i'm sort of angry right now.. no, not angry..... i'm shaky.
at least, when i lift my cup of coffee to my lips, sitting here at starbucks, my hand is trembly.. i hate that!.
the power they have to still reach me on some hidden point that hides in the corners of my very being.... .
Terry, you can't have a battle of the wits with an unarmed opponent. You can't wax theological with someone who is in their own personal coma.
In the nearly 10 years since I've been free, I haven't run into a JW yet. I don't know how I'd react. I doubt I'd even have time to react; my husband would start foaming at the mouth in rabid anger and run them off, LOL!
standfirm told me thatl.
ife is to short,.
the jw organization says that two witnesses to separate acts of wrongdoing are acceptable for someone to be df'ed.. "if there is another witness to the same type of sin on the part of the accused, this would be basis for forming a judicial committee.
Lots of therapy, LOL! I'm glad I got out when I was young! Quit attending meetings when I was 18, formally disassociated myself at 19. I never felt so light and free.
standfirm told me thatl.
ife is to short,.
the jw organization says that two witnesses to separate acts of wrongdoing are acceptable for someone to be df'ed.. "if there is another witness to the same type of sin on the part of the accused, this would be basis for forming a judicial committee.
I was sexually abused in three different states. It's not a congregational problem; it's the organization. I don't want to type out my long-winded vitriole about my own abuse and the way it was handled (or rather, NOT handled), but it was treated with the same indifference no matter where I was. I was even asked once if I ENJOYED BEING MOLESTED. I have been told that nothing was going to be done, not even talking to the abuser about the matter, because it would be an embarrassment, and he was married, and because of his good status. Other times it was because "Oh he's a young man, in the bloom of youth, it can be hard to control his sexual desires" like that's a good excuse. And then a different time I was told, "You're being too sensitive!" like I was just overdramatizing things. I was even told once to "get used to it", and to be grateful that I am pretty and desired by men, or maybe I should quit "dressing up" and maybe I wouldn't have this problem.
My pain was never even private; the entire congregation KNEW what was happening to me, years before I ever spoke up. And nothing ever happened, except that I was shunned and treated poorly, and called a whore. I was specifically singled out as a black sheep, and not invited to anything. Nobody wanted me in their car group for service. Other kids would tell me that they weren't allowed to talk to me. A sister in the congregation even tried to force me into a vaginal exam (done by HER!!!) because she was convinced I was lying, and making her congregation "look bad" (she was the wife of an Elder, both of who had known me since I was a child, both who knew of the abuse, and didn't think much of it).
Then I started hearing rumors about myself that I was "emotional" and "mentally unstable", and even "schizophrenic". And that I was "sleeping with worldly boys" and "doing drugs". All these lies. It was easier for the congregation to believe numerous ridiculous lies about me than to believe the one truth: that the congregation was allowing and enabling me to be molested. Even my own mother was sticking her head in the sand about my abuse. My pooooor mother, everyone felt so bad for her, because she had such an evil and crazy daughter, who clearly needed to be beaten and whipped into complacence. Do not spare the rod, and all that. (don't even get me started on the Watchtower-approved physical abuse that left me fearing for my life and running straight to a social worker, and I got REAMED by the Elders for that)
I don't understand how anyone can defend an organization that knowingly enables abuse.
on another thread, mrsjones said: .
and before anyone says anything this conversation was not in an email nor was it through personal message, it was not private.
it's on my fb newsfeed and any one of my friends can access the conversation.. it got me to thinking.
LOL, I live in an apartment building with paper thin walls. I don't think I even really know what privacy is. I can hear my next door neighbor take a dump, have sex with (hopefully) his wife, and I know what TV shows and music everyone in my building listens to. I never assume anything I do is private. Of course, I'm used to not having ANY privacy at all, since I was a born-in JW LOL! If it wasn't my own mom and siblings spying on me and digging through my stuff, it was my so-called "friends" or the Elders. Only my thoughts are private.
Welcome! I will say that I did chuckle a little when you said you could give a kick ass talk while totally hammered. I used to mix Baileys into my coffee to survive field service.
on another thread, mrsjones said: .
and before anyone says anything this conversation was not in an email nor was it through personal message, it was not private.
it's on my fb newsfeed and any one of my friends can access the conversation.. it got me to thinking.
I personally assume that if someone sends an email or PM to ME, that it is intended to be read by only me. But I also don't put anything horribly incriminating in writing, so if I send an email to someone and they plaster it all over the interwebz, whoop dee doo. I make no assumptions of privacy on line, though I try my best to respect others' needs for privacy.
If someone calls me, I always let them know if I am putting them on speaker phone, as a courtesy. But I assume less privacy with a phone call, since it's very easy to record, or to have someone simply overhear what I am saying (due to the volume level on the phone, for example. Some people's cell phones are so loud I can always hear both sides of the conversation)
the first summer a$$embly finishes this weekend.. tell tell!.
who are the toes.
the verrucas and fungus?.
It is beyond my comprehension how ANYONE can sit there, at the convention, and be excited about this.
Next noo lite: China is the nail polish on the statue's toes! *gasp* But WHAT COLOR nail polish?!
in real life, i do not ask people questions.. i don't look like the avatar of minimus.. i am very personable and well liked.. and....i'm pretty discerning, should i say so myself..
I am quieter here, and more concerned about offending people or saying something stupid. Maybe it's because I'm new :)
I look like my avatar, but I'm generally less smiley, and sometimes I wear glasses.
....at your door?.
my gf mistakenly took brochures/pamphlets and now they drop things in the doorway every week (at least).. any suggestions?
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I personally would have gone with the double-ended dildo, myself.
early in the exit process, it's very important to begin overcoming irrational fears.
fear of the devil.
fear of god.
9 years after getting out, I still have the occasional irrational fear that something I buy from a vintage flea market might be "demonized". That's the one stupid WT phobia that I still haven't shaken completely, as stupid as it sounds!
Great post!
