I have now read most of the posts and your comments. You have every right to be fu*&king angry. If you are not angry - I am agry for you.
Remember that you have the rest of your life. The sooner you get over this hump the better. These elders mean nothing - they deserve no explaination. Just figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life - I can assure you your life can be wonderful.