i need your guys help.. some of you might know some of my past from other posts...but new life changes have happened to me.. i have recently joined the united states navy.
i was orginally going in as a nuclear engineer...i have instead opted for a much less boring life in the advanced electronics computer field (aecf) rate.
my father's side of the family (who has been out for 20+ years) are very excited and proud of me for my decision.
Wow, good for you, sounds really exciting. Sorry about your mom flipping out, however, that is to be expected when one is a JW. She sounds totally and completely brainwashed. Maybe you could just shun her back and not bother telling her when you leave, as it doesn't sound like she wants to know anyway.
cj
what was your experience like as a kid on halloween growing up in a jw family?.
i was raised in a jw family but never got baptized.. my father used to make me and my sister put old awakes and watchtower's in the trick or treaters' bags.
we would say: "i don't celebrate halloween but here's a treat for you!
When I was a kid, we, and a lot of other local JWs & their kids, went to Knott's Berry Farm amusement park, for the evening and had loads of fun. When I told the kids at school, they were JEALOUS of me!! It was a super, super time.
CJ
*** w60 11/1 p. 669 what does halloween mean to you?
"what does halloween mean to you?.
on halloween night when confronted by a masked, costumed youth making the requesting threat, trick or treat, do you think it cute, just a harmless occasion for children to enjoy themselves?".
Outlaw-so true, so true!!
CJ
so we are out treat or treating and i notice a dog very distressed howling and shaking with fear... so i try and approach her but she starts growling at me.
carrot rings the doorbell of the house that she is hiding on and the people have never seen her before... quite a few neighbours come out and we eventually win her round... she is terrified and very disorientated.... we scoure the streets looking for her owners but to no avail... all we can gather from her behaviour is that she was most likely thrown from a car... she has not long finished whelping a litter and is clearly distressed... we end up bringing her back for the night and has not left carrot alone... she has been lying on him, licking and kissing him.
all she has wanted is to be curled up on his lap.... obviously he is her saviour!
"Dog" is just beautiful, and you were super sweet to rescue her!
CJ
even as a witness,i was uncomfortable talking about everything we believed.
i remember working with my brother out and service and he found an interested person.
my brother was sharing information out of the bible teach book.
I always hated it when someone started in about 'war broke out in heaven, and down the great dragon was hurled' (or something to that effect), I always wondered 'who is going to understand that?'.
CJ
also posted on the yuku forum.. i thought it might be amusing to make a list of things i remember when i was a dub that we couldn't have or own or wear.
(some of these things vary by where you live, in other places dubs have them, it just depends).
obviously the list goes on forever, but feel free to add things.
Of course it is cultural, the USA is notorious for its puritanical ideas, Warren Jeffs and the Amish dress code come to mind. Having been in Europe approximately 10 years ago and seeing JW women wearing pants in street work witnessings, I was horribly jealous. That wouldn't fly in the US. But, it never, ever hurts to look great whatever you are doing.
@James-semantics, darling, semantic, pantyhose, nylons, stockings whatever you call them in your locale. The hosiery manufacturers are elatec with the new Duchess, as leg wear is required, after lagging sales for years, women are now buying the constricting things again. I'm sure most men really like the crotchless kind, but just don't tell the Queen!
CJ
also posted on the yuku forum.. i thought it might be amusing to make a list of things i remember when i was a dub that we couldn't have or own or wear.
(some of these things vary by where you live, in other places dubs have them, it just depends).
obviously the list goes on forever, but feel free to add things.
@watersprout-of course women can wear anything they want and be comfortable and sometimes look totally hideous. Tube tops on anyone other than the uber skinny tend to make one look like a cow in dire need of milking. People don't have to look at themselves when they are out and about, other people do. I've been in New York City in the morning, people walking around with their faces unwashed and total bed head, comfy-yes, attractive-no. I've been to store where people were shopping in their pajamas and slippers, comfy-yes, attractive-no. I'm sure you are very sexy in your heels on the tennis court, but I'm betting that your game sucks or you've managed to turn your ankle.
Dignitaries around the world require people who have an audience with them to dress properly. The Queen of England requires that no one have open shoes, and ladies must wear pantyhose. Is she wrong in asking that? Or is she merely reinforcing the dignity her position affords? Many restaurants require 'proper attire', even ties for men and dresses or skirts for women.
It is nice to show that your respect yourself enough to look your best when out in public, you only get one chance to make a first impression. How many homes did you go to in 'service' that were so filthy and disgusting that you needed a wet wipe after you knocked on the door, and you washed your hands first chance you got? You made an automatic assumption the people were dirty, because they took no pains to let you know anything else, that's what they wanted you to know, otherwise they would've picked up the garbage and dog crap. People will judge you for how you dress, for that is the only message you are sending when out in public.
CJ
also posted on the yuku forum.. i thought it might be amusing to make a list of things i remember when i was a dub that we couldn't have or own or wear.
(some of these things vary by where you live, in other places dubs have them, it just depends).
obviously the list goes on forever, but feel free to add things.
Some of the things on that list seem to be just regional stuffiness. I know many JWs with other versions of the bible, horn jewelry, pantyhose-less legs, super stilettos, fishnets (my hubby constantly wants me to wear those). I have seen many a funny tie and have known elders/MS's who dyed and/or highlighted their hair. It depends on the location of the cong. and the values of those attending, and who is the alpha male in the cong.
Lets face some other facts: Unless you have really nice, perky boobs and shoulders or GREAT support wear, you shouldn't wear any kind of a tube top...sagging boobs are far from attractive. Flip-flops are beach wear and sometimes even called shower shoes (they help to prevent athletes foot fungus transmission), they do not belong in most public places. Sneakers are athletic shoes, they too have a place, and it isn't in a dress up enviroment, just like high heeled pumps don't belong on the tennis court. There are many shoe manufacturers who makes attractive, reasonably priced, extremely comfortable shoes for women who don't want to go through life looking frumpy for the sake of comfort.
CJ
HAHAHA! Good one for old 'female' persuasion!
CJ
my cat semone: "i swear that's not my shit in your shoe!".
oh sure...like my girlfriend decided to fill it up.. me.
Mine would say "Please find us a flea/tick medication that actually works like the label says it does!"
CJ
