one of the sexiest 40+ women I've ever encountered was a sister who looked very classy...had dark hair just starting to get touches of grey in it. Her hair was long, at least down to her waist. I remember having the hots for her as a teen...she was fantasy fuel for years.
The hair thing is just about control. I about gave the elders a stroke as a teen when (at my mom's suggestion) I began to get a perm put in my hair to give it some body because mine is straight as a board. When I got married, my wife began urging on me the hairstyle that she thought best suited me...just the standard kind of fundy-cut. I could never keep it looking good because of the aforementioned straight hair problem. As I began to express my own independence....I started cutting my hair shorter and shorter....so that now...for probably the last 10 years or so, I've had a millitary style flat-top...which the elders hated too. As soon as I left...the first thing I did to really visibly express my independence was to grow a full beard.
People who get hung up on these things have too much time on their hands. If I want my hair long or short...whatever...am I not the one who has to look at it in the mirror everyday? Who gives a rat's a$$ what anyone else thinks?
Ern