Hi BGB!
Welcome to the forum!
And It's the first time I've been at the head of the welcoming queue, so that makes a first for both of us!
Yes, I've read right through all you've posted, every word.
Let me start out by saying that unlike many, probably most on here I am not a born-in JW. I got drawn in and became a very nearly, almost baptised JW, was a diligent unbaptised publisher, though I knew that I didn't buy all the beliefs. Anyway, I am fortunate in that I had a very traumatic JW experience just a matter of days before I was due to be baptised and I backed right away and haven't been back in a KH since. Nor will I ever go there again.
Your story truly made compulsive reading. You describe so well the problems of living in what sounds like a fanatical but they would probably say faithful or dutiful JW household, and your early awakening reasoning abilities. You saw clearly that it was nonsense, whereas I, equally critical in all my thinking, somehow got blinded by the nonsense.
You asked all the questions I had right from the start about the anointed. As I read, I had the thought, well, why doesn't everyone just decide they're anointed? Then everyone can go off to Heaven. Though, with what they're going to be doing there, condemned for eternity to sit on a throne ruling everyone else and no time off for good behaviour...no, that eternal boredom would never do for most sane people. Though I know some power-struck elders who'd undoubtedly relish it.
Your account of the 10-year old experience with the son of the anointed woman sounds to me as if somewhere in his life he'd experienced sexual abuse. That's not normal behaviour for a child.
I so loved your account of your mother's honesty and bravery. Even with my limited experience I know families who are shunning their DF'd ones, and justifying it by saying they do it out of love. Twisted.
Congratulations on your own frankness here, and again, welcome! Probably by the time I've posted this I'll find I'm not first in line after all!