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  How Have U Changed since Leaving?

  by patio34 in

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  i've been thinking about changes in my world view lately and wonder if others have had a similarly subtle, yet profound, outlook on life.

  not being a jw nor even a believer anymore has made a subtle change that ive observed.

  to begin with, i read somewhere that people tend to bring their own standards to their religion.

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  Patio.. Great post.. I have changed in that I am finally learning to love me for me and that anyone that wants to be a part of my life has to do the same. I have learned that life is to be lived and enjoyed now in the present. I will not wait on others to make me happy I am responsible for that. Life is what you make of it and if you are miserable in it then only you can change the outcome. If you rely on others then you will always be let down. People don't change so there is no point in wasting your life in waiting for them to. I find myself surrounded by friends and family that love me and I for once in my life look forward to waking up to whatever life brings me. Do I always get the things that I want? No, that's OK because with each day I am given something else and good or bad....I deal with it and wait for whatever it brings. Even if something appears bad at the time it can lead to something good so don't always look at the negative. I believe that people and things happen in your life for a reason. All bring us lessons and make us grow. ~Noi~

  Edited by - noidea on 8 September 2002 13:53:43
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  New Discovery..."I have a life"

  by noidea in

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  <gasp>..there is life out there...no not outerspace..there could be but that is another thread.

  as many of you know i have recently moved and have a new job.

  there have been so many changes in my life lately that i had forgot to have some fun.

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  <gasp>..There is life out there...no not outerspace..there could be but that is another thread. As many of you know I have recently moved and have a new job. There have been so many changes in my life lately that I had forgot to have some fun. Tonight I finally without guilt went out with some friends "WORLDLY" from work and we had a blast!!!! It was really great to be me and not have to look over my shoulder. OK, so it's almost 4am and I have to work tomorrow. I just wanted to say that there is life out there and it is wonderful! ...*yawns
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  Starting Over

  by noidea in

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  this is it!

  !..i start my new job tomorrow (in a different city) and i signed the lease on my apartment today..wish me luck

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  Imbue.. The opportunity happened so fast and I took it..I was more scared before it happened. I knew that I was going to have to make the changes in my life and wasn't sure where to start. Being married for the past 19 years I had become so dependent on someone else and in making the arrangements he was sure to let me know that I'll never make it on my own. It was a little intimidating but then I have had enough of that being a dub all my life that I figured once I break from that grip that I will overcome those insecurities. It is a huge change and I'm glad that it snowballed so fast or I may have lost the nerve to go through with it. I am nervous knowing that I have a child to provide for. I guess this is my welcome to the real world. Mango.. I will have the company of the most wonderful and supporting daughter that anyone could ever ask for.
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  Starting Over

  by noidea in

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  this is it!

  !..i start my new job tomorrow (in a different city) and i signed the lease on my apartment today..wish me luck

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  This is it!!..I start my new job tomorrow (in a different city) and I signed the lease on my apartment today..Wish me luck
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  Lessons I've learned...

  by WildTurkey in

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  lets post lessons we have learned:.

  i've learned that no matter how much i care, some people are just assholes.. .

  i've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only suspicion, not proof, to destroy it..

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  Actions speak louder then words. Love is a four letter word. Life is what you make of it. If you don't give a 100% in what you believe in....you don't really believe it.
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  Your Apartment Stories, Please

  by Bendrr in

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  this is my first weekend in my new apartment.

  so that gave me the idea to start a fun thread.. how about your apartment stories?

  favorite/least favorite apartment you've had or maybe now live in?

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  I was afraid to read this thread..I am off tomorrow to look for an apartment..Everyone wish me luck.
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  Joe Anderson Disfellowshipped

  by silentlambs in

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  8-1-02, addition to 7-31-02 press release .

  joe anderson-disfellowshipped!

  jehovahs witness child advocate.

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  Why doesn't this surprise me?
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  Help requested

  by Kismet in

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  could someone please post the km schedule for the service meetings in august and september.

  as well as what the watchtower study articles are going to be about for the next few sundays.. i have someone who is interested in going to a meeting to 'observe' the control techniques used and we want it to be a meeting where topics about disfellowhipping, child abuse, or the like will be discussed.. i do appreciate your help.. kismet

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  Out of 14 paragraphs in the study article I counted at least 11 times where it said to refer to the Watchtower....hmmmmm maybe they are afraid that the scriptures they cited wouldn't be enough to convince the readers.
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  DID YOU EVER RAT ON SOMEBODY???

  by minimus in

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  the congregation was always being told to root out any person who was engaged in wrongdoing.

  if it was a best friend or even a family member, you were to inform the elders so that they could look into the matter and investigate any possible sin.

  the elders pretty much told the brothers that those knowing of a sin and not reporting it were as guilty as the person that actually sinned!

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  Nope..not once did I rat anyone out..besides, if I did there was usually much more to tell on me. I liked to call it covering my own a$$.
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  HAVE you CHANGED???

  by minimus in

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  after reading so many comments about our collective personalities, i wonder how we were percieved by the congregation in general.

  some of us on the board seem to be shy, others appear to be stronger type personalities.some stories that i have read, suggest that when you left the organization, either nobody was surprised or everyone was shocked.

  do you think that you are basically the same type of person , now, as you were when you were attending meetings?

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  I have changed..some for the good and some for the bad. I am more compassionate now, a freethinker..(yeah!!!) much more independent. On the down side I think I am more selfish maybe because I'm thinking more of how I feel verses how others think I should feel. Maybe that happened because of the free thinking. It would have been much easier to have let things stay the way they were but then I would always have to be heavily sedated. <g> Yes, I have changed and the change is good. Now If I can just get some people (OK, one person) off my back and quit trying to tell me how I should feel and what I should be thinking I'd have no complaints. *damn I hate when someone begs. Until then, the only thing I know to do is let out a very loud scream...I hope the neighbors don't mind..now if you all will excuse me