Glad you liked it.
Zid, that's some gorgeous landscape. Makes me feel all serene just looking at it.
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'Stop Trading Yourself Down' - Brilliant Article That Applies to Life as a JW & the Cult Persona
by mummatron ini'm a regular reader of baggagereclaim.co.uk.
i find it helps me deal with many of the relationship-based hurts in my past, but this latest blog post, although it's written about romantic relationships, just made me think of my life as a jw and puts a lot of it in perspective!
so i felt it was worth a share... thought it might help some lurkers, faders & those questionning the cult.. have highlighted the most relevant parts.
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Post Good Music, Any Genre
by leavingwt in.
i hope everyone is having a great saturday night (or sunday morning).. .
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m0tge2n3nke.
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Fresh Prince - Wow BRMC, haven't heard them in a while.
Let's Go Surfing by The Drums. A simple tune but it never fails to make me .
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Why I Left Jehovah's Witnesses--a 10-page essay by sd-7
by sd-7 inwhy i left jehovahs witnesses.
they can be painful to bear, but sometimes that is part of life in a setting with many people and their various personalities.. it was my examination of evidence that did lead me to leave jehovahs witnesses.
they, of course, had failed to bear proper witness to his name.
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Very well expressed. I have to admit that I can't recall some of the scriptures (without looking them up) but it's nice to know which doctrinal factors and scriptural interpretations were responsible for your awakening.
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Too fat for the kingdom of God !
by koolaid-man informer jehovah's witness servant dick borghi along with elders in the lowell, ma.
congregation were asked by the circuit overseer to vote on whether to disfellowship overweight brothers and sisters.. this was very troubling to dick for two reasons.. 1... brother borghi thought it would be the responsibility of the faithfull and discrete slave to lay out a precise directive on the basis for this unusual request.
what criteria would have to be met to make such an awkward decision?.
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So all the thousands of exemplary, faithful sisters would get DF'd for baby weight, pill weight gain ('cause the FDS said no kids so they're off piosneering instead), hypothyroidism (often undiagnosed for years) etc, etc. Hmmmmmmm!
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Found an oddly shaped rock would like some help if possible
by sabastious ini was at a nearby lake this summer and i came across a peculiar triangle shaped rock.
it looks man made, but i have no resources/money to check out what it is.
so i took pictures of it.
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It'd make a great coaster.
I found a piece of natural (uncut) granite that had broken away in the shape of a diamond. It's probably still at my parents' place somewhere. I do have a photo of it too. I shall have to see if I can find the photo to show it to you.
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'Stop Trading Yourself Down' - Brilliant Article That Applies to Life as a JW & the Cult Persona
by mummatron ini'm a regular reader of baggagereclaim.co.uk.
i find it helps me deal with many of the relationship-based hurts in my past, but this latest blog post, although it's written about romantic relationships, just made me think of my life as a jw and puts a lot of it in perspective!
so i felt it was worth a share... thought it might help some lurkers, faders & those questionning the cult.. have highlighted the most relevant parts.
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I'm a regular reader of baggagereclaim.co.uk. I find it helps me deal with many of the relationship-based hurts in my past, but this latest blog post, although it's written about romantic relationships, just made me think of my life as a JW and puts a lot of it in perspective! So I felt it was worth a share... Thought it might help some lurkers, faders & those questionning the cult.
Have highlighted the most relevant parts. The original article can be found here:
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/stop-trading-yourself-down/#more-7897
Stop Trading Yourself Down
by NML on December 2, 2011
When I hear about so many painful and quite frankly dubious experiences that BR readers are having, I realise that many of us have found ourselves trading down in life. You’ll know that you’re doing this if you’re selling yourself short, whether it’s actively or passively.The ‘active down-trader’ is breaking their back and rolling themselves out to be in a relationship that detracts from them – they’re chasing a high and the remote possibility of the reward of eventuallybeing the exception to a shady rule.
The ‘passive-downtrader’ is a passenger in the uncomfortable comfort zone, believing this is as good as it gets on the last chance saloon, or ruminating privately about why they’re not good enough to change the person or have a better relationship, while being too afraid to actually positively focus on themselves and do something that gets them out of their uncomfortable comfort zone.
A healthy relationship shines inside and out, whereas an unhealthy partnering may appear to glitter but be somewhat empty on the inside. It may leave you grubby or even outright filthy and even when it’s over, it may take some time to scrub off the grime so that your true self can shine through.
If anything, a relationship will enhance what already exists. In a healthy relationship, the mutuality will let your characteristics, qualities, and values exist, grow and mature. In an unhealthy relationship, it will actually enhance less attractive characteristics, qualities and values.
This is why relationships serve as lessons to teach us about ourselves. If we don’t heed the lessons in what can quite frankly be our own relationship insanity, the lesson will keep coming back like a bad habit or relationship that you just can’t flush. Cue Richard Pryor saying “What does that one chunk want?”
When someone keeps lying to you and they have further opportunities to keep lying to you, your relationship acts as a mirror to show you that you need to stop lying to yourself and being a receptive sponge for their lies.
When someone keeps treating you without love, care, trust, and respect, your relationship acts as a mirror telling you to wake the hell up, step in and treat you with love, care, trust, and respect because you’re staying right now because you love them more than you love you.
Relationships are also an opportunity to grow, positively, whatever the outcome of them. What you don’t want is to actually regress or become stunted by remaining in an uncomfortable comfort zone.
When you’re genuinely happy and comfortable, you seek to do more of the things that make you happy. You want to be the best you can be, not because it might win someone over, but because you’ve already learned that doing right by you helps you and your relationship when you’re in a healthy one.
What you don’t want to persist in, is being in a relationship or relationships that have you trading down. They shouldn’t cost you peace of mind, your friends, family, your home, health, job, money that’s either swindled out of you or that you squander, your self-respect, self-care, trust, or ability to love.
They shouldn’t cost you your integrity because without it, you don’t have what makes you you. A relationship shouldn’t and mustn’t cost you you.
You don’t need someone and a situation disconnecting you from your beauty inside and out, your intelligence, kindness, maturity, your emotional honesty, your general honesty, your values, your plans, goals, dreams, desires, and more.
You don’t need someone short-circuiting you and you certainly don’t need to be trying to do it for them.
They’re not worth it and they’re just not that special and you’ll notice, no-one is trying to short-circuit themselves for you. That’s not because you’re not worthy or valuable or good enough, or whatever depleting label you want to put on it that makes it about you in an inverted ego issue kind of way – it’s because any relationship that requires you to deduct you from the proceedings and to engage in behaviour and thinking that detracts from you, isn’t love. It’s a massacre. It’s self-obliteration but it sure as hell ain’t love.
Love isn’t about having the power to change someone or becoming an entirely different person and erasing who you are to accommodate what you think the whims of someone else are. Having your life based on moving goalposts and appointing someone as a higher authority in your life is a precarious and painful existence.
This isn’t as good as it gets and your last chance saloon hasn’t gone. Your time isn’t up until it’s up, which means you’ve got life left in you right now to make a difference to your own life. If you were happy selling yourself short in your traded down life, you wouldn’t be complaining and feeling the effects of treading water in drama and stress and/or silencing your own needs.
A relationship isn’t going to fall out of the sky tomorrow and land in your lap. Take a few months out, put 110% effort into focusing positively on you which includes nurturing you, being compassionate to you, learning to trust and like you, forgiving you, and breaking old ties and habits. When you’re genuinely happy and at peace within, you will be able to recognise healthier opportunities instead of using turmoil as a primary driver. Give yourself time and a chance – give yourself you.
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Are Horse Steaks on your Grocery List
by designs incongress has lifted a 5 year ban on horse meat, for the non-vegans are you game.. i remember being in france, nice, and walking into a boucherie chevaline (horse butcher) and seeing a skinned horse hanging on the hooks.
vivande de cheval, its a big animal to see up close in that condition.
had a great buffalo steak the other night with my son at a local restaurant..
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I don't think I could ever bring myself to eat horse meat. I've eaten all kinds of strange and interesting foods and challenge myself to try things but couldn't try horse. Nothing to do with the pet issue. I was raised in a farming community where pet lambs & pigs are the norm. Maybe it's because I view them as modes of transport? Who knows! Having said that, many of us may have eaten horse and been none the wiser - Horse Meat Found in Salami
@Watersprout - IKWYM, I once ordered scallops in a restaurant and was presented with a veal escalope.
Quick question for the veggies & vegans - do you wear leather/sheepskin/suede? just curious as I find that's something that divides my friends. The gelatine issue especially. I have some vegetarian (not vegan) friends who will happily eat a jelly baby because "they're not meat" and others who will pass on a slice of iced cake if they don't know for sure if the icing contains gelatine. Fortunately, I'm a good friend and aware that issues like these matter, so I always ask what people do/don't eat before cooking for them.
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Any Brits Striking or Rallying Today? (Nov 30th Public Sector Strike re: Pensions)
by mummatron inalthough i'm a member of both the nasuwt & atl unions, i technically can't strike as i don't have a job at present, and although i have been invited by both unions to join in the demonstrations, i won't be rallying/protesting either as i have my 2 small children to look after.
however i am fully behind the strikes.. here's some info for those of you who aren't uk based and would like an overview of the situation.... .
http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2011/nov/29/why-are-teachers-striking.
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I saw some Ambulance workers demonstrating by the side of North Rd (near their HQ) in Cardiff this afternoon but didn't notice anything anywhere else.
What the strike is mainly about is the injustice of the Government changing the goal posts for those already in the scheme, for which they may have signed up years ago, now to be told they must pay more in , work more years before receiving it, and when they do get it, it will be less than it should be.
Well put Wobble! The changing of the goal posts is why I was supporting the strike.
Cantleave & Bigmac - I can sympathise with you both on this one. Despite most recently having worked in education, the only paid work I've done has all been through an agency so I'm technically not public sector and I don't have a public sector pension either. Prior to that I worked in private sector companies where I took out a private pension through the scheme available at one company where I worked. Anyways, 4 years ago, the company I was working at went under and I was made redundant. It then emerged (realised from our annual statements) that during the 7 months leading up to administration, all employees with company pensions had been robbed of 7 months worth of pension payments and the associated tax relief by this company as they hadn't been making the arranged payments and had embezzled the funds instead, even though it showed up on our payslips! It took almost 2 years for that money to be recouped through the administration process but by then our pensions had already lost value due to the recession and we weren't compensated for loss of interest. I have a way to go before I retire but my finances are already looking awful. And I thought I was being sensible by taking out a pension.
MickeyMouse, I shall reply in a few moments...
lisaBObeesa - thank you.
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Any Brits Striking or Rallying Today? (Nov 30th Public Sector Strike re: Pensions)
by mummatron inalthough i'm a member of both the nasuwt & atl unions, i technically can't strike as i don't have a job at present, and although i have been invited by both unions to join in the demonstrations, i won't be rallying/protesting either as i have my 2 small children to look after.
however i am fully behind the strikes.. here's some info for those of you who aren't uk based and would like an overview of the situation.... .
http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2011/nov/29/why-are-teachers-striking.
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Although I'm a member of both the NASUWT & ATL unions, I technically can't strike as I don't have a job at present, and although I have been invited by both unions to join in the demonstrations, I won't be rallying/protesting either as I have my 2 small children to look after. However I am fully behind the strikes.
Here's some info for those of you who aren't UK based and would like an overview of the situation...
http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2011/nov/29/why-are-teachers-strikinghttp://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2011/nov/21/striking-teacher-30-november
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How did Jesus and his apostles make money?
by sabastious injesus and his apostles were once found eating other people's wheat yield.
however the law in question was reported to be the sabbath; so it must not have been considered stealing?.
regardless, how did they earn money?
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I reckon Matthew had a decent severance package from the Jewish Inland Revenue.
When I hear about so many painful and quite frankly dubious experiences that BR readers are having, I realise that many of us have found ourselves trading down in life. You’ll know that you’re doing this if you’re selling yourself short, whether it’s actively or passively.