You might find my book helpful. It isn't out yet but there is information on my author web site: www.fatherstouch.com
I was sexually abused for eleven years; been to hell and back but am a happy,loved and thriving adult today. I've spoke to over 1000 victims in the last two decades. Let me know if I can be of assistance.
morrisamb
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Effects of molestion--looking for sites
by ninjaturtle ini know a couple of people who were molested, and it's very painful indeed.
i'm looking for websites that explain the effects of various general types of molestation, whether it be rape, pressure, or whatever.
how can one learn about the effects and be helped to cope?
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For those who've left - any regrets?
by starfish422 ini left almost nine years ago at age 18; my only real regret was that i was good friends with a young brother and i never said goodbye to him, or even let him know that i was planning to leave (had to leave my parents' home secretly while they were at the meeting one sunday; they had such a hold over me that i could never have stood up to them and told them beforehand).
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i have no other regrets about leaving; i'm am now happily agnostic and so thankful that i found the strength to break free.. anyone have any similar regrets?
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comment on Mommie's point about not going to funerals of JW's
I went to one 10 years after I left (I still hadn't been disassociated yet..that came later), it was the weirdest thing...like an episode right out of the Twilight Zone..actually Night Gallery; anyways, familiar faces, everyone looked older, I looked better because I didn't dress like them anymore but it was as if I was invisable. As though I were a ghost sitting among them. The fact that they would or would not say hi to me in this situation carried no weight whatsoever.
It was my first witness function in a decade, so I feared my own reactions -- during the prayers I held my head up and looked around.. I just knew I didn't belong here and wasn't going back for a rerun. -
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Movie that could describe your experience as a jw?
by Nicolas inpersonnally, i thing that the movie "the matrix" and the movie "the truman show" really describe my experience in the wbts.
when i discovered the truth about the "truth", my perception of the reality became really different.
all that i have been taught was just a big lie.
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Terms of Endearment -- Shirley Maclains's character...the good little witness with men courting, no swearing, no feeling; then she gets fucked by the astronaut neighbour...Jack Nicholson...and there was no going back. Hmmmm...sounds like the story of my life...
But I agree with the other posts Truman Show and Stepford Wives as well.
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Woman runs down man in car leaves him 2 die
by bboyneko in.. http://www.cnn.com/2002/law/03/08/hit.and.rundeath.ap/index.html.
this is awful, a woman hits a homeless man, and hes lodged in her windshield bleeding ot death with 2 broken legs, and she drives all the way home, leaves him in her garage and calls friends to find out what to do, and they tell her to dump him somewhere... so he bleeds to death in her garage and she dumps his body in a park.
and while he was in the garage one of the first things she did was have sex with her boyfriend.. blegh..i'm appaled that this could happen anywhere in the world.
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Reading your heartfelt comments in response to bboyneko's thread, (which I totally concur with), couldn't help thinking...'And the Jehovah's Witnesses say we have Satan! Some of the kindest human beings I've encountered, no, most of the, kindest are considered weak or evil by the organization.
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For those who've left - any regrets?
by starfish422 ini left almost nine years ago at age 18; my only real regret was that i was good friends with a young brother and i never said goodbye to him, or even let him know that i was planning to leave (had to leave my parents' home secretly while they were at the meeting one sunday; they had such a hold over me that i could never have stood up to them and told them beforehand).
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i have no other regrets about leaving; i'm am now happily agnostic and so thankful that i found the strength to break free.. anyone have any similar regrets?
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I left at the end of '85. Regrets no, pain, every once in a while. One time I was at a buffet style restaurant with two "worldly" friends (whatever!), and two elders and their wives were at the same restaurant. Now they hadn't seen me in years and one of the elders had been like a 'dad' to me. Three walked by our table looking straight ahead but my former 'dad's' wife turned to me and said, "Hi, how are you?" It was so kind of her, so Christ-like, but in contrast with the others it just exaggerated the situation. I felt like shit --even though I'm a happy person with great friends-- I didn't feel like eating and couldn't wait to get out of there. Hey, we're only human, right?!
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Did anyone watch Larry King show last night?
by JBean injust wanted to know if anyone saw the segment where he was interviewing david smith (ex-husband of babykiller, susan smith, here in the us).
it was a great interview, despite the fact that over 5 years after this horrible murder, the dad (david) could barely speak about his 2 small sons.
at one point, larry asked david if he believed in god.
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Dear JBean, thanks for posting that. I flipped channels but missed that part. How interesting! And yet, I thought there was something different about him at the time of the murder. READ: Not allowed to express feelings ie. anger. When you've got the one true faith, you 'know' the dead will live again, why wallow in self-pity? God, I remember this sister had a twin still-birth. People were expecting her to go in service the next day..(that was '84) ...I told a sister, "Have some empathy. That girl should be allowed to feel and express her pain." She called her right up!
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Don't have HBO, this Canadian just caught her on Larry King.
The scenes from the show were the first time I thought Monica did something to make herself look good.
I think she made a mistake which she has paid for in spades but CLINTON & HILARY, they are unbelievable. I am a male feminist and I can't believe there are women who believe Clinton really 'CARES' about their cause, equal rights, etc.
This guy made a liar out of how many women now? He called Monica, "That woman", as though she were some psycho bitch!As far Monica doing the pres., Canadian singer Jann Arden said it best, "Was I surprised Monica did the president? There was a time when I was so poor, I did a guy so he would buy me onion rings!"
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Was leaving easy for you?
by Preston ini was contemplating today on how easy it was for me to leave the congregation compared to what many people here had to deal with.
i mean, all the letters, judicial committees, family breakdowns were not really something i had to deal with.
the worst thing i had to deal with was when a couple of elders inquired if i ever "acted on" my being gay.
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Preston..I quietly walked away in '85 and didn't get disassociated until I wrote a column in a paper in '95 about being gay and feeling free after being a caged bird all my life. All those years later, it still bothered me. I got a call after the article appeared..the Elder (who at one time was like a father to me) says they want me to an Elder's meeting. I said, "I haven't been a Witness in 10 years and I don't consider myself one!" "We still consider you one, so we'd like you to come in and talk to us." I said I wouldn't and he says, "So you are saying you want us to disassociate you." I said, "No, I didn't say that." Then he went back to wanting me to come to an Elder's meeting. This went back and forth until I said, "You do whatever, bye." My Mother told me they announced I was disassociated that week.
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where can I find a good woman?
by honestlysweetguy ini am a very sweet 22 year old male living in texas.
for some reason, i can't seem to find a decent woman.
i don't know what i'm doing to turn them off.
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Ring gave great advice.
Hey, do you believe in In praise of Older Women?
Cause my Ma is single, devout, faithful...
just kidding, to quote her, "I don't need a man"You are only 22!! I didn't go on a date until I was 25/26...don't rush it...focus on other things and it might come to you!