When I decided to leave the borg my girls were 12, 9, 6. All of my family and their father's family are JW's. Their father is a pioneer elder in a local congregation. He has never had much to do with his girls, due to the fact that he told them he could not talk to me. What a load of poop.
My girls lost all of their family, but this last summer my ex-brother in law passed away and we attended his funeral. All of the girls cousins are very close to their JW family, since they were raised with them. Mine raised by me. I have to tell you I was never so glad that I got away from the religion and the dysfunction of that religion. My girls are well adjusted, kind, compassionate, and educated. Their cousins are judmental, mean, and never had the opportunity to go to school. They all are home schooled, and never pushed to even think about any higher education. When I got home I thanked my lucky stars that I got them away from that mess. I too like you felt bad that my kids were always slighted compared to their cousins. You need to understand that you got your son away that is the best thing you could have done for him.
Leslie