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  I need help in dealing with a toxic family member!!!!

  by hoser in

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  i have a close family member who is a pro in using shame to try to make me feel bad.

  they are coming to stay at my place soon and the issue of me and mrs hoser not attending/ doing field service will come up no doubt.. i need some advice on how to deal with this because whenever i deal with these relatives they make me feel worthless.

  it is probably part because they are jw's and jw's motivate by fear and guilt.. .

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  Mum

  You do not owe them an explanation for anything! If they are not happy with the way you choose to live your life, that is their problem, not yours. Don't defend yourself. Just do what you would do if they were not around, and, if they object, tell them they can find another place to stay. Your house, your rules, period.
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  I want to grow my hair back out!

  by onlyastory in

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  a few months prior to baptism i had shoulder length hair which i loved and had wanted ever since i was a child.

  i remember sitting with an elder during a bible study and asking him point blank if i 'had' to cut my hair.

  whilst the answer was given slightly awkwardly the answer was a no, "there are no rules that say you have to cut your hair".

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  Mum

  onlyastory: Welcome to the forum! Everyone on this forum has had extensive experience with JW's in one way or another. We can assure that there are MANY unwritten rules that you won't learn about until you have been baptized and become an insider. Don't be shocked by anything you see or hear at the Kingdom Hall. You are being judged every minute.
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  Most aggravating religious group

  by keith85 in

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  look i don't care what you believe, i really don't.

  just leave me out of it.

  if i were interested in your beliefs i would pursue them, but trying to force your literature and views onto people is just rude.

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  Mum

  If you don't want to be bothered by JW's, put a sign on your door that says, "Jehovah's Witnesses: I am an apostate. Good bye." The "A" word is a real turnoff to them. Almost every person on this forum is a JW "apostate," i.e., a former JW. We are now awake and thinking for ourselves.

  Please feel free to vent here any time you like. We all do. Welcome!
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  Weekend Warning - Family May be after You Come Sunday, be ready.

  by LostGeneration in

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  the wt this weekend:.

  help those who have become inactive.. jesus said that there is joy in.

  heaven when just one lost sheep is.

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  Mum

  Thanks, LG. Fortunately, I don't live near any JW's I knew in the past. I, too, have a more meaningful, happy and FREE life. Why did I ever believe I didn't want to think for myself?
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  I can't believe how sexist the Borg is!!!

  by quellycatface in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  just letting off a bit more steam.

  why can't sisters look after the library or the sound.

  what makes the brothers so damned special???.

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  Mum

  All of this contemplation about the "place" of women makes me wonder why it is overwhelmingly women who support the churches. There would be mostly emty churches without the women who attend and do all of the dirty work while men hold "important meetings" and such.
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  French Club in Las Vegas

  by Mum in

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  i learned of a french club in las vegas.

  they posted on facebook that they were meeting this morning at a french pastry shop/cafe.

  i have never attended one of their meetings, so i decided to go meet them at the cafe.. it was great!

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  Mum

  NVR2L8: I'm going to PM you my phone number. Call me when you get into town. Are you quebecois?

  I know that the Paris used to teach some French to its new employees, and later started to de-emphasize the French. My son-in-law works at the Paris as a bartender.
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  French Club in Las Vegas

  by Mum in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  i learned of a french club in las vegas.

  they posted on facebook that they were meeting this morning at a french pastry shop/cafe.

  i have never attended one of their meetings, so i decided to go meet them at the cafe.. it was great!

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  Mum

  I learned of a French Club in Las Vegas. They posted on Facebook that they were meeting this morning at a French pastry shop/café. I have never attended one of their meetings, so I decided to go meet them at the café.

  It was great! Some of them are French or Swiss immigrants. Others are American francophiles such as I. The pastries looked wonderful! I only had one, but could have eaten the whole display in the case!

  I have lived in Las Vegas only a year and only know three people here outside my family. This is going to be a good way to meet some people and build a network of friends and acquaintances.
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  Facebook conversation with my never-a-JW cousin

  by Mum in

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  recently my sister posted on facebook a list of bible verses/scriptures for different situations in life.

  my reply was "have you gotten religious?

  " i have never known my sister to be religious in her entire life.

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  Recently my sister posted on Facebook a list of Bible verses/scriptures for different situations in life. My reply was "Have you gotten religious?" I have never known my sister to be religious in her entire life. My sister did not reply at all, but two of my cousins did. The first cousin posted, "Mum, that sounds awful!" and she dropped it. Then I posted that I am no longer religious, that unlike most people, the older I get the less religious I become.

  Then the cousin told me I might need to see a doctor !? She told me that my paternal grandfather was rolling over in his grave, praying for me. As both of my grandfathers were country preachers, I said that then the other grandfather probably was doing the same (tongue-in-cheek). After a few more back-and-forth tirades in which she told me, among other things, that I probably should have remained a JW, I told her that I was living an authentic, honest life, not pretending to be something I wasn't. She replied with something like "This conversation has ended! Good bye!" I replied, "I love you, B. Bye . . ."

  So, I lost a "worldly" cousin (who, btw, killed her ex-husband, allegedly in self-defense) because of my lack of faith.

  After the exchange, I addressed my sister in a post. I asked if she had hired our two cousins to be her "heavies," and that I had asked a simple, straightforward question and had been expecting a simple answer.

  My sister still has not replied.
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  How does the WT keep peoples interest?

  by LogCon in

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  " the secret of good writing is to say an old thing in a new way or a new thing in an old way.".

  richard harding davis.

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  Mum

  Are you saying their writing is good? It's on an elementary school level. They prey on the ignorant, uninformed and disenfranchised.
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  Part Two: The non Bethel alternative.

  by Giordano in

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  after i had graduated high school in the early 1960s i decided to make a commitment to pioneer.

  for my mother even pioneering was not good enough.......... her first choice was bethel.

  pioneering in my home area.....boring.

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  Mum

  Thanks for sharing.