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  Walking a thin line - Resigning Elder

  by Sanchy in

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  2. friends

  warning of a long boring post ahead.

  i feel like i need to vent my story out, as i feel quite helpless at the moment.. i'm 31 year old, married, father of toddler with another one on the way, due later this month.

  i've been serving as elder for about 4 years now in a south florida congregation.

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  Hi Sanchy, your story and mine are similar. Even the part about FL, I am from SWFL.

  I was an MS for ten years and then an Elder for the next ten... I was ready to kill myself even though I had two little kids. I was also killing myself slowly with alcohol. I ended up having a breakdown at the KH right before I was to start the meeting.

  My wife has been supportive of my mental health now, and we very rarely discuss 'spiritual' things. I am happy, calm, sober and love my family more than anything...

  I wish you the best, show lots of love to your family, be a great husband and Dad!
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  Quality of newer membership

  by Lostandfound in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  on a previous post mamacita29 pointed up the low quality of new jw converts.. is the quality falling even more as the society use lower than low meeting, talks, broadcasts etc.. when i was active initially the organisation and standards seemed totally different today.

  i have seen hard working intelligent elders fall by death or exhaustion.

  the younger generation that came along never really grasped responsibility hence shortage of good elders, never mind the watered down to almost nothing quality of meetings.

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  What level of intellect do you attract by handing out the brochure "Answers to life's BIG QUESTIONS"

  That title immediately struck me as Dumbed Down. I would not be able to keep a straight face while presenting that, and simultaneously be embarrassed.
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  Who did you believe the scriptures were describing when you were a JW?

  by James Mixon in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  it never hit me until i was out.

  matt:23;4 "they tie up heavy, cumbersome loads and put them.

  on other people shoulders".

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  The heavy load put on me for two decades as an "appointed" man caused my burnout and spectacular breakdown that occurred right in the KH.
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  CO's never say thank you for the green handshakes

  by suavojr in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ever noticed how co's and ex-do's never say thank you for the hard earned money they get from the friends?

  they truly believe they are entitled to live an easy life at the expense of others.

  this makes my blood boil!

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  I do know what the OP means though. I have witnessed many green handshakes behind the stage at assemblies and never once did the recipient refuse and say that it was not necessary. Instead, their eyes light up and discreetly pocket the cash all the while never missing a beat in the conversation.
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  CO's never say thank you for the green handshakes

  by suavojr in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ever noticed how co's and ex-do's never say thank you for the hard earned money they get from the friends?

  they truly believe they are entitled to live an easy life at the expense of others.

  this makes my blood boil!

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  burnedout

  I received a part on a CA as a 'thank you' from a CO. I was wondering why even though I was known as a good public speaker I never got a part on the assemblies. The green handshake was an experiment. It worked. Less than two weeks after I 'performed' a green handshake, I received a speaking assignment on the CA.

  Coincidence? I think not.
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  What is your relationship with ALCOHOL?

  by nicolaou in

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  here in the uk new drinking guidelines have been issued which suggest "no more than 14 units a week - equivalent to six pints of beer or seven glasses of wine.".

  another piece of the advice which is getting a lot of attention is that "if people drink, it should be moderately over three or more days and that some days should be alcohol-free.".

  already people are making cries of "nanny state!

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  Alcohol and I are happily divorced...

  As an Elder and previously M.S. Some of my best parts on the meeting were composed and delivered while drunk.
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  General health after learning TTATT

  by Darkknight757 in

  1. social
  2. physical

  4 months ago i was conducting the watchtower study along with a long list of responsibilities that come with being an elder in a very goofy congregation.

  during this time my health was going down hill.

  i've always had a low blood pressure,(102/65 or abouts) but for the past year it had creeped up to 135/90 range.. so 2 months ago after learning ttatt, i'm still considered an elder because the brothers won't let me step down, but i haven't done anything in that time except comment once at a meeting a few weeks ago.

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  ToesUp, my wife is active and takes the two kids. Otherwise our family life is great!!!!
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  General health after learning TTATT

  by Darkknight757 in

  1. social
  2. physical

  4 months ago i was conducting the watchtower study along with a long list of responsibilities that come with being an elder in a very goofy congregation.

  during this time my health was going down hill.

  i've always had a low blood pressure,(102/65 or abouts) but for the past year it had creeped up to 135/90 range.. so 2 months ago after learning ttatt, i'm still considered an elder because the brothers won't let me step down, but i haven't done anything in that time except comment once at a meeting a few weeks ago.

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  The only way I could deal with the incredible stress of being an elder, changing doctrines, etc was BOOZE. I was getting serious about suicide as my only relief, even though I had a wife and two small children. My health was horrible, bleeding ulcers and wound up in the hospital due to my alcoholism.

  The BOE was reluctant to let me step down until I simply told them I quit.

  That was 5 years ago. No meetings since then. I am sober, happy and calm.

  I don't know how to link a post here, but search for a post I started 'Another Elder', my story is on page 3
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  Day 4 Looks to Be Live at Any Moment - Link...and Upcoming Witness List!

  by LostGeneration in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  https://www.childabuseroyalcommission.gov.au/case-study/636f01a5-50db-4b59-a35e-a24ae07fb0ad/case-study-29,-july-2015,-sydney.

  anyone know who this monty baker is?

  i'm sure this guy will be able to tell the rc how things work behind the scenes without all the evasiveness, being that he is an "apostate".

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  burnedout

  I have to admit that hearing all those Theocratic phrases are giving me the heebee jeebees.
  
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  Day 4 Looks to Be Live at Any Moment - Link...and Upcoming Witness List!

  by LostGeneration in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  https://www.childabuseroyalcommission.gov.au/case-study/636f01a5-50db-4b59-a35e-a24ae07fb0ad/case-study-29,-july-2015,-sydney.

  anyone know who this monty baker is?

  i'm sure this guy will be able to tell the rc how things work behind the scenes without all the evasiveness, being that he is an "apostate".

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  burnedout

  I am pretty sure that the blonde has the hots for Angus...