I really hope, for many of us, that the real love we have for our kids will save them from the lie.
Aussie, I am following the story with your kids pretty closely. I saw your post about the internet history and talk with your kids the other day. I am a few years behind you, my oldest will be a teenager in about a year and half, I am sure I have your struggles and issues coming up. I think the only difference is that their mom doesn't demonize or put me down.
Let me know how it goes. I am in pretty much the same boat as you (if not the same boat, we are charting nearly the same course). I just want them to have the choice, made freely of guilt from a BS religion or their parents, to live their life as they want.
Sounding good . . . making normal plans . . . setting normal goals . . . having normal dreams to reach for.
Bingo. Neither of them really thinks or says, at least, when they are with me, that Bethel or being an elder is their goal. It's being an astronomer or vulcanologist for one of them (the more sciency one) or a golfer or mountain climber or pilot (obviously the more sportsy one). All of those are normal and, I think, if I give them support and love and enouragement then it will be harder and harder for them to abandon their dreams.
I am doing all I can to prevent them from getting baptized. They rarely go out in field service, they were trying to figure out how to sleep during the convention without getting caught the other day. As is normal for kids, they are bored to tears with the meetinngs and assemblies and no surprise, I am encouraging that and anything thing else that will get their mind off of it...football, tennis, basketball, golf, archery, hunting, going to a movie, going camping, a Bahamas trip, a NYC trip, hiking, fishing.... anything but going to the meetings or the JWs.