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  Is It Just Me??

  by What Now? in

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  we're 2 years in to our exit from the witnesses.

  we're not disfellowshipped or disassociated ... just inactive.

  none of our friends speak to us anymore.

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  I hear ya. I've been missing a sense of community too. I found Sunday Assembly. I'm in Portland and our chapter started in March and is really doing great. It has the sense of community without any dogma or pressure. Check it out and see if there is one in your area. If not, you could start one.

  I agree though that the unofficial shunning from people who were supposed to be your friends and love you is unnerving. At least until you get some distance and start to replace it. It is getting better and I've been away 5 years.

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  Anyone in Portland Oregon??

  by bafh in

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  i'd like to discreetly get together with people in my area.

  i'm successfully faded but i'm a 4th generation and my mom's a regular pioneer - needless to say i know a lot of people, and a lot of people know my family.. still, i'd like to get together - discreetly.. if you are interested, pm me.. bafh.

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  Thanks!
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  Anyone in Portland Oregon??

  by bafh in

  1. jw
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  i'd like to discreetly get together with people in my area.

  i'm successfully faded but i'm a 4th generation and my mom's a regular pioneer - needless to say i know a lot of people, and a lot of people know my family.. still, i'd like to get together - discreetly.. if you are interested, pm me.. bafh.

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  I'd like to discreetly get together with people in my area. I'm successfully faded but I'm a 4th generation and my mom's a regular pioneer - needless to say I know a lot of people, and a lot of people know my family.

  Still, I'd like to get together - discreetly.

  If you are interested, PM me.

  bafh
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  NEWBIES are leaving like crazy! Be very afraid WT

  by clarity in

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  2. friends

  # 3 newbie post.

  first of all, the newbies have set a record here!.

  have you ever seen a 4pg post where 21 new members reply!

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  Coming out to the closet to your family as an "apostate". Any experiences? Your input would be greatly appreciated.

  by im_free in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so it's been about 10 years since i have faded out and have stopped believing in the jw teachings.

  since then, i have accepted jesus and have experienced an amazing tranformation in my life and have been freed from the jw prison mentally and spiritually.

  a more detailed thread about my journey is here if you are interested.. anyways, my jw family lives in another state so they are unaware that i am no longer "in the truth" since i have not told them.

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  Rebel8 described exactly what I do. First, I don't bring it up. If they do, I say something like "There are some things that have really bothered my conscience. And I don't feel there is a place for me right now. I don't want to talk about it, because I don't want to be discouraging to you." So far, so good.
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  Coming out to the closet to your family as an "apostate". Any experiences? Your input would be greatly appreciated.

  by im_free in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so it's been about 10 years since i have faded out and have stopped believing in the jw teachings.

  since then, i have accepted jesus and have experienced an amazing tranformation in my life and have been freed from the jw prison mentally and spiritually.

  a more detailed thread about my journey is here if you are interested.. anyways, my jw family lives in another state so they are unaware that i am no longer "in the truth" since i have not told them.

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  Don't do it. Being honest with people doesn't mean you have to tell them nor do they have the right to know everything about you. They know what kind of person you are by how you are when you are with them. Does it really matter that you don't believe any more? Will it be helpful or harmful to them and to you?

  I think if you can resolve it with yourself that you do not need to share this detail of your life, things will be easier for you and for them.

  my 2 cents,

  bafh
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  New JW TV will be the best thing ever for apostates! Do you agree?

  by Wasanelder Once in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  here's my prediction; the gov body giving regular talks will come across as crazy ass idiots.

  this will strengthen the opposition and give something to refer too that is concrete evidence of crazy town in the jw headquarters.

  there will be screen captures and clips that will be used all the time on youtube accounts to show the ttatt.

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  Especially with the new donation arrangement (tithing), and now this, they are looking more and more like every other Christian religion.
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  AGM 2014 - How are faders gonna hide in plain sight anymore?

  by tootired2care in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so two big changes in the org were announced in the most recent agm.. local needs part is replaced by "how do you know the truth" where all members will tell their experience (oh what fun).

  basic pioneer role 10 only hours a month required (see, jehovah lightens our load, therefore he loves only us)!.

  it seems like they have really turned up the heat here.

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  The thing is, if someone is fading, it is not hard to fake service or even lie on the time report. And how hard will it be to lie if you need to on the 'How I Know It's the Truth?" - I think it depends on where you are in your fade. It might be more difficult, but I think lying is still easy enough to do.
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  The New Success of the WBT$....."JW.ORG".....IT`S OFF THE CHAIN!!..

  by OUTLAW in

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  How about they just get rid of holding people to tracking their numbers and just go by the quality of people they are able to attract and the number of people who attend and get baptized? I think people would be much more drawn in if they weren't beat down for not meeting some number and if they were allowed to measure their own spirituality by the quality of their lives instead of the number of doors they knock on.

  and by the way, WHERE are they purchasing the merchandise? It seems so bizarre to me.

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  Blondie's Comments You Will Not Hear at the 10-05-2014 WT Study (WOMEN)

  by blondie in

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  bafh

  I haven't read a WT study for a LONG time, so can I just say that their 2 or 3 sentence paragraphs are pathetic.