Posts by JustThatGirl007

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Help! Do you have this kind of mailbox? I can't close the door!

by Iamallcool in

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i have a mailbox like this.

i just could not close the mailbox door.

there is a small white roller that is supposed to close the mailbox.

JustThatGirl007

Wish I had a clue, man. Cute mailbox, though.

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A happy life for a gay ex-JW

by Steve_C in

i'm not sure if this is the correct place to put this, but here goes.. i've posted a few times before about different subjects.

in some of those posts ive mentioned that im gay, and in others ive referred to my wife and kids.

i thought id share a bit more information to any who were curious about this.

JustThatGirl007

BRAVO! That's wonderful!!! And what a great picture. :)

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Leaving Jehovah's Witnesses is NOT the same as the doctrines leaving you

by Terry in

if you grow up speaking english and you move to mexico you don't automatically speak spanish, know customs, understand currency, possess skills.

for self-support or have any special insight into latino mindset.. .

why would you expect leaving jehovah's witnesses would leave you any less ill-equipped to navigate the real world?.

Excellent post. It's a colossal mind f*ck to leave and every time people do something nice, I'm FLOORED. Like, wait, I was always told worldly people would be lovers of themselves, hateful, mean, etc., and yet they haven't been. Oh, sure, it happens, but in my experience, I see more good since having left than I ever saw while we were in.

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Kinda new here. A Backstory.

by SethBridge in

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im kind of new here.

i was a former member of this site, a little over a year ago.

had planned on writing a backstory of what happened in the past year but decided to keep it simple.

JustThatGirl007

Wow. Sounds like a hell of a story, man. Looking forward to seeing you around.

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My baby has a friend!

by mrsjones5 in

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it's hard for my youngest son joshua to make and keep friends because his autism gets in the way.

there's this neighbor boy who lives across the way who's asked to be josh's friend.

it's been so cool.

JustThatGirl007

Cantleave, get him connected with other aspies. Find a group local to you. START a group local to you.

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For those of you who do not believe in corporal punishment...

by Chemical Emotions in

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that is, for those of you who actually think that hitting children is wrong, what types of discipline do you find more effective?

i'm not a parent but when dealing with kids, i've seen that time-outs tend to make kids feel isolated and can really hurt them.

if they're near others and are checked up on frequently, it seems ok. but when they're completely ignored, that is just bad.

JustThatGirl007

MrsJ, sounds like Joshua's meltdown got handled pretty well. If my oldest is having a meltdown, we direct him to his room. Thankfully, they are not as frequent as they used to be and not a danger to himself or those around him. (Mine are a danger to me.) And none of them have ever required restraint *except* at school one time, and I still don't know WTF happened there. It bothers me a bit.

I hope you didn't perceive my post prior to yours about Joshua's meltdown to be judgmental in any way. I'm sorry if that's the case. It wasn't intended that way. When I said "there is always a trigger" and "what did you do to trigger it" it wasn't to finger point or blame anyone. It was merely a statement of fact and a question intended to provoke thought. And I wasn't thinking of games being the trigger (same in our house, as well). I was thinking of a school situation where something an adult did triggered the meltdown because the adult didn't understand the kid and didn't understand how to work with them. (If the adult is understanding and seeks to TRULY help, they will remember what works best to get the kid to cooperate. You know? I may not be articulating myself well. But anyway, not a parent/child situation but more of an other adult/child situation. Someone who doesn't know the kid as well as mom and dad do.)

I found myself rather irritated by this whole topic of discipline, started by someone who, apparently, has no kids. I'm all about learning, but in order to learn, you must be open minded enough to try and understand the viewpoint opposite of yours. You know? Anyway, my thoughts didn't quite flow in the manner I expected them to. Slightly frustrating. :) I apologize.

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My baby has a friend!

by mrsjones5 in

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it's hard for my youngest son joshua to make and keep friends because his autism gets in the way.

there's this neighbor boy who lives across the way who's asked to be josh's friend.

it's been so cool.

JustThatGirl007

BandontheRun, that's so awesome that your mom pushed and pushed for help. Prayer aside (I don't tend to put a lot of stock in it, myself), that's great. And I'm glad your brother did well. :)

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Parties puff you up with pride

by rebel8 in

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this is not a new topic but one i had a chance to ponder recently.

the dubs taught any parties in a person's honor puffed them up with pride and hence jehoopla hated them.

ex--birthdays, graduations, etc.

JustThatGirl007

I've had baby showers and a grad party as a dub. I was never very comfortable being the center of attention.

I had my birthday last November, and celebrated it with 2 other ex dubs and the never-dub gf of one of them. I didn't have my own, personal event. I plan to later this year, though. My kids and husband have all had their own parties. Hubby (Baltar447 or 477 or whatever the hell it is) felt weird, uncomfortable. It caused him to reflect on this topic, as well. (I think his thread was called On Birthdays and Being Born In and it was in Feb 2012 some time.)

You said: And here's the crux of why it's a bad idea to deprive your kid of this normal social convention--it prevents them from developing certain social skills particular to this sort of thing.

My thoughts on that statement are this: That's exactly what they want. They expect that their children will follow in their footsteps and do the same thing, never NEEDING to know that social norm or that social expectation. They don't WANT to prepare their kids for living in the world or for pushing themselves outside their comfort zones and having a grad party. Doing so would mean they expect their kids to make other decisions. To think for themselves.

Hm, I hope that made sense. I'm usually much more articulate. :)

EDIT: I see husband commented just ahead of me. :)

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Are we completely sure Trans people don't just have a mental disorder?

by Lore in

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so i thought i was a pretty accepting person.

sure i grew up in a bigoted cult who hates gay people.. now i'm an atheist who has no reason to care about anyones sexual prefferences.. .

but i've watched inverviews of trans people.

JustThatGirl007

I love my Dawn. Glad you posted. <3

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Are we completely sure Trans people don't just have a mental disorder?

by Lore in

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so i thought i was a pretty accepting person.

sure i grew up in a bigoted cult who hates gay people.. now i'm an atheist who has no reason to care about anyones sexual prefferences.. .

but i've watched inverviews of trans people.

JustThatGirl007

From Kudra: ^I think that Lore wants to listen; he started this thread because he is seeking information and input from a wide variety of posters here on this board.

You are probably right. And I realize my response was harsh. But from MY perspective, the perspective of someone who is viewed as mentally damaged or ill, please understand that I responded through my own lens. It doesn't make the WAY I responded kind or right, but the advice is true.

Lore, I do apologize for the way I responded. It's not my intent to be mean.

But please seek information from other trans and genderqueer people. Maybe next time, open a subject with less of your own opinion and more of an "I want to know more" approach.