Posts by mindfield

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Long-distance Relationships?

by mindfield in

i'd like to ask for a tidbit of advice... if you don't mind!

being the inexperienced 18-year old that i am, and with the close-minded parents that i have, it can be hard to find some good, reliable advice.

so here's my dilemna.

I just got home to check my email, and I think I just really hurt someone. I had clearly said to the girl not to take this boyfriend/girlfriend possibility too seriously, but apparently this just ruined their day. Her sister sent me a very angry email saying that I was a fool who was picking on girls, who wanted to "fuck up" their day, and that I was an @$$hole. Dammit.

I'm really pissed. Of course, I replied to her email. This girl thinks it's easy for me to just say no to a first girlfriend, one who already loves me at that. What an ignorant girl. Jeez.

And to top it off, the 14 year old wrote me that she would have like to do "you know what" (her own words) with me. ... Now if that doesn't put the cherry on the sundae, I don't know what does. I had actually had a fantasm about that, and she said she wanted it!

I need to calm down now. Not easy knowing you ruined someone's day, broke someone's hard, made people angry.

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Long-distance Relationships?

by mindfield in

i'd like to ask for a tidbit of advice... if you don't mind!

being the inexperienced 18-year old that i am, and with the close-minded parents that i have, it can be hard to find some good, reliable advice.

so here's my dilemna.

mindfield

Okay, you guys have a point... guess it's back to the girlfriend-search again for me...

And now, I have to email the girl again to tell her the sad truth... darn.

Well, it was worth a try. Thanx.

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Long-distance Relationships?

by mindfield in

i'd like to ask for a tidbit of advice... if you don't mind!

being the inexperienced 18-year old that i am, and with the close-minded parents that i have, it can be hard to find some good, reliable advice.

so here's my dilemna.

mindfield

Ouch. That was sincere.

I greatly appreciate that you added that I'm not a perv at the end of your post. Otherwise... I would've been slightly peed off.

I was just stating that she had legal age. Nothing else. I also added that I would wait until we engaged in the physical part. How else did you want me to say it? "I have solemnly decided to swear off any sexual contact with this lass for a few years. Nay, we shan't engage in a sexual relationship! Nay, I say!"

That sounded sarcastic, I know. But you've compared me to old men wanting young "lolitas", when all I am is 4 years older than she is. Give me a little credit here. I know, it sounded like my genital area talking. It's hard to repress when you're still a hormone-raging teen... who's never had any sort of girlfriend.

Abaddon, I'll say this bluntly... I'm starting to get lonely. Sure, I have male friends. How many female friends? 1...2...3... yeah, that's about it.

On the other hand, you may have a point...Sigh... She's not the first 14 year old I felt attracted to. Now before you start jumping on me like I'm some kind of pedo, i just turned 18 last month. And the other girl was about to turn 15. So the difference was much smaller. Aaargh, the thing is I already emailed the girl to tell her that I agreed to a small relationship between us, but that it would have to be taken in baby steps.

And abaddon... no, I'm not a man. Believe me. I sound wordy, but that's because I spend my free time reading the dictionnary in high school. Unless "man" has another definition, I don't think I'm it.

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Long-distance Relationships?

by mindfield in

i'd like to ask for a tidbit of advice... if you don't mind!

being the inexperienced 18-year old that i am, and with the close-minded parents that i have, it can be hard to find some good, reliable advice.

so here's my dilemna.

mindfield

Thanks wonderwoman... I'll be careful, don't worry...

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Is SEX all men care about??

by butalbee in

this thread is dedicated to all of the horny stud's out there who think with their penis: "big breasts, nice ass, i wanna mound her, blah, blah, blah...." i suppose then this would include ever man in the entire world, as horny as they are, just thinking about one thing and one thing only, sex...not that sex is a bad thing, sex is very nice, except maybe if you're a single jw, then your hand is your personal best friend.

but even so, they still think of sex, they just won't admit to it, or have lost the key to their chastity belt.

when a man see's a nice looking woman, what's the first thing they think about: "wow, wonder what she looks like naked", not "i bet she has a wonderful personality.

mindfield

I'll bet that's it. I have no idea what the expression stands for, but there definitely belongs a bracket right there.

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Long-distance Relationships?

by mindfield in

i'd like to ask for a tidbit of advice... if you don't mind!

being the inexperienced 18-year old that i am, and with the close-minded parents that i have, it can be hard to find some good, reliable advice.

so here's my dilemna.

mindfield

Hi concerned mama,

Yeah, that's about what I thought as well. We'll have to start slowly, let them know we're only friends (for now) and are testing if this spark is really there. I've never had a girlfriend, so i have all the time. I hope she doesn't mind slow steps, though...

I think this will be one heckuva experience, whether it works or not.

Oh, and I checked about the "legal" age, and yes, it is 14. So theoretically, we could engage in... sexual... contact. But I think I'll wait a little for that.

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I'm sorry but here is another goodbye...

by Mindchild in

jw
friends

i've been depressed big time over all the fights, attacks, flame wars, bickering, complaining and what have you that seems to dominate the board these days.. i've just decided that there is no point in my bringing down myself any further and that i don't have anything of value to offer here, especially since it takes as much emotional effort to insulate myself from my friends behaving badly, that i just can't seem to offer much in the way of positive vibes.. i will check back some time (maybe a month or so0 down the road to see if this place has gotten any more mellow and friendly but until then.... hasta la vista and the best of luck to you.

any who wants can still drop me email.. goodbye,.

skipper

mindfield

Noooooooooooo.......not mindchild! Not you! Aaah, nuts. *kicks dirt* I agree, this board does have its problems. But it does surprise me you're that affected by it.

So be it, Mindchild... I hope I'll be reading your thought-provoking posts (they are) soon.

Take care!

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Long-distance Relationships?

by mindfield in

i'd like to ask for a tidbit of advice... if you don't mind!

being the inexperienced 18-year old that i am, and with the close-minded parents that i have, it can be hard to find some good, reliable advice.

so here's my dilemna.

mindfield

Thanks guys...

But actually, she's 14...

And yes, if you're wondering, I can keep my "thing" in my pants. I do have sexual emotions, but I can take care of them juuuust fine. Don't you fret. I'm not looking for release from sexual tension in this relationship, especially not with a 14 year old. I'm looking for someone I can have fun with, tell stuff that I wouldn't tell others, etc. The sex part will come later.

I'll check if there's a bus going from here to sherbrooke... if there is, it'll save me a lot of effort.

Thanks again for the advice.

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Long-distance Relationships?

by mindfield in

i'd like to ask for a tidbit of advice... if you don't mind!

being the inexperienced 18-year old that i am, and with the close-minded parents that i have, it can be hard to find some good, reliable advice.

so here's my dilemna.

mindfield

Oops, this should be under Dating, right?

Doh.

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Long-distance Relationships?

by mindfield in

i'd like to ask for a tidbit of advice... if you don't mind!

being the inexperienced 18-year old that i am, and with the close-minded parents that i have, it can be hard to find some good, reliable advice.

so here's my dilemna.

mindfield

I'd like to ask for a tidbit of advice... if you don't mind! Being the inexperienced 18-year old that I am, and with the close-minded parents that I have, it can be hard to find some good, reliable advice.

So here's my dilemna. I've never had a girlfriend, (not surprising considering most of my years were spent under rigid JW law) and I'd really like to have one. However, last summer I was a summer camp advisor for groups of kids that came and went each week. During the last few weeks, the older kids would come. During the last week, these charming, attractive girls caught my eye. And it came as a huge surprise to me when I realized, during the course of the week, that one of them had a crush on me! My amazement was major.

Now this girl is 15 years old. We've only seen each other for a week, almost a year ago. However, we've been emailing each other pretty regurlary about our news, however unimportant. She's even sent me her new school photo, and va-va-voom! Wow. Anyways, you get the point.

Now I wasn't sure if she still had the same feelings for me or if she had a boyfriend. The most recent emails between each of us confirmed that yes, she did have feelings, and no, she did not have a boyfriend. And yes, she'd like to go out with me.

Now it would take less than a second for me to agree to this. However, as you may have guessed by the subject header, she doesn't live really close. It's about a 1.5 hour drive from here. It's not too bad, but we'd only be able to see each other on weekends, and even then I'd have to get my license (I know, I know, I should have it by now) and borrow my parents car. Which I'm sure they won't jump with glee.

Do any of you have advice on this matter? I really have feelings for this girl, and that she has feelings for me on a romantic level is an immensely pleasant surprise. I'd like to know what you think...
thanx.