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  Cousin's Runaway Girlfriend Living with us

  by RunAwayDaughter in

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  my cousin's girlfriend moved from another state and is now living in our home.

  they said she lived in a bad situation, but i don't believe them.

  my cousin lies.

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  millie210

  Hi RunAwayDaughter,

  You are living a parents worse nightmare and I am sorry you are having to go through this.

  I read through your first posts and the one above where you state it is your daughter.

  I am assuming she is 18?

  If not then she is a minor but since you havent invoked the rights of parents of minors, I am guessing she is over 18.

  I know it is not what you want to hear but usually in these situations, ANYTHING you do will result in her digging in more.

  It sounds like you have limited communication with her. Let her know you will have a ticket (NOT MONEY) at the gate anytime she wants to fly home and then drop any and all efforts to "reason" with her.

  When you talk to her share your love and mirror (validate) her feelings.

  This will be the hardest thing youve ever done but its worked for other moms.

  There is a saying "If you find yourself in a tug of war, lay down your end of the rope."

  If you can think of ways to effectively do that it will let her see her situation in her own time.

  Remember that half of all marriages end in divorce, in relationships that are not marriages, the demise rate is even higher. In 5 years she wont even be with this guy but based on how you handle things now, she will know she always has her mother to turn to.
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  I found a silver NWT at a very small library.

  by blownaway in

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  my wife and i went to war eagle ar saturday.

  there is a small library.

  its about 18 inches x 18 inches.

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  millie210

  I noticed in the silver Bible, when you look up Heb 10:25, they took out Matt. 18:20 from the side margin.

  Its there in the red bible but not the silver. I guess they dont want people thinking they can meet in small groups?
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  Advice from you to non jw

  by Salley in

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  i am not a jw, but know a jw family.

  seem very loving and happy.

  i have come to know the religion and have researched via this site,youtube, reddit etc.

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  millie210

  In this religion you must act happy lest you be viewed as not faithful enough. This leads to a perfunctory pleasant facade that is quite pleasing to look upon at first glance.

  It is superficial though and there is a lot of sadness and anxiety lurking under the surface.

  Think of this religion as an iceburg floating on the oceans surface. There is what you see (sometimes quite majestic and beautiful) and then there is what is underneath, the larger, more jagged part.

  This is the part that the public does not know about. You can learn about that large mass of convoluted teachings here on this site though if you are interested.

  Glad you are here.
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  wifibandit - are you out there?

  by ttdtt in

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  has anyone heard for wifibandit?it has been months since he last posted..

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  millie210

  Such a polite and informative poster.

  Miss you wi!
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  suicide

  by zeb in

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  who among us has known a jw who has committed suicide.

  i believe this as a separate subject has not been covered..

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  millie210

  If I had a terminal diagnosis, I would take control of the "when" in my own way. But I dont consider that suicide.

  I have only known one JW personally that committed suicide. It was a woman and it was due to the pain caused by gossip.
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  My dad RIP

  by ScottyRex in

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  my dad died 2 weeks ago on sunday.

  i will miss him so much.

  he was the funniest most greatest man i have ever known.. granted for the first 30 years i wasnt that much keen on him and i don't think he was on me much either.....let me explain.. mum and dad met in 1964, mum was the prettiest girl in the town, mini skirts, raised hair, the daintiest figure, she looked the spit of audrey hepburn at breakfast at tiffanys.

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  millie210

  Thank you for sharing from your heart to ours Scott.

  I love that you got those last precious days with your father, caring for him. Im sure that meant a lot to you both.

  Much love to you and your family.
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  Is he interested?

  by Sunnybear in

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  i met a wonderful man on match.com several months ago.

  on our first date, there was amazing chemistry and we ended up having sex.

  it was not planned, it just happened.

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  millie210

  dubstepped
  You're going to fall for his crap, aren't you? You're going to marry a wannabe stalker that is also a wannabe cultist, aren't you? You're still asking questions, aren't you? You get what you deserve. You were warned.

  Yes she is. That was pretty clear in her original post.
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  Above the Fog, Below the Snow

  by compound complex in

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  i live in the sierra nevada foothills of california; a selling point for prospective homeowners in the slightly lower elevation is what is touted in the subject title.

  well, right now we are being blasted by a storm barreling down from canada, with hazardous driving and blizzard conditions in the offing, higher up.. as to fog, this photo offers a rare display of misty conditions over our lake, that after the last major rain storm.

  it reminds me of summer days of my youth on the pacific coast..

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  millie210

  That fog on the lake picture is stunning. Thank you so much for sharing it CoCo
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  Is he interested?

  by Sunnybear in

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  i met a wonderful man on match.com several months ago.

  on our first date, there was amazing chemistry and we ended up having sex.

  it was not planned, it just happened.

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  millie210

  The way you described your connection that you felt with this guy in the opening post sounds as though you think what you have with him is magical.

  I think you will follow it based on that and you will be severely hurt.

  I wish you could run away but that would take more control than most people have.

  I am so sorry for you because I can see the ending and it is going to be bad.

  I know this post sucks. Reality can be so very harsh
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  Im Writing An Ex-JW Self Help Book

  by pale.emperor in

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  2. experiences

  we all know waking up from the cult and trying to leave is a very scary and life changing experience.

  for many it's traumatic and few find the transition easy.

  we have to deal with families cutting us off entirely or keeping us at arms length at best, lies being told about us by the organization, ex members gossiping about us and finding ourselves in a world very different from what we're prepared for.. for this reason, i've decided to start writing a self-help book informing jws of what to expect when they leave the org.

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  millie210

  You have a clear and relatable style.

  You are the perfect one to write a book!