Posts by Theburstbubble

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Nice moment today

by Theburstbubble in

so it's been a few months since i last went to a meeting but i've still had lots of guilty feelings about leaving, such as am i doing the right thing, thinking about friends and family, where do i go from here etc etc.

but i think once you stop believing you can't go back.. anyway, today i had a very nice experience.

my daughter had been to nursery today and when she got home i asked her what she had done and she excitedly told me they had been doing pumpkins.

Theburstbubble

It was really lovely. We have bonfire night coming up soon too (I'm in the UK) and I can't wait to see her little face when we go to a firework display. There's so many lovely family things to do now and lots of memories to make together. When you're a witness, you kid yourself that the children don't miss out, but when you leave you realise the poor things really do! So I'm just happy to be coming out of the other side now 😀

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Nice moment today

by Theburstbubble in

so it's been a few months since i last went to a meeting but i've still had lots of guilty feelings about leaving, such as am i doing the right thing, thinking about friends and family, where do i go from here etc etc.

but i think once you stop believing you can't go back.. anyway, today i had a very nice experience.

my daughter had been to nursery today and when she got home i asked her what she had done and she excitedly told me they had been doing pumpkins.

Theburstbubble

So it's been a few months since I last went to a meeting but I've still had lots of guilty feelings about leaving, such as am I doing the right thing, thinking about friends and family, where do I go from here etc etc. But I think once you stop believing you can't go back.

Anyway, today I had a very nice experience. My daughter had been to nursery today and when she got home I asked her what she had done and she excitedly told me they had been doing pumpkins. It was so nice just to share her enjoyment! Much nicer than having to have a chat about it being wrong and then maybe having to talk to the nursery and make a big deal about it. It might sound like a small thing but it made me smile and feels like a step in the right direction 😊

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Getting the Urge!

by Theburstbubble in

jw
friends

evening folks, so as some of you may know we have recently decided to leave the witnesses and can see it for the man made organisation it is.

so, why do i get the urge to go back and feel guilty for not being there!

it's like my mind is telling me to be logical about it all but then something keeps pulling me back.. don't get me wrong i really want to break free from it all and i'm resisting the urge to go back as i have been miserable in the truth for a long time as i've known it's not right and want to do the best by my daughter.

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Thanks everyone. @ Godzoo and Orphan Crew

I think you are right these guilty feelings are because I'm still associating witnesses and so I feel guilty. We've not gone to the meetings for a couple of months so people just think we are struggling rather than stopped going.

I definitely agree about the comfort zone too. It's always hard stepping into uncharted waters so to speak. I just need to stay strong.

@lisarose thanks for the link. I read it and it was very good.

@doc you are right, I definitely need to rewire my brain! I've got 37 years of brainwashing to undo

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Getting the Urge!

by Theburstbubble in

jw
friends

evening folks, so as some of you may know we have recently decided to leave the witnesses and can see it for the man made organisation it is.

so, why do i get the urge to go back and feel guilty for not being there!

it's like my mind is telling me to be logical about it all but then something keeps pulling me back.. don't get me wrong i really want to break free from it all and i'm resisting the urge to go back as i have been miserable in the truth for a long time as i've known it's not right and want to do the best by my daughter.

Theburstbubble

Thanks Wisdomfrombelow. My daughter is 3 years old and she became the game changer for me. I've been raised a JW from birth so I think my brain is still partly engaged into the JW thinking. I guess it takes time but I was hoping to feel relieved and happy. not looking over my shoulder with rosy coloured spectacles.

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Getting the Urge!

by Theburstbubble in

jw
friends

evening folks, so as some of you may know we have recently decided to leave the witnesses and can see it for the man made organisation it is.

so, why do i get the urge to go back and feel guilty for not being there!

it's like my mind is telling me to be logical about it all but then something keeps pulling me back.. don't get me wrong i really want to break free from it all and i'm resisting the urge to go back as i have been miserable in the truth for a long time as i've known it's not right and want to do the best by my daughter.

Theburstbubble

Evening folks, so as some of you may know we have recently decided to leave the witnesses and can see it for the man made organisation it is.

So, why do I get the urge to go back and feel guilty for not being there! It's like my mind is telling me to be logical about it all but then something keeps pulling me back.

Don't get me wrong I really want to break free from it all and I'm resisting the urge to go back as I have been miserable in the truth for a long time as I've known it's not right and want to do the best by my daughter.

Has anyone else feel the same when they left?

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Sister attendants not able to give directions to a brother..Misogyny

by Theburstbubble in

at our recent rc i was advised by a sister who was an attendant that they have been advised not to be able to give brothers directions as this should be dealt with by the brothers.

apparently at the pre-convention attendants meeting, the sisters were asked to stay behind.

this was when they were given the news that the brothers should deal with brothers.

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@OneEyed.Joe

Yes they can be attendants (with brothers of course) at entrance ways etc to give information but not sure what their purpose is now though.

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Sister attendants not able to give directions to a brother..Misogyny

by Theburstbubble in

at our recent rc i was advised by a sister who was an attendant that they have been advised not to be able to give brothers directions as this should be dealt with by the brothers.

apparently at the pre-convention attendants meeting, the sisters were asked to stay behind.

this was when they were given the news that the brothers should deal with brothers.

Theburstbubble

I hadn't put Misogyny in the title of this post but for some reason cannot take it out...maybe it was meant to stay there ha ha.

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Sister attendants not able to give directions to a brother..Misogyny

by Theburstbubble in

at our recent rc i was advised by a sister who was an attendant that they have been advised not to be able to give brothers directions as this should be dealt with by the brothers.

apparently at the pre-convention attendants meeting, the sisters were asked to stay behind.

this was when they were given the news that the brothers should deal with brothers.

Theburstbubble

Ok so here's a new one to me. At our recent RC i was advised by a sister who was an attendant that they have been advised not to be able to give brothers directions as this should be dealt with by the brothers. Apparently at the pre-convention attendants meeting, the sisters were asked to stay behind. This was when they were given the news that the brothers should deal with brothers.

A brother attendant also backed up the story as he was attending with a sister at the RC and didn't know of this new arrangement and had the embarrassing situation of a brother asking a sister for directions. The sister just looked at the brother and said 'I'm afraid i can't help you, you'll have to ask the brother who i'm attending with'.

I have to say this is the strangest thing i have heard, what is the point of having sisters attending if they cannot speak to brothers...crazy.

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Why Me?

by John Aquila in

do you ever wonder why out of all the witnesses, you are the one that woke up?

i wonder many times why me.

i know many men and women that are much, much better persons than me; either they are much smarter, more humble, kinder, more successful, or just better persons all around.

Theburstbubble

I think unfortunately there won't be many who are right in the hub of the congregation who will ever 'wake up' so to speak. This is because they are living, breathing and soaking up everything the WT has to offer and they truly believe it and want to believe it too. When i was in the centre of the congregation i fully believed it and was so thankful to be in the truth. I'd look at people in the world and feel sorry for them. Or I'd think that those who left knew it was the truth deep down.

Once i started to drift, then i began thinking for myself and starting questioning things. However, if i hadn't starting drifting i would never have done that and would still be believing every word and in that brainwashed state of mind. I've only recently decided to leave and i look at my friends who are still witnesses and i can't believe they are so taken in by it all. But then I've realised it takes time and I used to be in the mindless state that they are now. Unfortunately you can't make them wake up either as it just sets off the whole 'apostate' alarm bells. I sent a friend a link about the Australian royal commission and she just ignored it completely. I do find that crazy that people can completely switch off from any reasoning or facts.

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Go on welfare!

by life is to short in

i am going to make this short.

i ran into a older jw women who i have known my whole life.

she is pushing 80 and will never change.

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I've seen this first hand too. Our congregation coordinator always advocated the 'simple life' and would often point out that me and my husband who had good jobs should simplify our lives as our careers were a distraction. However, he worked part-time and his wife didn't work and the rest of their income was made up of benefits...