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  MY LIST

  by itsbeenalongtime in

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  i have been doing a lot of thinking and...for some reason i keep saying to myself i should write a letter of dissociation...however at the same time i think its just a waste of time.

  so i made a to do or not to do list.. i still cant make up my mind... so i thought i should show the list to everyone and maybe you guys could add to the list things i may be taking into account... thanks... .

  not to mail the letter.

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  Yes but did you guys find it better to not have to deal with seeing people...I mean When i see the Elder that lives next too me I would rather have him just walk on by...Like today he came outside just to ask me how I was doing..........I would rather have them leave me alone..That is the main reason I would want to write the letter. How long does it take for people to leave you alone if you fade away?
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  MY LIST

  by itsbeenalongtime in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have been doing a lot of thinking and...for some reason i keep saying to myself i should write a letter of dissociation...however at the same time i think its just a waste of time.

  so i made a to do or not to do list.. i still cant make up my mind... so i thought i should show the list to everyone and maybe you guys could add to the list things i may be taking into account... thanks... .

  not to mail the letter.

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  itsbeenalongtime

  I have been doing a lot of thinking and...for some reason i keep saying to myself I should write a letter of dissociation...However at the same time I think its just a waste of time. So I made a to do or not to do list.. I still cant make up my mind... So I thought I should show the list to everyone and maybe you guys could add to the list things I may be taking into account... Thanks..
  
  Not to mail the letter
  -It could effect my kids in a bad way..I have been teaching my daughter about jehovah for 8 years...How will this effect her if I just change my mind??
  
  An Elder lives right next door to me.
  
  My husband doesnt want me too.
  
  I will lose my Best friend.
  
  I will lose all my husbands family ( I dont have any family in the truth).
  
  What if I change my mind and want to return??
  
  To write the letter -
  I dont want my kids to grow up in the "truth".
  
  I want to be free from all the people in the hall.
  
  I want to be able to not go to meetings without being made to feel guilty from others.
  
  If I write the letter they will stop talking to me and I wont have to hear the gossip.
  
  I have no family in the truth, but my husbands whole family is the the truth..
  
  I want to feel happy again.
  
  I felt guilty when that when i got baptized and called my church to have them take me off their records. So i feel that if the society should take me off their records as well since they made me do it to another church.
  
  I still believe in God and want to do what is right but want to be able to serve him in the way the Bible says, not the way others feel I should.

  I feel that just fading away will cause more trouble than its worth...Such as will people I mean.

  I dont wnat to have live a fake life or double life anymore.

  Also, if I am to write the letter do I send it to the elders.... Also I was thinking of sending a letter to everyone I knew at the hall too the day before i send my letter to the Elders...That way maybe I can plant a seed with them while I still had a chance... And dones anyone have a letter I could copy to send in. I dont want to tell the Elders anything other then I am done. I dont owe them an explantion.......I was also wondering will they come talk to before they tell the people at the hall or will they just make the anounsment?

  Sorry for all the questions, and thanks everyone for all your help. This is such a crazy time for me.
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  Are You Going To the Memorial?

  by headisspinning in

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  i can't see myself not attending.

  i would feel horrible not to go.

  i don't know where i'm going to land and if i had to look back and think i didn't go... well, i would feel awful..

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  I dunno...
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  what was the worst meeting you ever attended ?

  by man in black in

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  here's mine :.

  back in the early 90's we went to the sunday talk and wt study.. lo and behold, a friend from the 70's who was df'ed ( he had just been reinstated) was there along with his parents.

  i had no idea that they would have been there.. one of my kids was getting sick, so my wife and i were up-down the entire meeting walking him around.

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  OnTheWayOut.......Maybe you should write her a letter.....Poor girl....I also stayed until my privileges were put back in place and now that they are I am leaving. but I tell you if I got a letter from one of those Elders that were so mean and hurtful I would be so greatful and forgive them in a second.
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  Obama

  by free2beme in

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  "the president does not have power under the constitution to unilaterally authorize a military attack in a situation that does not involve stopping an actual or imminent threat to the nation.".

  senator barrack obama.

  correct me if i am wrong, but did libya attack our nation???.

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  The CO that we have right now said that he belives that he will be the Prez. that will cause the ban on world wide religion and the End will come before he is done with this next term....lol
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  what was the worst meeting you ever attended ?

  by man in black in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  here's mine :.

  back in the early 90's we went to the sunday talk and wt study.. lo and behold, a friend from the 70's who was df'ed ( he had just been reinstated) was there along with his parents.

  i had no idea that they would have been there.. one of my kids was getting sick, so my wife and i were up-down the entire meeting walking him around.

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  They day I meet with 3 Elders in the back room for 2 hours drilling me alone about personal details of my life....
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  Elders Approaching . . . What angle is best?

  by Murray Smith in

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  hiyall .

  i've been out for over 6 years now, and moved back to my old "home town" a couple of years ago.

  i've had a couple of visits from an old associate.

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  I think the best seed you can plant is to show him how happy you and your family truly are!! We have been told over and over that when you leave the truth, nothign but bad things will happen.. Show him that is not true. Show him how you are still a kind and loving person that the world has not changed your kind ways. .....Actions speak louder than words every could
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  a couple questions for everyone here

  by deservingone26 in

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  im just curious about a couple things:.

  1. most of you seem to be pretty satisfied that you left the the witness world but now that your gone what drives you now?

  what makes you excited about life?

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  1. For me I am just now starting to fade out and I hope it goes well......But what has made me have the drive to do so is, my children...I also look back at all the things I wasted, like my year in college. So now I have stared to go back and do what I was alwated to do. I will be a social worker. I quit going because at the time I fell for the whole education not being important...

  2. I just stared to post on her but I like it because like I said I am just starting to fade out so It helps me feel safe, I guess... It makes me feel like I am not the only person in the world that has to deal with this stuff.. When I read about others I see that I am no a lone in this. I too wont be on this site but if it takes me 1000's post to help me move on then that is what I will do :)

  3. I dont agree with the witness world but i still believe in God......I believe that It is important to keep looking and to keep asking questions. I feel that we should not scsred to look or ask questions because the truth is the truth and if we question it, it should lead right back to the truth.... So when the witnesses get scared of people asking questions it only makes me believe that the truth is no in them..
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  A lightning fast POLL: Two questions about CONVERSION

  by Terry in

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  1. were you yourself converted from a religion other than jw to becoming a jw by door to door work?.

  2.did you succeed in converting somebody in your own door to door work causing them to change religions to the point of baptism?.

  quick answers, please.. .

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  1. Yes Someone found me in the door ro door work and this siter had found 2 other people as well..... However I knew someone that had sent her to me..

  2. No way, I have never felt ok with selling the watchtower. I always only went to read the Bible with people so I have a few calls that I just use my Bible with. I like those a lot.
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  Experience re: Faking Field service time

  by pirata in

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  2. beliefs

  noticed this experience while doing some research.

  thought you might enjoy it:.

  *** w64 9/15 p. 561 par.

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  itsbeenalongtime

  WHATEVER....EVERY ONE LIES ON THOSE THINGS BECAUSE ITS THE ONLY WAY TO KEEP YOURSELF LOOKING GOOD....RIGHT?!?!?!