Congratulations! What treasures they are, and lucky to have you for a grandmother
Mimilly
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Touched by an Angel
by QCA1 in.
i don't post often but i want to share my fantastic news,i have become a granny for the 4th time,my 1st granddaughter was born today 6th,she is so beautiful.
i am so blessed and i thank god for this beautiful angel that has graced our family.to each and everyone love and protect these wonderful beings they are so precious.thanks for listening to an old granny (well not that old really).. qca1
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ladies/gentlemen..Give me your take on this
by Monster inladies i know i shouldn't really hit on this because i have no real understanding of what you go through when you are raped.
i just want to try and understand some of what is going on.
let me ask this q. do you believe that the elders do not want to report the rapes or they are told they cannot report the rapes from the gb?
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Mimilly
Monster; Syn; LB; Shutterbug - your thoughts make me smile. You're living proof that decent men exist.
Monster - thank you for starting this thread.
Morrisamb - You are so right. Breaks are necessary for sanity's sake, not just for a partner, but also for the victim. Healing comes in spurts, just as growth does.
I have often said that I envy others because they can walk away from me, and well, I'm stuck with me. I've had to learn how to accept the lulls in the storms as little breathers from it all.
hugs n love,
Mimilly/Salem
Edited by - Mimilly on 6 August 2002 16:37:45
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Bowenite Rules
by LittleToe inthe following are the rules for the new anti-religion known as the bowenites:
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Someone about to open a can of whoop ass
by LyinEyes inoh yeah , the can shall be opened very soon.. we were ratted on for smoking at the dance club a few weeks ago, the dub that did it told our elders and we just said to hell with it all, we don't beleive it is the "truth" anymore and want to disassociate ourselves.
we told the elders that smoking was not the problem, the borg was, the lies, the child abuse, the cover ups, the changes etc.
in fact i dont even smoke now.
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Even Worse Day
by Sirona inthanks for your support on my thread "bad day".. it seems things don't want to get better.
sorry for moaning, but i thought i'd update you all too.... firstly i saw the dental specialist today (remember, infected wisdom tooth?).
he said (after thorough examination, xray etc).
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AjaxMan.....
by Mimilly ini went to send you an email tonight and found that it was not there .
couldja wouldja email me please?
(not the hotmail addy - the one in my profile).
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ladies/gentlemen..Give me your take on this
by Monster inladies i know i shouldn't really hit on this because i have no real understanding of what you go through when you are raped.
i just want to try and understand some of what is going on.
let me ask this q. do you believe that the elders do not want to report the rapes or they are told they cannot report the rapes from the gb?
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ladies/gentlemen..Give me your take on this
by Monster inladies i know i shouldn't really hit on this because i have no real understanding of what you go through when you are raped.
i just want to try and understand some of what is going on.
let me ask this q. do you believe that the elders do not want to report the rapes or they are told they cannot report the rapes from the gb?
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Mimilly
James - Please let me make it very clear that it is not only men who abuse. I was not only abused by men. My childhood is something straight from a nightmare due to my father being the sick jerk he was. (that is quite another story)
As for triggers - you pretty much got it. There are some who cannot be approached from behind - they'll swing. Others, like you said, cannot be touched a certain way, or looked at a certain way. Others yet, during sex, will just freeze. It isn't easy being around someone with these particular issues, but it is worthwhile learning how to respond more productively because every man will come across a rape victim in his lifetime. The Courage to Heal book is a gift to both the abused and those who care about them. I truly suggest you read it.
The JWs believe that if a woman does not scream while being raped - she is guilty of adultry/immorality. They also favor the men, which leaves the women locked in a judicial committee room with three perverts interrogating them.
When I said I won't attract the predators - I meant it. I was raised to never, ever say 'no'. I didn't know how to. I had to learn to say no, and it took awhile, and pervs can spot a vunerable gal. It's like primal nature where the predator seeks out the weak or infirm prey - they're an easy meal. No, I did not deserve it, nor did I want any of it. I simply was raised to never say no, and that at the most basic level, it was what I was for - in the gospel of my father. (you can look some of my story up by doing a search on this site for My story; pieces of me.) I read yours after reading this thread and you gave me a great giggle
I am very familiar with military life. My first husband was in the Canadian Military for nine years - RCDs (tanks) and we were stationed overseas as well as various parts here back home. Unfortunately the military seems to condone and insite that kind of behaviour.
Email me if you want more details. I am now an open book, so ask what you like. However, this forum is not for certain details of my life.
hugs,
Salem
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ladies/gentlemen..Give me your take on this
by Monster inladies i know i shouldn't really hit on this because i have no real understanding of what you go through when you are raped.
i just want to try and understand some of what is going on.
let me ask this q. do you believe that the elders do not want to report the rapes or they are told they cannot report the rapes from the gb?
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Mimilly
Monster - interesting nick, and welcome to the board.
I have been raped, more than I care to say, but before the borg, during the borg and after the borg. The next one that tries it - dies, plain and simple by my own bare hands. So much for weak.
During the borg - yeh I was dumb enough to go to the elders. Elder one said that I bewitched men and shouldn't be near them. Yep. He said that. Elder two said I must have wanted it because I didn't scream. (how does one scream while enduring a flashback of one's childhood? - He couldn't answer that one) The 'offending' brother got off on the flashback.
To answer your question on the elders responses - it's simple. It has nothing to do with what is written in the literature and everything to do with picking on an already vunerable person. It's power. They want the goodies - the details, and as many details as possible. They're perverts. They re-rape. They re-punch. They re-choke. THEY are abusers by their very words and actions and/or inactions.
I've worked a great deal of this shit out, and do not smear every man with the same brush. There are triggers everywhere and I know how to react now. (was self-distructive back then) People don't need to cringe around me. I understand why a rape victim would respond that way though.
While I am haunted by my past, I will wade thru emotional wet concrete until the day I die before I let those bastards be the ruin of me. I love men - honestly. And I doubt I will ever be in that situation again, where I will have to tear flesh from his bones, because I have changed so much and am a hell of a lot stronger and confident than ever before. I simply won't attract the predators. I'll scare them.
Lotsa love and appreciation to all the men who give a damn, and also love to those who've been there.
Mimilly/Salem
ps: Monster - for info on how to help or know how to act around an abuse victim, check out The Courage to Heal book at your local library.
Edited by - Mimilly on 5 August 2002 23:41:38
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In Silence - Lady Lee
by Lady Lee infather.
in silence he abused me,.
in silence he threatened me to be quiet and not to tell,.
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