Posts by manicmama

Had my hysterecotomy at the age of 31, the same age as my sister. I am now 40. The best thing I have ever done. But then my choices were rather on the dim side. I had extreme bleeding along with extreme migraines and severe back pain. They could find no reason for any. 2nd and 3rd opions were not to hot on doing one on a 31 year old women. I eventually went back to by GP who I trusted immensely and he said are you sure you do not want any more kids??? I said hey, I have the 3 that I wanted and have no intention of having any more, not to mention I was living on the highest mg. vicodin, 4 per day and still working (barely!). I was begging for surgery! Granted I still have both ovaries, but I still bent through the hot flashes for 4 months (sorry, mom! I will never make fun of you again!) It's been 9 years and it's one of the best things that ever happened to me! Recovery was about 4 weeks for me, I was back to work with a light schedule. But I was in so much pain before that it was fantastic to feel hamna again! If you have any questions feel free to e-mail me! Good Luck!

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Depression & Guilty Feelings

by Swan in

i haven't been posting much lately.

i am sorry i haven't been contributing.

have been experiencing some depression lately.

manicmama

Sorry to hear of your niece. Know in your heart that nothing you did caused her demise or could have changed the course of things. The world is full of "what if's". She would want above all for you to be happy. And who knows, maybe she is watching you now and loving you, who can know what happens after death.

One thing I would advise is that if your current therapist is not addressing this issue with you, at least raise the issue with him/her or find another therapist. It is obvious this is causing you great distress and needs addressing.

Be good to yourself and go do something that makes you feel good inside. Go see a movie (not a downer) go to your favorite restaurant, go to the zoo or a park. Anything that will nourish your soul and make you feel better even for one day. Day by day it does get better and we stop feeling so much pain and remember the good things.

manicmama

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question about free speech and ex-witnesses

by ballistic in

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a while ago, there was some yacking about free speech on this web site.... i was thinking how despite recent events, it's amazing that a group of people with such different reasons for leaving their past behind, now with differing religious views and feelings on life and the world, men and women, young and old, people from different nations having much more contact than they ever did in the org, can actually form such a close community.. some people say, their goal is not to bring the org down but to see molesters disfellowshipped and brought to justice.

can i then put it this way.... some people are hoping and praying (rightfully) that the org does to these sickos what was once done to many of us.

(note the strange irony of those wicked people un-challenged and those summarilly dismissed).. does that mean that on a free-speech web site, the perverts would then be allowed to join, post and air their views, if not take over the forum when numbers reach the proportion that could be expected?.

manicmama

I don't think anyone can compare what most of us went through to being a child molester. We were the abused not the abusers. Most of us were DA'd or DF'd for minor details (disagreeing with the org) or just a f*** off attitude. We were abused either physically, but for the majority, my self included, I would say tremendously mentally. For one to think that the molesters would join us is just to much to comprehend.

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What an eccentric performance

by kenpodragon in

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one of my favorite movies of all time is "monty python and the holy grail.

" i enjoy this movie for many reasons, but most of all for it's satire on society.

one of my favorite scenes, and i should warn you that i know them all, is when king arthur walks up to peasants in the field and tries to explain that he is king of the britons.

manicmama

Next time a JW comes to the door and asks if they can come in to talk with you, tell them that they must first bring you a shrubbery. That should get them pretty good.

My favorite line---- Come back, 'tis only a flesh wound!

manicmama

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What would you do?

by troucul in

here's a thought...in order to make three people whom you care about happy ,you had to sacrifice your own happiness, would you do it?.

bring it on....

manicmama

Absolutely not. How can you make anyone else happy if you are not happy with yourself??

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Famous People Who've Died In Plane Crashes

by Dutchie in

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i'm in the process of making plans for my yearly vacation and although i am not really afraid to fly, i must admit to being a little .

apprehensive.

anyway, it seems to me that if i were a famous person i would be even more apprehensive because so many of them .

manicmama

Don't forget members of Lynyrd Skynyrd. Gosh, is this to be followed by famous people who died of drug overdoses???

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JW friends- Who am I talking to and what do I say?

by detective in

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dungbeetle said this in another thread and i thought it could prove helpful to those that are still in contact with jw friends and relatives.. jw's defense of the watchtower is merely a thinly disguised effort to defend themselves personally.

recognizing this defense mechanism for what it is will be a first important step to breaking down these psychologically harmful barriers.. i was thinking that perhaps we could talk about how we speak to jw friends and, even more important, how they speak to us.

i found dungbeetle's very insightful.

manicmama

One of the biggest points is that they DO NOT Speak to us. They talk AT US. Ask anyone raised a dub, it's impossible to talk to your parents. It's only what you are doing wrong with your life and how soon the time of the end is. It's fruitless. Sorry to be so negative, but I deal with it first hand all the time, and my mother wonders why I don't call more often!

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NOT WAITING ANYLONGER

by jst2laws in

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exactly one year ago three other families joined us at our vacation home for a week of relaxation and stimulating conversation.

of the four men, three were elders and the other a ministerial servant.

together these four had 116 years as appointed servants.

manicmama

I think that it is truly amazing what can happen when friends sit down and actually speak truthfully and from the heart as friends are supposed to do. If this weekend you spoke of had not happened how many would still be sitting in their uncomfortable lives wondering?? I lost a great friend this way because she was afraid to turn to me and I was the same. Her husband was an elder of the worst kind!They have since divorced and he will not give me any info on her to me as I am "labeled"! Yea, I could give him a few labels! So, she probably is sitting there thinking she has lost a friend and that I am being judgemental towards her, she left her husband for another man, honestly I think it was the best thing she could do and I hope she is happy now. It just goes to show you OPEN UP I wish I had. Congratulations jst2laws for keeping friends and helping to set them free!

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Do you all hate me?

by apostatebuster in

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of course you do.

apostates hate everything, even puppies.

manicmama

How can I hate you? I don't even know you. However, I do PITY you!