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  little acts of kindness.

  by zeb in

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  just had a coffee on way home when two young mums with babys in strollers came in with the usual bags and stuff for the little ones needs.

  i recall our days of little ones and the times we rarely went out.. i bought a coffee voucher for each mum and gave them my best wishes.

  i delight in doing random acts of kindness.. i wish everyone here as well a safe and happy christmas/ new year time.

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  zeb
  Just had a coffee on way home when two young mums with babys in strollers came in with the usual bags and stuff for the little ones needs. I recall our days of little ones and the times we rarely went out.
  I bought a coffee voucher for each mum and gave them my best wishes. I delight in doing random acts of kindness.
  I wish everyone here as well a safe and happy Christmas/ new year time. Hugs!
  Live long and prosper peace unto you all

  Wonderful Zeb.

  I have been rushing about all distracted lately...I will deliberately seek out a kind moment I can give to someone today - all thanks to you and your post.
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  Do You Feels That Your Life Was Ruined Because of Ypur JW Experience?

  by minimus in

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  i know that some are upset because of the time lost because of ever having been a witness.

  have you moved on as an ex jw or are you stil devastated because of your past jw lige?.

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  The Fall Guy
  Years ago, certain steel components were heat treated in baths of molten salt and then a furnace, in order for them to withstand the stresses of the rigours to which they'd be subjected. Some components were twisted by the experience and discarded. The parts which endured could then take whatever came their way.
  Ruined? Definitely not. More determined and resilient.

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  mentalclarity
  I did need a huge learning curve when I left to get some life skills I didn't posses as a born-in. The choices I make now about my life are very intentional - that includes being responsible for becoming aware of how my JW upbringing might have skewed my thinking. Being a JW took time away from me and I am not willing to let it take any more of my time. As soon as I got out I hit the road running and I am now reaping the rewards. My life is far from ruined.

  I copy pasted the replies above because they express how I feel better than I can. On a good day and even a so - so day the above is exactly how I view it.

  On a really bad day (usually precipitated by hurt due to still in family members words or actions) I remind myself that many people walking the earth today - in fact most, struggle with something. Some of their backgrounds are less than ideal, far less.

  Being raised a JW was an obstacle but not the only one. Most people have situations from childhood of one sort or another they have to overcome, and overcoming them is the true heart of the matter.

  This helps me when I think along those lines and I can honestly say the bad days come less and less the further away you get from the whole JW experience.

  
  
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  Should private citizens be allowed to video record law enforcement?

  by Fisherman in

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  i saw an article in the news yesterday that laws are going to be passed subjecting the police to being recorded by anyone while performing their duty or enforcing the law and encourages citizens to sue if they interfere.

  some law enforcement agents become angry and confiscate recording devices from people recording them while making an arrest, etc.. it does seem that the work that the police and other government agents do is public and not private or confidential so there should be nothing to hide from the cameras.

  on the other hand, how can one distinguish being shot by a camera or by a weapon until one is hit?.

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  Yes.
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  The New JWdom - Vew of Older Publications? (and other related questions)

  by Magnum in

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  i feel that there aren’t many of that type anymore, but there have to be some – mostly old-timers.

  how do they study?.

  when i was active, i collected all the old publications i could find.

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  Magnum I hear you on the puzzlement at what happened to deep researchers. Last contact I had, they all seemed to be using that same energy to learn to use tablets and such.

  I guess most have either left or have gotten very quiet. There are other distractions such as other language Halls that some are using to create some challenge for themselves.

  One big problem is there is no oracle now. Ever since Franz, they were coasting on fumes. The last part of the 90s onward there was a lot of copy/paste going on in the new publications being rolled out, I cant be the only one who saw that?
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  Crazy statements from JWTalk

  by Jehovah lol in

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  i'm sure many of you are aware of the jwtalk site, a message board which has yet to succumb to apostasy (give it time).. some of the forums there are visible to the public, and i've seen some crazy stuff.

  here is a sampling:.

  "satan is really trying his best to make things worst for the witnesses, knowing the 6,000 years is almost up, from eve's creation!".

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  I signed up and still have an account but dont go there much because they all sound so very crazy to me now.
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  And finally I'm out

  by Skepsis in

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  hi all.. it's being a while that i don't share in the forum.

  after moving to another country and finding a job, i asked my congregation in my country to send my publishing card here.

  once i did it, i stopped attending meetings.

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  Good job Skepsis! You have accomplished much in a short time.
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  Whole families leaving the Org has increased

  by pomo6780 in

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  i have noticed in the uk a few families i used to know while in the borg have exited together.

  some include former elders and ministerial servants.

  i observed on social media pages that the kids have 'worldly' boyfriends and girlfriends and they look so much happier than they did in the org.

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  My personal family left over a period of 2 years. This occurred 5 plus years ago. My siblings with their families are all still ragingly "in" but since none of me or mine are actually DFd, they are somewhat fragmented in how they chose to deal with us and associate with us. Some more, some less.

  I dont think they (my in family members) realize how very close to the edge as far as being mentally ready to walk some of the younger still in family members are. These young ones confide but vaguely. I listen with complete empathy and support but do no "campaigning" for leaving.

  I think it should happen organically on its own if that is the choice.
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  Thanksgiving Eve Sunset

  by compound complex in

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  millie210

  Great picture and beautifully framed,

  Thank you for posting it!
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  Death of a last Grandparent

  by ScottyRex in

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  still read this forum from time to time, and a long time member originally since early 2000's.

  recently lost my last surviving grandparent, my great and wonderful nan.

  what a flood of emotions that released!

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  millie210

  Thank you Scotty for introducing me to your lovely Nan. She sounds priceless. Your post has renewed my determination to be "that kind of Nan" to my own grandson.

  Thank you and your Nan for the inspiration.

  Hugs to you.
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  ...and so the shunning begins

  by Phoebe in

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  i am now officially 'inactive' so am no longer chased by an elder a for a report.

  the congregation i belonged to never had much time for me anyway, i said once i could drop down dead in the k.hall and no one would notice.

  so i never expected anyone to be particularly bothered that i wasn't there and they aren't.

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  millie210

  Such a sad but familiar story Phoebe. I supported my "best friend" (a JW) through an affair and a disfellowshipping, and subsequent reinstatement and now ten years later? I am inactive and she says I make her "uncomfortable".

  I understand it I guess, because she has never liked getting to far away from being told what to do whereas I always felt restless and squeezed in to obedient compliance as a JW.

  I miss the closeness she and I had. I am sure you too miss the daily communications you had with your friend. I can honestly say there is a difference in missing her and missing "the relationship" and the space it occupied in my day to day life.

  Thanks for starting this thread. Reading everyones thoughts has been very heartwarming and encouraging for me too.

  Hugs to you Phoebe. xxxooo