Posts by Thetruthhurts

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Kingdom Hall Scheduler

by Thetruthhurts in

i'm sure there's already topics on this but i couldn't find one so i'm starting my own.

is the kingdom hall scheduling program new?

is this where they are entering all of the members data now?

I'm sure there's already topics on this but I couldn't find one so I'm starting my own. Is the Kingdom Hall Scheduling program new? Is this where they are entering all of the members data now? My husband is jw and they are asking for our cell phone carrier because apparently they need it in order for the program to send text updates about assignments. I'm sure this is true, but I want to be as informed as I can about the program so I can make sure I know what I'm talking about when I bring this up to the hubby.

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Unwritten, congregational 'rules'

by Thetruthhurts in

what were some of yours?

the big one in our hall was no frontal hugs!

these were generally thought of as inappropriate, only side hugs should be given between sisters and brothers.

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They took away the chairs?! I do remember them closing off the last three rows so people would sit toward the front.

@tiki yes they still enforce suits on the platform and dressy skirts and dresses for the women - no jean skirts.

This thread is starting to give me flashbacks. ugh lol when you put them all in one place it makes it so ridiculous sounding and obvious and yet I went along with so many of these :(

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Unwritten, congregational 'rules'

by Thetruthhurts in

what were some of yours?

the big one in our hall was no frontal hugs!

these were generally thought of as inappropriate, only side hugs should be given between sisters and brothers.

Thetruthhurts

Omigosh and I thought my hall was bad! I had never heard of no bow ties but that doesnt surprise me at all! I remember a brother being counselled on his handlebar mustache because he was looking too much like a biker.

Keep em coming!

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Unwritten, congregational 'rules'

by Thetruthhurts in

what were some of yours?

the big one in our hall was no frontal hugs!

these were generally thought of as inappropriate, only side hugs should be given between sisters and brothers.

Thetruthhurts

What were some of yours? The big one in our hall was no frontal hugs! These were generally thought of as inappropriate, only side hugs should be given between sisters and brothers.

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Incest, Rape and Abuse in the Amish World

by cofty in

so familiar and for all the same reasons.. the amish keep to themselves.

and they’re hiding a horrifying secret....

Thetruthhurts

What's really sad and ironic about this is the special effort, language classes, and groups that are forming to convert the amish to jw. They are devoting years to building these relationships. This may be something they would be quick to sympathize with in an effort to convert them. Makes me ill. From one cult to another..:(

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Sharing an original song I wrote about what it's like to leave JW.

by Thetruthhurts in

https://www.bandlab.com/posts/088a46c6-9951-ea11-a94c-0003ff121727.

this song is very personal to me but i wanted to share it here for anyone that might enjoy it!

it's about being disfellowshipped and what it's like to leave this religion and is also the only song i've ever recorded.

Thetruthhurts

https://www.bandlab.com/posts/088a46c6-9951-ea11-a94c-0003ff121727

This song is very personal to me but I wanted to share it here for anyone that might enjoy it! It's about being disfellowshipped and what it's like to leave this religion and is also the only song I've ever recorded. Hopefully the link works :P

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What can a therapist really do?

by Thetruthhurts in

hi all, i've not read the forums for awhile as i've been trying to move on with my life but i'm back and posting for the first time feeling like i cant get a grip.

so i'm wondering for those of you that have seen a therapist and say that it truly helps, what can be accomplished?

i'm just really skeptical, but starting to feel desperate.

Thetruthhurts

Cha Ching - thanks for taking the time to share your advice. I am actually a wife, and have not been in over a year. Yes, the update I got after the May WT study comments on sex abuse almost made me physically ill. It's hard. Unfortunately my husband knows quite a bit of the injustice/nonsense but is not phased by it. If theres not an explanation, I get the standard responses that Jehovah will take care of it or the light will get brighter. We can no longer discuss religion in its entirety in order to preserve our marriage. I am/will focus exactly on what you said as far as having fun together. When hes not around jw's I feel like hes a different person. This is all I can do now, and show love. Cause all the religion does is cause me anger and hatred.

As far as what woke me up. I was baptized very young. As a teen I never thought it was the one true religion. I never accepted the GB had authority over me BUT it was all I knew and I thought that it was a good way of life. After 'sinning' i was reproved and later married/d'fd young. This had a wierd effect on me. All I wanted to do was come back. I went SUPER strict.Even telling my new husband that he should throw out a brand named sweater because it was representing satan's world with its logo! Omg, what a cult mindset. I guess I just wanted my life back and I wanted to do right. In my elders meeting I was told the Angel's had already disfellowshipped me in heaven. It was devestating and I became reinstated within a year. I now blame myself for my husband getting so back into it. 10 years later I started studying the bible hard because after motherhood the stance on blood pissed me off and I wondered what else could be wrong. My lingering doubts as far back as the ridiculous bunker video were coming to a head. By looking at all different sources, I realized other religious arguments were just as reasonable and/or ridiculous and the GB had nothing special. And in studying the bible extra hard with the the help of jwfacts, I completely stopped and ended up an atheist. Which I'm happy with.

I hope one day I can meet another exjw in person and make some true friends. Thank you for the reminder to keep writing, keep living, singing, dancing, exercising, traveling,hobbying. I love to sing and write music about my experiences but sometimes it's hard to get off the couch when I feel so low.

I'm so happy your whole family got out, what an amazing gift. Hope you have a great day!

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What can a therapist really do?

by Thetruthhurts in

hi all, i've not read the forums for awhile as i've been trying to move on with my life but i'm back and posting for the first time feeling like i cant get a grip.

so i'm wondering for those of you that have seen a therapist and say that it truly helps, what can be accomplished?

i'm just really skeptical, but starting to feel desperate.

Thetruthhurts

I just wanted to thank all of you for your heartfelt, well thought out posts. I've been re-reading them and I've taken so much from just this conversation. This was actually a help to me in and of itself to know that others understand this situation and are better at putting it into words that make sense than I am.

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What can a therapist really do?

by Thetruthhurts in

hi all, i've not read the forums for awhile as i've been trying to move on with my life but i'm back and posting for the first time feeling like i cant get a grip.

so i'm wondering for those of you that have seen a therapist and say that it truly helps, what can be accomplished?

i'm just really skeptical, but starting to feel desperate.

Thetruthhurts

Thank you all for your replies, I appreciate all of them and its given me some real things to consider. I like the idea of reading some books before I dish out the cash, but it sounds like some real good can come out of therapy if I'm willing to accept it.

@Rayoflight2014, without giving my whole life story which is long, I am married to a pimi with young children. I'm a born in who always knew it wasnt the truth but went strict with it after being disfellowshipped and reinstated because I truly thought it was the only way to be happy. I'm fortunate my spouse let's me have my own beliefs (atheist, successfully faded) but being constantly exposed to the religion makes me angry and I cant seem to let it go. I'm an outgoing person who loves humor and a good time but am crippled with anxiety, insecurities, and anger I personally feel has developed mainly because of the religion. I also have very few people in my life. So yeah :) many a jw story. thanks for welcoming me!

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What can a therapist really do?

by Thetruthhurts in

hi all, i've not read the forums for awhile as i've been trying to move on with my life but i'm back and posting for the first time feeling like i cant get a grip.

so i'm wondering for those of you that have seen a therapist and say that it truly helps, what can be accomplished?

i'm just really skeptical, but starting to feel desperate.

Thetruthhurts

Hi all, I've not read the forums for awhile as I've been trying to move on with my life but I'm back and posting for the first time feeling like I cant get a grip. So I'm wondering for those of you that have seen a therapist and say that it truly helps, what can be accomplished? I'm just really skeptical, but starting to feel desperate. For one, if I find a good one, it still costs good money. Will they just tell me coping techniques? Cause in the end, no person can change my circumstances.