm over in the Fingerlakes on Seneca Lake. Great wine country. In the 40 mile stretch from Geneva to Watkins Glen on Route 14 we have over 30 wineries, distilleries & microbreweries. Come on down this summer. Garlic Festival is 1st week in August at Fox Run Vineyards.
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My Bethel Experience Part 18. The last Bethel Tread, Blood Guilt
by new boy inbesides almost getting mugged a couple of times.
his folks had a fit and told him he had to go back and "do his time".........and do the "right thing"...........he told me he had just left max larson’s office, max had just told him “what a disappointment he was, to his family and to the organization!
“do you ever think about james olson?
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Thanks for the insight. Had a number of friends go to Bethel. None ever came back bubbling over with enthusiasm for the experience. I always thought that was kind of odd. None who came back ever tried to recruit others. I understand now. -
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How the Bible disproves the JWs' 1914 invisible presence doctrine.
by Island Man inwatchtower teaches jws that christ's presence began invisibly in 1914. they also teach that the start of christ's presence coincides with the start of the last days.
whether you believe in the bible or not, watchtower claims these teachings come from the bible.
so does the bible actually agree with them?
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My younger brother is an elder & we talk from time to time. Of all the signs given by Jesus identifying the "last days" the frequency of earthquakes should be one easily seen. Yet, with all scientific evidence available to the contrary, he insists on it being true. He's an intelligent person who forsook higher education. He's now in his sixties, had to apply for his social security early & drives a school bus part time to make ends meet. He has no retirement. Such a waste of a brilliant mind. It's frustrating to see the clear points made in discussions like this continually fall on deaf ears. -
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Any former elders brains I could pick?
by BarelyThere ini posted in another topic a few hours ago.
it is my first time on here or any website like this, ever.
i was dfed back in september for adultery.
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mrquik
I married during the scare of '75 to a woman I figured I'd learn to love after Armageddon. Surprise, no Armageddon. I made the best of it for 34 years. I found the love of my life (not a Witness) & divorced the first wife. Knew I would get disfellowshipped but figured I be back in after a year. Thank God one of the guys on the JC had an axe to grind & dragged it out over three years. During that time I really did my research & after reading C of C I was out. Congratulations for not wasting all those years. Weigh carefully what is really important to you. Going back only to fade costs a lot of time. And as they say " Don't waste time for time is what life is made of..."