Posts by cappytan

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Boyfriend and dating news - Any advice

by KateWild in

so i started dating on the internet in june and have met some nice guys.

i have put in a few recent posts that i have a boyfriend and wanted to give an update.

things haven't worked out sadly.. i was seeing him for a couple of months we were having fun and then things tailed off after christmas.

cappytan

KateWild,

Before I met my wife at the KH, I tried internet dating. JWs and non-JWs.

I kind of got disillusioned over it. As a JW, I guess I had a naive view of dating. I was looking for a mate. Every single person I met online was just looking to hook up, one night stand or "friends with benefits" kind of relationships.

That was 12 years ago, though.

In retrospect, I'm sure that's not how ALL folks on those sites were and as far as today, I can't speak to that. But that's sure what it seemed like.

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LDS version of Simon?

by cappytan in

jw
friends

mormon leaders have moved to excommunicate the prominent founder of an online forum for questioning mormons, charging him with apostasy for publicly supporting same-sex marriage and the ordination of women, and for challenging church teaching.. .

http://mobile.nytimes.com/2015/01/16/us/john-dehlin-mormon-critic-facing-excommunication.html?_r=0&referrer=

cappytan

Maybe you're a female polygamist that wants to be ordained.

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LDS version of Simon?

by cappytan in

jw
friends

mormon leaders have moved to excommunicate the prominent founder of an online forum for questioning mormons, charging him with apostasy for publicly supporting same-sex marriage and the ordination of women, and for challenging church teaching.. .

http://mobile.nytimes.com/2015/01/16/us/john-dehlin-mormon-critic-facing-excommunication.html?_r=0&referrer=

cappytan

No, I meant I was kind of kidding in comparing the two.

The situations are obviously different. Story just struck me as vaguely similar.

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LDS version of Simon?

by cappytan in

jw
friends

mormon leaders have moved to excommunicate the prominent founder of an online forum for questioning mormons, charging him with apostasy for publicly supporting same-sex marriage and the ordination of women, and for challenging church teaching.. .

http://mobile.nytimes.com/2015/01/16/us/john-dehlin-mormon-critic-facing-excommunication.html?_r=0&referrer=

cappytan

This post was obviously made in jest.

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LDS version of Simon?

by cappytan in

jw
friends

mormon leaders have moved to excommunicate the prominent founder of an online forum for questioning mormons, charging him with apostasy for publicly supporting same-sex marriage and the ordination of women, and for challenging church teaching.. .

http://mobile.nytimes.com/2015/01/16/us/john-dehlin-mormon-critic-facing-excommunication.html?_r=0&referrer=

cappytan

Mormon leaders have moved to excommunicate the prominent founder of an online forum for questioning Mormons, charging him with apostasy for publicly supporting same-sex marriage and the ordination of women, and for challenging church teaching.

http://mobile.nytimes.com/2015/01/16/us/john-dehlin-mormon-critic-facing-excommunication.html?_r=0&referrer=

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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

by MissFit in

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friends

we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

cappytan

MissFit:

I now consider myself mentally out.

I'm coming to grips, though, with getting emotionally out. I think that's why I'm having that mental battle between Reason/Logic and Tradition/Family.

I don't know if I'll ever be 100% emotionally out even if I'm 100% mentally and physically out.

As long as there are familial ties to the organization, I don't know if I can have emotional closure.

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Need to vent: Wife just went in full cult mode, huge fight. she is so brainwashed

by goingthruthemotions in

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friends

out of the blue my wife started to ask me about my feeling about the borg.

i told her i didn't want to talk about it...she persisted.

she already knows how i feel, i told her that my biggest beef is that they use mind control, and yep she went in to how i was an apostate and how she doesn't want to be married to an apostate.

cappytan

gttm: I'm really sorry bro.

Man. I don't know what else to say. Anything else would be trite.

That is so sad that she can't let you have your own beliefs.

This organization likes to brag about their victories in championing freedom of religion when their policies oppress freedom of worship more than anyone else.

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Imagine a Company Sells You a Product...

by TTATTelder in

imagine a company sells you a product... you like the product and begin to do more business with them.. then one day this company demands that you never visit any of their competitors for the rest of your life.

they also add that you are never allowed to read a negative customer review about their company or products for the rest of your life.. actually this company threatens you with a humiliating future death if you engage in either of these activities..... how does that sound to you?

sound reasonable?

cappytan

Whew, for a second I thought you were talking about my Apple products.

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"Dead man walking", my resurrection

by MissFit in

as a jw, did you ever just resign yourself to being destroyed at armageddon because you knew you werent worthy?.

for almost half my life i felt like i was under a death sentence- "a dead man walking.

" i was my judge, jury and executioner.

cappytan

MissFit:

What really helped was that years before that, after I left Bethel, I was really messed up mentally.

I got Cognitive Therapy and it helped for a while.

After the incident with the gun I mentioned above, it was a wake up call. I realized I had been neglecting the methods I had learned in Therapy, and started using them again. I recognized what pulled me back from the brink, the thoughts of my children, and just focused on those thoughts every time I felt the darkness creep back into mind. I also had a friend to talk to in confidence who had been through similar issues.

I ended up selling all my pistols so it wouldn't be that easy. (Also, so I could get a new Kayak without spending savings.)

I'm not anti-gun though. Still have rifles and shotguns for hunting. But they're kept in a safe, out of the house, on family property where we hunt, hundreds of miles away.

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"Dead man walking", my resurrection

by MissFit in

as a jw, did you ever just resign yourself to being destroyed at armageddon because you knew you werent worthy?.

for almost half my life i felt like i was under a death sentence- "a dead man walking.

" i was my judge, jury and executioner.

cappytan

When I was inactive but still believed in the organization, I occasionally struggled with feelings of worthlessness, but never thought I wouldn't make it to Paradise.

I always held a slightly different opinion of Grace. I felt that Jehovah could read my heart, that he knew I was a good person that was imperfect and sincerely tried to keep his righteous standards.

I even convinced myself at one point that if I committed suicide, I could just jump to paradise because "the reader of hearts" knew what I was going through and that the wages sin pays are death, so I would have already paid for my sins. I was moments away from pulling the trigger on my Glock during that dark time. I had the barrel in my mouth. But, all I could think about were my kids. I couldn't leave them alone without my help.

This was all years before I started waking up to TTATT.

Now, my main struggle is that I am seeing the real truth, but the side of my brain that is still hardwired for JW thoughts tries to weigh me down by making me feel guilty and like I am falling victim to Satan.

I'm not saying I don't believe in Paradise anymore. But I certainly don't believe that a God of Love would deny someone entry into a paradise for seeking truth in life.