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  Are you the black sheep?

  by sleepy in

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  theres got to be quite a few here who, like me are the only onbe to turn "apostate" in their family.. although you know you've done the right thing, all your family think either you have been mislead by satan or you have turned evil.. how do you feel around your family,and do you wonder what they think of you?

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  Mimilly

  I AM the blacksheep of my family for a few reasons.

  One, due to my being in the JWs.

  Two, I was abused and told (which included a couple 'family' members')

  Three, because of the extreme coping mechanism I used as a child to survive.

  Four, I don't seem to age. My relatives keep asking who the mother is. (among my girls and I)

  I am the freakazoid and my relatives stare at me at every occasion. But they can buggar-off and live in their ignorance and denial.

  I don't go with the 'flow' and I'm just being 'me'.

  Mimilly of the proud to be a blacksheep of the family class
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  The worst company I worked for.

  by Preston in

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  nope, the above isn't a cryptic reference to my experience wallowing in the low spark of domineering elders, self-righteous piblishers, and heavy handed overseers.

  it is however an accurate statement regarding my 7-month stay at an internet company here in arizona that sold ink cartridges over the web.

  it was my first full-time job after i graduated from college with my bachelor's degree last year, and in my mind it was one of the most poorly run companies in the world.

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  billygoat - Good for you hon! Wasn't it you who had some serious probs with a fellow employee - sneaking into your computer and such? If so - I'm so proud of you.

  You are a super smart gal, and deserve to be treated better. I'm glad you made the decision to put your sanity before status and money.

  Bravo sweety.

  hugs, Mimilly
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  The Geography of a Woman

  by WhyNow2000 in

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  which country do u like to visit????.

  i like india and spain.. .

  subject: the geography of a woman / man .

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  Mimilly

  No.

  Between the ages of 35 - 40 a woman is like or ..

  She may have been half destroyed during the war but can still be a warm

  and desirable place to visit.

  I am 37 (23 with 14yrs experience)

  She is half discovered, half wild and naturally beautiful with bushland around

  the fertile deltas.

  Between the ages of 30 - 35, she is like or .

  Very hot, relaxed and convinced of its own *(inner)* beauty.

  So there! Mimilly, of the late bloomer class

  Robin Williams said that a man has only enough blood to run one head at a time

  Edited by - Mimilly on 15 August 2002 19:10:12
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  The worst company I worked for.

  by Preston in

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  nope, the above isn't a cryptic reference to my experience wallowing in the low spark of domineering elders, self-righteous piblishers, and heavy handed overseers.

  it is however an accurate statement regarding my 7-month stay at an internet company here in arizona that sold ink cartridges over the web.

  it was my first full-time job after i graduated from college with my bachelor's degree last year, and in my mind it was one of the most poorly run companies in the world.

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  Hmmmm, had to add to this thread. (venting is always good for what ails ya)

  Wal-Mart. Yep, I shop there regularly, but during my 8 month stay there - well, not only did I get injured due to unsafe conditions in the lay-away warehouse, I perpetually found that they were seriously understaffed. They hire people for 3mths and then let them go. I was kept to the maximum allowed before I was to be hired perm.part-time. Due to a large turn around every 3 months, this leads to workers not being familiar or prepared to do their job. This leads to very angry customers, of which the cashiers (of which was my title) heard plenty of.

  I had three schedules to check before I left after each shift. One for lay-away; one out back; one up at the cashier's podium. The shifts were all over creation regarding time and length. People who had worked until 12pm (one hour for clean up) had to be back at 7am. I approached the managers on this one and said, can't you make it so that whoever works til closing doesn't have to be in for opening? Their response? Well, the computer doesn't work that way. Even though I would check each - if someone changed my schedule after I left, I was not told, and would catch s...t, like many others.The workers there work every Sunday, 8-4 cleaning up the store. Xmas was a bloody nightmare. I didn't mind being a cashier. I was made to pull double duty due to lack of staffing. They didn't care about my injury, being that I wasn't a fulltime employee and would be leaving anyway.

  A whole lot of us got laid off on Xmas eve. Wal-Mart's way of saying "Merry Xmas to all!"

  The people there are pretty good - it's the management, and ours is not the only store like this. Wal-Mart is a conformity retail. Next time you go to a Wal-Mart and can't find an associate in a department - complain to the manager. I'll never work for them again. Oh - and when arguing over a price - the squeeky wheel ALWAYS gets the grease.

  Mimilly
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  Coping Mechanisms of Sexual and Physical Abuse

  by Victor_E in

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  "as a child, i learned that strength was the denial of feeling.

  now i see that feeling is the key to self-honesty.

  within feeling is found the passion for change.

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  Great post Victor, and yes, very informative.

  Multiple Personality Disorder or MPD is now listed in the DSM as Dissociative Identity Disorder.

  And it's real. (but don't go believing the Hollywood version) Only those with prolonged and severe abuse while in early childhood can become 'Multiples', or splintered. If the abuse does not start during this early time - the person will not and can not use this mechanism. They can dissociate, but not become splintered to full D.I.D.s

  Mimilly
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  Cygnus and Surgery

  by LovesDubs in

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  i believe our old friend cygnus had surgery this week too...lets keep him in our thoughts.. love ya cyggie!.

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  Mimilly

  (((((((((((((((((((Cygnus)))))))))))))))))))))))

  Here's to a speedy recovery!

  hugs,

  Mimilly
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  My blood boiled at WT comment read on CNN

  by writerpen in

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  i was going along fine with my glass of ice tea, my cat sitting next to me as bill and the two young ladies were being interviewed.

  i even made it okay through the first section of the wt comment that, "we abhor molestation..." but when chung got to the part of their comment that said something to the effect of "we provide counseling and emotional support to victims," i nearly spilled my tea on my cat.

  i replayed this segment alot, and noticed that the reaction of bill and the two ladies to that section was that they were just as shocked as i was.

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  GAWD! I can't believe they have resorted to this depth of deception! How many have died because they were 'counselled' NOT to seek wordly therepy? I know I was definitely looked down on when I saw a shrink.

  Bloody bastards. It will be interesting when someone backs them into a corner on this one in front of a camera!

  They must be living in the twilight zone.

  Mimilly
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  robdar,,,has surgery today!!!

  by ugg in

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  robdar has knee surgery today,,,just wanted to wish her the best!!

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  hope all is going well,,,,and you recover fast...hugs to you

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  Robyn - hope you recover quickly. Lotsa hugs to you hon.

  Mimilly
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  Hugs to Beck.... on today give her your support

  by LyinEyes in

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  dearest beck,, so sorry to hear that today was the day 15 yrs ago of your loss.

  i remember you told me about this in an email and i cant imagine the pain you must be feeling on this day.

  my mother committed suicide on september 15, 1985 and that day always brings up the pain as if it were yesterday.

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  Mimilly

  ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((beck)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

  take care of yourself hon

  Mimilly
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  Abuse survivers - how did you recover?

  by larc in

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  i have read some heart rending stories here about abuse.

  some have commented on their recovery, but many have not.

  i am very interested as to what helped you get over a terrible experience.

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  Mimilly

  Larc - this is totally different for each abused individual. I had a man (at the time) who was incredibly supportive, did research etc. He proved that not all men are scum.

  When I was having flashbacks, I could not tell him from my father. I had to learn that he was NOT my father.

  My mother is a man-basher from the word go due to being severely beaten for 25 years. I didn't want to turn out with her hatred. Not only did I want to change regarding what my father did to me, I also wanted to change some of the attitudes my mother taught me. I, therefor, have taken to seeing people as individuals, and this helps tremendously. No comparisons.

  The result is that I love men - I don't hate them. Hating takes up way too much of my energy and I need every bit of wattage I can muster.

  I was also abused by a woman - not my mother. I realized early on that individuals abuse - not a generalization of peoples or gender.

  I hope this answers your question. I can only speak for myself.

  hugs, Mimilly