BandontheRun, that's so awesome that your mom pushed and pushed for help. Prayer aside (I don't tend to put a lot of stock in it, myself), that's great. And I'm glad your brother did well. :)
JustThatGirl007
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My baby has a friend!
by mrsjones5 init's hard for my youngest son joshua to make and keep friends because his autism gets in the way.
there's this neighbor boy who lives across the way who's asked to be josh's friend.
it's been so cool.
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Parties puff you up with pride
by rebel8 inthis is not a new topic but one i had a chance to ponder recently.
the dubs taught any parties in a person's honor puffed them up with pride and hence jehoopla hated them.
ex--birthdays, graduations, etc.
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I've had baby showers and a grad party as a dub. I was never very comfortable being the center of attention.
I had my birthday last November, and celebrated it with 2 other ex dubs and the never-dub gf of one of them. I didn't have my own, personal event. I plan to later this year, though. My kids and husband have all had their own parties. Hubby (Baltar447 or 477 or whatever the hell it is) felt weird, uncomfortable. It caused him to reflect on this topic, as well. (I think his thread was called On Birthdays and Being Born In and it was in Feb 2012 some time.)
You said: And here's the crux of why it's a bad idea to deprive your kid of this normal social convention--it prevents them from developing certain social skills particular to this sort of thing.
My thoughts on that statement are this: That's exactly what they want. They expect that their children will follow in their footsteps and do the same thing, never NEEDING to know that social norm or that social expectation. They don't WANT to prepare their kids for living in the world or for pushing themselves outside their comfort zones and having a grad party. Doing so would mean they expect their kids to make other decisions. To think for themselves.
Hm, I hope that made sense. I'm usually much more articulate. :)
EDIT: I see husband commented just ahead of me. :)
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Are we completely sure Trans people don't just have a mental disorder?
by Lore inso i thought i was a pretty accepting person.
sure i grew up in a bigoted cult who hates gay people.. now i'm an atheist who has no reason to care about anyones sexual prefferences.. .
but i've watched inverviews of trans people.
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I love my Dawn. Glad you posted. <3
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Are we completely sure Trans people don't just have a mental disorder?
by Lore inso i thought i was a pretty accepting person.
sure i grew up in a bigoted cult who hates gay people.. now i'm an atheist who has no reason to care about anyones sexual prefferences.. .
but i've watched inverviews of trans people.
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JustThatGirl007
From Kudra: ^I think that Lore wants to listen; he started this thread because he is seeking information and input from a wide variety of posters here on this board.
You are probably right. And I realize my response was harsh. But from MY perspective, the perspective of someone who is viewed as mentally damaged or ill, please understand that I responded through my own lens. It doesn't make the WAY I responded kind or right, but the advice is true.
Lore, I do apologize for the way I responded. It's not my intent to be mean.
But please seek information from other trans and genderqueer people. Maybe next time, open a subject with less of your own opinion and more of an "I want to know more" approach.
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Are we completely sure Trans people don't just have a mental disorder?
by Lore inso i thought i was a pretty accepting person.
sure i grew up in a bigoted cult who hates gay people.. now i'm an atheist who has no reason to care about anyones sexual prefferences.. .
but i've watched inverviews of trans people.
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JustThatGirl007
I have a real problem with people labeling things a "mental disorder" just because they don't understand it. I find it hurtful and cruel. I'm quite sure my genderqueer friends DON'T feel "mentally ill" or anything else.
As an adult with a neurological condition that people think can just be CURED, a condition people consider a mental disorder, I am a huge advocate and supporter of ACCEPTANCE. Stop labeling us as mentally disordered or ill just because we're different.
If you don't understand something, STFU and listen to others who are more informed on the issue. You'll learn so much more if you let go of your preconcieved notions and assumptions, SHUT YOUR MOUTH, and LISTEN.
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For those of you who do not believe in corporal punishment...
by Chemical Emotions inthat is, for those of you who actually think that hitting children is wrong, what types of discipline do you find more effective?
i'm not a parent but when dealing with kids, i've seen that time-outs tend to make kids feel isolated and can really hurt them.
if they're near others and are checked up on frequently, it seems ok. but when they're completely ignored, that is just bad.
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JustThatGirl007
If a kid is freaking out, send them to their room. Slapping will only escalate it.
And restraining an autistic child is only necessary when they're having a meltdown (NOT a temper tantrum - HUGE diff) and the question should be: What sent them into a meltdown in the first place?? What did you do to trigger it? Because there is ALWAYS a trigger.
I was an abused kid. Verbal and physical abuse. I try very hard to be different for my kids. I'm not perfect, but I try to do my best and be a better parent than mine were to me. I'm pretty damn successful, too.
For my kids, explanation and reason works very well. When my daughter is throwing a huge fit, she is sent to her room. When my sons (one autistic, one not) are having fits, they get sent to their room. The little one has someone go with him and when he is calm and quiet, then we leave the room. He learns to get himself together, speak kindly, and life can move on. (We aren't always consistent with this, but it does work.)
Have I hit? Yes. But I prefer not to.
In talking with another autistic friend of mine, he said "Restraints are useful. But only when used by your spouse." Think about that one ... ;) lol
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denim skirts was bad
sideways or backards ball caps were bad
no charm bracelets
no games like Magic the Gathering, Dungeons & Dragons (couldn't watch the cartoon, either)
Scooby Do was bad
Smurfs were bad
Shopping at garage sales or second hand stores was something to be cautious about because you could bring home demunz
Good luck and bless you was bad
A rumor went around that I was engaged at age 16 because I held hands with a guy at the convention
No groups getting together to do the WT or other lessons
no sports
no college
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My baby has a friend!
by mrsjones5 init's hard for my youngest son joshua to make and keep friends because his autism gets in the way.
there's this neighbor boy who lives across the way who's asked to be josh's friend.
it's been so cool.
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JustThatGirl007
BRAVO!!!! That's wonderful!!
Hey, I know we have PMd very briefly before (6-ish mos ago?) but I've got a FB page going now, if you were interested in checking it out. It's https://www.facebook.com/parentingwithaspergers
:)
(Edit: To those who don't know, my son and I have asperger's syndrome. He is 12.)
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William Osbeck-The CO that helped me get out of the borg.
by Sadie5 inafter reading cruzenheart's post on the letter about her father, and the treatment he received from the co, william osbeck, and the elders of his congregation, it brought back my own memories of this particular co and his treatment of people.
it was 1995 and one of the hardest years of my life.
in february of that year, i learned i was pregnant with our fifth child.
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JustThatGirl007
Wow, so much we can identify with. I also had severe sickness through my entire pregnancy. I had it for 4 of them, in fact. And nobody helped. Ever. (That sickness, by the way, is called hyperemesis gravidarum. Check out helpher.org for more info.)
When my husband's mom died, nobody made us meals except one person who brought us one from a fast food place. I was ordered to keep my feet up during my first pregnancy and then a brother who is now a CO told me I could do that at the KH. Our oldest has autism, like me (asperger's syndrome), and we were told it was bad parenting that made him act the way he did, he needed more discipline, he needed to be pinched. I had a mental breakdown in 2010 and was told to TRY and go to the meetings, even though I had figured out that the meetings were a HUGE source of my anxiety and the breakdown. (How can anyone manage to live their lives constantly being told they suck and they amount to nothing without some kind of medication, heavy therapy, and/or a breakdown?!)
All of that was just an added reason for us to be done with it all.
Hugs, girl!! You did the right thing by putting family first. And YAY on being free!!!
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Marijuana
by MrFreeze indoes anybody know the jw reasoning why using mind-altering depression and schizophrenia medication are okay but marijuana is not?
okay i could see saying not to use marijuana because it is currently illegal in the us but what if it were legal?
there are lots of health benefits for marijuana.
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JustThatGirl007
I have nothing to add except "Yeah that!" to everything Tal said!! I've used it for a variety of health conditions, including fibromyalgia, migraines, and anxiety. From an autistic aspect (I have autism), it lessens my sensory integration dysfunction, making it easier for me to tolerate things like soft touch, loud noises, and the like. And stoned sex is THE BEST EVER!!!!! lol
Magic Carpet Ride, indeed.