well i have not been on this site for ages - so long that i had forgotten my username etc and have had to start again!.
anyway briefly - bought up in 'the truth', baptised at 18, married at 21, had kids, got divorced, remarried, disfellowshipped 15 years ago.. parents and brother shun me.. early last year father very ill, calls me.
i arrange to visit him in hospital.
Haha snugglebunny - it took me a minute but when I got what you were saying I laughed out loud!
What my daughter (never baptised and definitely OUT) have decided to do is phone Mum next week and say 'is it ok to come and see you on Friday Mum', she will say yes, then if we go and she doesn't mention any JW rubbish then I will continue to regularly go.
well i have not been on this site for ages - so long that i had forgotten my username etc and have had to start again!.
anyway briefly - bought up in 'the truth', baptised at 18, married at 21, had kids, got divorced, remarried, disfellowshipped 15 years ago.. parents and brother shun me.. early last year father very ill, calls me.
i arrange to visit him in hospital.
Thank you everyone for your kind comments and support - it means a lot. Yes she is in a nice and expensive care home so hopefully her eventual passing and her money running out will maybe coincide.
As for me carrying on visiting her, I can see why many think I should seeing as she is my mother, however she is suffering from dementia and it is obvious to me that my brother has reminded her that she shouldn't be speaking or seeing me unless it is an emergency situation so probably best for me to take the easy way out and let them deal with it.
Forgot to say that turns out after my Dad's funeral that he had been involved in a couple of things that would normally be disfellowshipping offences but of course no one will tell me if any action was taken if any. So he was viewed as a spiritually strong super hero all his life but turns out things were not necessarily what they seemed.
well i have not been on this site for ages - so long that i had forgotten my username etc and have had to start again!.
anyway briefly - bought up in 'the truth', baptised at 18, married at 21, had kids, got divorced, remarried, disfellowshipped 15 years ago.. parents and brother shun me.. early last year father very ill, calls me.
i arrange to visit him in hospital.
Thanks ToesUp! Yes I certainly felt like using lots of choice words and letting rip but a strange calm came over me and I humoured him really. Such a sad state of affairs...I will now let them enjoy their cult status!
well i have not been on this site for ages - so long that i had forgotten my username etc and have had to start again!.
anyway briefly - bought up in 'the truth', baptised at 18, married at 21, had kids, got divorced, remarried, disfellowshipped 15 years ago.. parents and brother shun me.. early last year father very ill, calls me.
i arrange to visit him in hospital.
Thank you Stan. I seem to remember a few of the usernames....
I know Besty, in fact we are meeting on Sunday for lunch!
well i have not been on this site for ages - so long that i had forgotten my username etc and have had to start again!.
anyway briefly - bought up in 'the truth', baptised at 18, married at 21, had kids, got divorced, remarried, disfellowshipped 15 years ago.. parents and brother shun me.. early last year father very ill, calls me.
i arrange to visit him in hospital.
That is true, ShirleyW but Mum is staunch JW too and does sometimes ask me which Kingdom Hall I go to etc
forgetting that I have been disfellowshipped yonks ago! In the 14 years before my father passed away she never contacted me once so we now go back to that situation.
well i have not been on this site for ages - so long that i had forgotten my username etc and have had to start again!.
anyway briefly - bought up in 'the truth', baptised at 18, married at 21, had kids, got divorced, remarried, disfellowshipped 15 years ago.. parents and brother shun me.. early last year father very ill, calls me.
i arrange to visit him in hospital.
well i have not been on this site for ages - so long that i had forgotten my username etc and have had to start again!.
anyway briefly - bought up in 'the truth', baptised at 18, married at 21, had kids, got divorced, remarried, disfellowshipped 15 years ago.. parents and brother shun me.. early last year father very ill, calls me.
i arrange to visit him in hospital.
Well I have not been on this site for ages - so long that I had forgotten my username etc and have had to start again!
Anyway briefly - bought up in 'the truth', baptised at 18, married at 21, had kids, got divorced, remarried, disfellowshipped 15 years ago.
Parents and brother shun me.
Early last year father very ill, calls me. I arrange to visit him in hospital. Pleased to see me. Comes through his operation, returns home. Agrees that I can come and visit at home, although then got more unwell and died without me seeing him again.
Went to sort out funeral arrangements, went to funeral with my daughter. Wasn't allowed in KH for the after funeral get together.
Mum falls at home, ends up in hospital, diagnosed with dementia - staff will not allow her back to her home, so brother and I arrange a care home for her, in Essex as she wanted to be 'near her boys' (my brother and I both live in Essex, Mum was living near Eastbourne).
Regularly (most weeks) go to see Mum in the care home, often with my daughter (her grand-daughter).
Told tonight by my brother that things will have to return to how they were before Dad passed away - in other words no visits to Mum, no giving lifts to my brother or his wife. Totally cut off - again!
To be honest, it suits me fine in a way, but I get the feeling I've been used over the past year and a half to suit their needs but not to worry!
I said to my brother after he told me that I had heard about the JW's getting strict again re contact with disfellowshipped ones and that I had learnt of a 93 year old lady in America who had been a staunch JW for over 50 years but left due to the child molestation issue - now her grand-daughter will not even speak to her! My brother said that he wants to be loyal to Jehovah.
I said, that is fantastic, well done, have a good life. Goodbye!
