???????! ??????? ???????????? Anyway, as for your friend, it seems that you've got lots of options. Her niceness may be self-serving. She may be nervous of you- imagine if everyone in the office knew her shuning practices! She might get a lot of flack. Or, she may be easing into a closer friendship with you for legitimate reasons, like doubt about the JW lifestyle. As to her motives, you'll have to follow your gut on this one. In anycase, totaly be yourself- do not accomodate bigotry. This doesn't mean you can't act different if you have a special goal in mind. But you have a lot to be proud of- who you are!
happysunshine
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My old JW best friend is talking to me still. What do I do?
by NaruNaruChan ini need some advice!!
my old best friend in the truth is talking to me again, and it bothers me.
she was really mean to me when i was dfed and now she started to talk to me again because she misses me, but i feel bad cuz obviously im dfed and although i don't feel like i'm spiritually bad for what i am, i cannot be myself around her because i feel odd.. its like the last attachment to that bastard religion keeps hanging on!
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abuse and cults clearly defined, You have to read this!
by needs_lots ini have just reading a great book by sylvia brown, the other side and back, and i found a very interesting quote i wanted to share with all of you.the quote best describes the jehovahs witnesses and the abuse i suffered.. sylvia brown says.
"cults and abusive relationships have a lot in common.
they thrive in isolation and secrecy, which promote control and dependency and systematically eliminate alternative places for the cult member/abused to turn.
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happysunshine
Wow.
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Why do some of you get so worked up over this, JW's control relies on lack
by Its so simple inpersonal growth.
most people are angry at themselves for not seeing it sooner and they just blame the wtbs.
if it was not them there would be something else that 'filled their need' and would have ensnared them.
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happysunshine
This is a point well said. I agree, and its an issue I've always wrestled with, and continue to. I hope to soon get clarity on it. However, something is nagging in the back of my head that it isn't quite that simple. For example, I was raised, and have my entire immediate family in the org. Everyday I feel a huge tension between us- and the 'answer' is just to forget all about them and start my own new 'family'. Perhaps, but I'm not completely comfortable with that. Others on the board have truly complicated lives. What do you think?
P.S.- If you're a troll I'm going to kick your ass.
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Why do some of you get so worked up over this, JW's control relies on lack
by Its so simple inpersonal growth.
most people are angry at themselves for not seeing it sooner and they just blame the wtbs.
if it was not them there would be something else that 'filled their need' and would have ensnared them.
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happysunshine
There is much life destroying energy in hate and contention. Find who you love, what you love & pour all your heart and soul into that.
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WT to Collect Engine Royalties From U.S. Navy's Drones
by Gerard inas most of you know, the wt owns stock of three companies that provide engine technology for the u.s. navy's smart war-fighter array of re-configurable modules (swarm).
the "sister companies" signed a contract with advanced ceramics:
"on april 4, 2002 we announced that we signed an agreement to grant a license to.
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happysunshine
I guess you long-timers are used this, but... HOLY SHIT!
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Catholics Superior to Watchtower?!
by metatron inso, the catholic church is using sleaze ball lawyers to try to weasel out of child molester lawsuits.. (they were asking for it/blame the victim defense).
on the other hand, liberty magazine (jan/feb 2003) says "to it's credit, the catholic church appears to have cooperated.
in mediation, when possible".
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happysunshine
Word up!
Let me know if you need anything Vicki. Love- J
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New to the group - I have a couple questions to get started with!!
by bk62 ini'm not, have never been, nor will i ever be a jw.
unfortunately, i've become caught up in the cult because of my wife.
she's not yet a witness, but many in her family are.
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happysunshine
Welcome to the board!
I'm going to go out on a limb here. The fact that she is choosing to kick and scream about the merits of Witnesses- devoid of any family pressure- is because something else is wrong. Something else must be lacking in her life for her to be drawn to them. Its classic cult dynamics at work. Find out what that 'something' or 'somethings' is and you not only solve tthe WTS problem, but enrich your lives. I'm a big believer in a wholistic aproach to problems. Keep us posted in any case. -J
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WE HAVE THE POWER TO CAUSE CHANGE
by SHUNNED FATHER inthis is in reply to night warrior's comments earlier.
i agree with you.
change can be and has to be done.
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happysunshine
Good points S.F.! It seems like theres a lot of waffling around with X's, myself being guilty of this too. I guess a lot of it is done in the name of moderation. But I'm starting to feel like more drastic action is required for any tangible progress to be made against the WTS and in our personal lives.
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canadian decision on child abuse
by needs_lots ineach of the doctors accepted the truth of what they were told by c.c.
40 mrs. c. testified at trial that she treated all four children the same.
mrs. c. testified at trial that she only ever hit c.c.
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happysunshine
wow, thanks for the post.-J
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For those who became JWs as adults...
by Sara Annie inbefore i begin, it would probably be helpful for me to (in a nutshell) explain that i am not currently, nor have i ever been, one of jehovah's witnesses.
my experience with the organization is peripheral in that my extended family became heavily involved several years ago.
in maintaining a relationship with that part of the family, i had relatively extensive dealings with the jws (for a "worldly" person) for many years of my childhood and beyond (if you're at all interested, you can read the details of my experience here: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/44589/626056/post.ashx#626056).
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happysunshine
I've often had the same questions about my parents. They joined when they were 17/23 yoa, in the 1950s. I know there were some abuse/abandonment issues in their families. They often spoke of the sense of a replacement family, and having a purpose. My aunt described this as "love for the unloved". I remember my dad saying that if someone had taken an academic/career guidiance interest in him as a young person, things might have been different. Its just my opinion, but the necessary 'prevention' would seem to have to be more holistic in nature- family,community, guidance, etc. -J