Posts by castyurcare

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She

by joannadandy in

her employer genuinely likes her.

she is hardworking and does what she says.

shes never raised a ruckus and always smiles at everyone.

castyurcare

Joanna,

Excellent writing! Amazing! Scary! How did you get in my head? Are you published??

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married to witness and depression

by kls in

hi' i am a new kid on the block suffering from depression 'being married to a witness for 27yrs.is there others that would like to share there thoughts or answers?

in wisconsin

And I thought I was the lone ranger! I have been married to a JW for 29 years. We didn't start out that way, but several yrs. after we were married he got into jws, I didn't really have an interest at the time so he kinda got sucked in and sorry to say now, I didn't protest or research what jws believe. He is a nice person but just like the rest of 'em, terribly mislead and brainwashed. Even after all this time, I have a hard time rising above the situation. As you all know, jw beliefs permeate every situation, every aspect of married life and I am so weary of it, I just try to go on..........

Hope you find help and peace here. I havent posted much as I am new to posting and have only been in chat 1 or 2 times, but from reading the posts on this site, my heart goes out to all those who have had a horrendous childhood because of being forced to comply to jw beliefs and standards. Wishing healing and health to all~~~~

I also live in Wisconsin!!

Edited by - castyurcare on 5 February 2003 1:55:47

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I am new here - sharing my story

by YellowLab in

i am new here and this is my very first post.

i've been following the message threads over the past few months and decided it was time to register.

(i couldn't decide on a unique username or else i would have done it sooner!).

castyurcare

Hi Yellowlab and Welcome!

Enjoyed your post and am thankful you and your wife are out! And are adjusting. I have a bit of a different situation than most since my husband is still in, and I have really never been involved other than an occasional meeting/assembly/gathering way back.... In fact my husband will be spending 3 "fun" filled days in Janesville this week-end!! So thankful he can't make our son go with him anymore! I live in West Allis AND my in-laws (thankfully not JWs) live in Eagle ! Small world! I can think of a former KH real close to where I now live, but I think it had windows, even went to a meeting there once, bored silly at the time! This board is the place to be to get encouragement and information! Thanks to Simon and the many hours he puts in here. Looking forward to hearing more from you!

C.

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I saved some lives today! Found a TRACT

by Beans2 in

today i was working in the subway here in toronto and i looked over at a public phone and i saw what seemed to be a tract, so over i went and yes it was!

mysteriously placed so one could see it, no doubt counted as a placement and a few hours on the report.

so later on i am walking up the stairs and again i see this piece of paper, yet another tract of a different name.. so by taking these tracts i believe i may have saved someones life from the pain and suffering we have all been through.

castyurcare

Please be alert to Tracts, Watchtowers, and Awakes "placed" in waiting rooms especially in doctors' offices. I have found them in laundromats as well. Now imagine what I have to put up with as my dub hubby has a regular old library of the untruth at home. And cassette tapes And vhs..... ad nauseoum

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My mommy doesn't want me. . I need a hug

by StinkyPantz in

i sent my mom a letter not too long ago telling her that i wanted my family back.

well, i got a very unexpected response.

she basically said "no".

castyurcare

(((((((((STINKY)))))))) Hugs and Love to you, sweetie. Try not to let this heart wrenching experience make you bitter. If you do, it will eat you alive. Instead, may you become better person because of it. Then YOU have the victory and YOU will have overcome!

It's not always what you've accomplished in life that matters, but what you've overcome.

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We Disassociated Ourselves Tonite!!!

by LyinEyes in

jw
friends

local elder called tonite, with a witness on the phone to ask if it is true we were smoking ?

we said yes, and we know who told on us.

it was a ms who was at the club just last week with another woman, not his wife of course, while she was at the meeting.

castyurcare

CONGRATULATIONS DEDE AND DENNY!

One of the most exciting aspects of your d/a is the fact that you did it TOGETHER! You have an "in house" support system which means so much! That will strengthen your marriage and give your children the security they need! Good Job! Go Forward------------------------>

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...oh my head!

by dmouse in

jw
friends

...why is that clock ticking so loud, doesn't it know i have a king-sized hangover?.

ahem, i do apologize for that less than sober post yesterday.

you see i had been celebrating with my cohorts.. this was me yesterday afternoon, graduating with a ba (hons):.

castyurcare

CONGRATULATIONS DMOUSE !!

What a happy time for you (except for the hangover) ! How fortunate your 11 year old students are to have you for their teacher!

Regards,

castyurcare

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HELP-I'M ADDICTED!!

by Perfection Seeker in

i just found this website on june 23- and haven't done anything else since!

i am spending 25 (lol) hours a day on this site!

i can't leave.

castyurcare

***sigh of relief*** i am addicted to this website too and paying for it big time---->lack of sleep! However!!! It is very informative, and i am getting insights and understanding , much needed. Now, if I could just find someone else out there in the same situation, ie. spouse a jw and i am NOT! Holidays are a real tough time at our house, i am going to his family's 4th of July party and he stays home! None of his family is jw, so thankful for that! And this week-end is the 3 day convention! What a waste of time and gas! Wonder what "new revelations" will be revealed this time! Man, this is getting old...........didn't mean to whine (cheese and crackers anyone??) just need to vent a little.... thanks....

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YES! I AM FREE AT LAST!

by Kjell Hedblom in

i just got out from jw bye a d.f.

4 weeks ago after 44 years as an active jw.am i insane or why am i having that great feeling of freedom??

i am sitting here infront of the computer having a cold beer and just enjoying life.shouldnt i be crying and having a depression sitting here in tears over missing all my jw friends that now are vanished??.

castyurcare

Congratulations Kjell ! And how wonderful you have peace and feel free~~ the blind man is made to see!! I bet your smile is the biggest smile you ever had!

castyurcare

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Mulan could use some cyber hugs...

by Princess in

jw
friends

i will spare you all the gory details until she is ready to post them.

my mom (mulan) is having trouble with my grandma again.

looks like this time she has finally burned her last available bridge and will be moving out.

castyurcare

Dear Mulan and Princess, ((((((((((((((((hugshugshugs))))))))))

So sorry to read about your difficulties and challenges! You both seem so sweet and caring, I am sure you are thankful you have one another to lean on at this time. Mulan, you will never regret that you have been a good daughter making the sacrifices you have to care for your parents. When you look back on these times, you will be able to say you did your best in caring for them with no regrets. Being a caregiver is not an easy job, especially as the physical and psychological needs of parents seem to change often and sadly, sometimes deteriorate rather quickly. Been there, done that. I've read somewhere that as people age, their personality and character traits tend to become exacerbated so that a person who may have been critical, now lashes out at others with scathing words. Unfortunately you become the undeserved recipient. I am seeing this type of behavior in my husband's mother. It takes a pretty thick-skinned person to walk away unaffected!

Been thinking about the aging process alot lately since I have elderly family members and know friends who are becoming caregivers for their parents. Looking to some of these elderly, who are wonderful examples of growing old gracefully can be a real encouragement.

This past Mother's Day at church, each mother was given a book by Ruth Bell Graham, "Blessings For A Mother's Day." I would like to share her Prayer of a Middle-Aged Woman. It has made me pray, "Lord,make me sweet as I age!" ok so here goes.....

"Dear Lord,

Thou knowest better than I myself that I am growing older and will someday be old. Keep me from the fatal habit of thinking I must say something on every subject and on every occasion. Release me from craving to straighten out everybody's affairs. Make me thoughtful but not moody, helpful but not bossy. With my vast store of wisdom, it seems a pity not to use it all, but Thou knowest, Lord, that I must have a few friends at the end.

Keep my mind free from the recital of endless details, give me wings to get to the point. Seal my lips on my aches and pains. They are increasing, and love of rehearsing them is becoming sweeter as the years go by. I dare not ask for grace enough to enjoy the tales of others' pains, but help me to endure them with patience.

Give me a growing humility and a lessening cocksureness when my memory seems to clash with memories of others. Teach me the glorious lesson that occasionally I may be mistaken. Keep me reasonably sweet....and not hard to live with...for a sour old person is one of the crowning works of the devil. Give me the ability to see good things in unexpected places, and talents in unexpected people. And give me the grace to tell them so."

Hope this helps!

castyurcare 1 Peter 5:7