Loved reading your post, you both are very fortunate that you found each other and got out of the cult together,Alot of times their are stories on here of people hurting, in distress and just plain down!! Its very refeshing to read a story like yours, Congrats to you & your wife!!! Dough
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Happiness after almost a year!
by fade_away inthat book: "the secret of family happiness" is missing the part that teaches you to live happy with your family.
"but if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned.
but those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and i want to spare you this.".
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POSITIVE POST TIME!! We just want to know 3 things you are FOR.
by Terry inon this topic we don't care what you are against.. let's be positive and tell three things we are for which are meaningful to us.. .
1.music lessons for kids.
learning to read music and play an instrument.. 2.memory training and math strategies in schools.
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1. My 3 beautiful, wonderful granddaughters!
2. My awesome therapist!
3.My river that i get to wake up to every morning!!
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How Has The Economy Affected Your Spending Habits?
by minimus inwill you go on vacation this year?
will you curtail your driving habits due to the cost of fuel?
will you cut back your spending for special occasions?.
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Have had a small business for 25 years, had some very very good years, took some big hits the last 2 to 3 years, really dont know if we will recover it. Scary place to be at 50+, Neither one of us in the best shape either......but we have alot of experience and alot of connections,AND my hubby is a very smart guy....so im sure we will be OK just very hard to go through, so to anwser your question, Yes we will defintely be cutting back on spending, actually forced to cut back on spending!! Dough
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Wobble: My husband and myself are like you, not DF'd or DA'd, we were in for 25 years, no announcements about us, nothing, but judged harshly and severly, for what???? They dont even know....they have had there huge gossip fests( one of JW's favorite pastimes) and decided we are dead in their eyes.
We have a favorite, fun pub that we go to a couple times a week, friends? we use to go with, friends we use to take trips with, had Big BBQ's with, threw alot of great parties for (always paid for by us) and several that we employed for many years. They will sit at their big table all together and wont so much as nod a greeting to us, total snubbery!! Do we get up and leave? are you kidding?? This is our pub:) several times i have let different ones sitting by us or our waitresses, see that huge table of people over their, we use to be right in the middle of it, but right now they are "shunning" us for reasons they dont even know!!! normal functioning people cant even understand that, i just turn over to this group and smile... feeling good i just "told" on them......fun times, Dough
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(raised MY, not BY son & daughter, sorry typo)
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Welcome POY,
Please keep a open-mind and be determined to "think for your self". I was a JW for 25 years and raised by son & daughter in the religion. We are all out now, but it nearly killed my son. Like i said, please keep a open mind and pay close attention to what your really being "taught" at meetings(nothing wrong with that, right?) I wish you the best, keep posting.....keep lurking if thats all you want to do, but the advice, wisdom, and experience you will get from here could prove to be invaluable to you!!! Kindly, Dough
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by doughnuthole inhi, i'm not new here, been lurking forever, just a new poster.
i was a jw for 25 years, did it all,been out now for 7 years, for the most part have healed pretty good.....but some things can't seem to shake.
the thing i'm most regretful of is raising my children in that cult, if i could just re-do that, i think i could be totally over the trauma of the 25 years i was in.
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Again, Thank-you all for your welcomes!! I really enjoy this board and plan on partcipating whenever possible. More of "MY" story later. Thanks-All, Dough
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by doughnuthole inhi, i'm not new here, been lurking forever, just a new poster.
i was a jw for 25 years, did it all,been out now for 7 years, for the most part have healed pretty good.....but some things can't seem to shake.
the thing i'm most regretful of is raising my children in that cult, if i could just re-do that, i think i could be totally over the trauma of the 25 years i was in.
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Thank-You all for the nice welcomes, like i said you all have helped me so much and I thank-you for that, I hope i to can be a help to some also!! My family is out, but of course some wounds may never fully heal....that being said it feels wonderful to be able to be with my beautiful granddaughters and do normal fun stuff together(i think i may spoil them a bit, because it feels like i've been given a second chance) Again, Thank-you all, You can just call me "Dough"
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by doughnuthole inhi, i'm not new here, been lurking forever, just a new poster.
i was a jw for 25 years, did it all,been out now for 7 years, for the most part have healed pretty good.....but some things can't seem to shake.
the thing i'm most regretful of is raising my children in that cult, if i could just re-do that, i think i could be totally over the trauma of the 25 years i was in.
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Hi, I'm not new here, been lurking forever, just a new poster. I was a JW for 25 years, Did it all,been out now for 7 years, for the most part have healed pretty good.....but some things can't seem to shake. The thing i'm most regretful of is raising my children in that cult, If i could just re-do that, i think i could be totally over the trauma of the 25 years i was in. But i guess i should feel very grateful that my whole family is out(My Hub, son, & daughter) and i should be totally grateful that my daughter will not be raising my 3 grandaughters (#4 on the way) in that horrible, cultish religion!! I't nearly killed everyone of us, but were out!!! And that is what i need to concetrate on, not on what could have been! So I am here and want to say you all have helped me SOOOO much you cant even imagine!! Doughnuthole