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  That's it......

  by whathehadas in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this might be my last post.

  i've had quite a few things on my mind over the past few years, mainly my belief in god.

  i've tried to move on from the jw past but that's really being foolish.

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  Mum

  If you don't feel comfortable with getting professional help at this time, you should read some self-help books, such as Steve Hassan's Combatting Cult Mind Control. When I first exited, I did not speak of having been a JW for many years because I didn't want to talk about it.My personal recommendation for a self-help book to get you started and in a non-cult frame of mind is Your Erroneous Zones by Dr. Wayne Dyer. It helped me immensely.

  Don't give up on yourself. You're the person you have to live with no matter what. Don't expect things to smooth out too quickly. It takes time, Be patient with yourself.
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  No Common Sense (About Convention)

  by EmptyInside in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  well,the guilt trip worked in getting them to the international convention,even though,for some,it put their health at great risk.. i'm glad that an elderly relative showed some common sense and realized she couldn't make the convention.

  but,people still treated her oddly about not going.. one of her friends,who had a stroke in the past,thought about not attending,only to get screamed at by her so-called friends.

  she did go,but it was hard on her.

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  Mum

  99.999% of what JW's do is out of concern for how other JW's might judge them, not out of "love" for "Jehovah" or a sense of right and wrong. They are living inauthentic lives, masquerading as paragons of piety when all they really need is a week off to relax with no concerns about how it looks to their JW buddies.
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  LDS.ORG OR JW.ORG LEADERS...

  by ADJUSTMENTS in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the similarites between the mormons ( lds.org ) and jws ( jw.org ) are startling!!!.

  here is another, both false religions have governing body's made up of predominantly white anglo men, but tout themselves as being worldwide united religions... where is the diversity???

  both groups look like board members of any top fourtune 500 company.

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  Mum

  Have any of you seen the play, "The Book of Mormon?" It was written by the creators of South Park, who are former Mormons. It is hilarious! I've heard that it's being made into a movie. I hope so, because EVERYONE should see it!
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  Shunning Among the Shunned

  by Quendi in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i wonder if anyone else has had this experience or know of others who have.

  when i was disfellowshipped, i approached another disfellowshipped person after the memorial celebration and asked him over for some refreshments and conversation.

  he turned down my invitation saying that the elders had told him that he could not even talk to other disfellowshipped persons unless and until both he and they were reinstated!

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  Wow! I never heard of that one before. Maybe you should treat it like my friends did when I was a kid. I would say, "Mommy said I can't do that." They would reply, "Your mommy's not here."

  How are the elders going to track who disfellowshipped people socialize with? It's ridiculous!

  People need to be taught how to make good decisions and healthy choices instead of obedience, especially obedience of people who kick you out of their "exclusive" club.
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  inactive ones going back...

  by monis1 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have quite a big group of friends who were all in the cong together when we were teens.

  about 75% of them stopped going or were df'd right after high school.

  it is a varied group; a couple are staunch apostates, some dont care one way or another, and another handfull are fully "worldly", but still believe it is the truth.

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  Mum

  So, deep down, these poor souls still think the meaning of life is to follow a carrot dangling before them. They are not thinkers. Apparently, they just can't bear the burdens JW's are called upon to bear. So they leave, then come back and load the burdens back on. Then the burdens become too heavy, and they leave again.

  I agree that these non-thinking types need to do some homework and figure out that blind obedience to charlatans cannot lead to a better life in any way. It's harder for some than for others to think for themselves and forge their own path.

  So sad!
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  Sleep Aid Recommendations

  by LV101 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  in addition to the recent thread, "how to shut your mind down .

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  " (which is excellent) but there was another thread about the same time i'm searching for and unable to locate.

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  Reading (especially in a foreign language and cognac do it for me.
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  Your "Things That Make You Go Hmmm?" List

  by FlyingHighNow in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'll wager that the number is close to 100 percent.

  what number?

  the number of jws who have lists--lists of things that make them go hmmm or even wha'???

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  These are questions I should have asked before I plunged into Watchtowerdom, but I thought that I was just a kid and would understand when I became "mature."

  Why were the meetings so sterile and lacking in passion?

  Why did I have to give up my childhood friends? I was a teenage convet and did not evern realize this until I got thick with the dubs.

  Why were my grandparents, wonderful people, going to die at Armageddon when they did so much good for everybody?

  Why were we always kept so busy that we hardly had any time for Bible reading or reflection?

  Why wren't JW's upset about the Kennedy assassination? One "sister" said to me "They're so upset about this Kennedy thing. What are they going to do when Armageddon comes?"

  Why was I chided for sitting during the prayer when we criticized the Catholic Church for being ritualistic?

  If Armageddon was coming in 1975 or before, why was the WT buying new buildings and expanding their real estate holdings?

  I could go on and on . . . . .
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  Some good books to read?

  by thedepressedsoul in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i just finished crysis of a conscience and all i have to say is wow!

  showed how they sadly look for doctrine changes to fit their agenda vs what the bible says.

  any new light or changes i'll be wondering the real motive behind them.

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  The Bible as History by Warner Keller

  Peake's Commentary on the Bible

  http://teacherweb.com/TN/BITS/BibleHistory/h0.aspx - the website of my ex-husband (not a JW) who majored in History and Religion at Kenyon College and was a teacher of Bible History - excellent info
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  Demon attacks on JW in past, where'd they go?

  by thedepressedsoul in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  in the 80's and 90's (maybe even earlier) i remember hearing lots of witnesses talk about "demon attacks".

  whether it was someone studying the bible who then started having strange things happen in their house to people bringing stuff home from yard sales and getting personal attacks and horrible dreams resulting in them dystroying stuff they brought home or getting rid of it.. .

  i also remember hearing a sister say she had to pray in a home with a study because the study started to get attacked.

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  Recently, my daughter talked to her JW father - an extremely rare occurrence which might happen every 5 years or so. She told me afterwards that he said that the demons were using me and that I didn't even know it. He's upset because our daughter has chosen not to be a JW, and he wants me to be the reason why. In fact, she's quite an intelligent woman and has had enough experience with JW's to know there's nothing they have to offer her.

  So, every time we hear a strange noise or something goes wrong, we know that my "demons" are behind it.
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  Not on jw.org - comments regarding bad Jehovah's Witness employees

  by jwfacts in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  i used to be very impressed with convention experiences regarding how worldly employers would hire jws because they were known as the most honest workers.

  i was too indoctrinated to realise these were selective experiences, and there are plenty of experiences of jws being dishonest in the workforce.

  i have received a couple recently by email.. i have cut quite a bit out of the following email i received so that the person and company cannot be indentified, but you will get the message.. .

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  Okay, I knew a JW who worked in another department when I worked for a municipal government agency. Her job required a lot of community involvement, and one of the yearly outreach programs was called "Christmas in June," in which I know she participated. She also won an award for her community service. I wonder if she counted her field service as part of that service that won her the award.

  She always looked very nice and drove a Lincoln. She had a high paying position which, I believe, was probably beyond her education level, but she had great social skills.

  Finally, she was fired for running a private business from her desk at her city job.