I left the WTBTS in October 2000, and separated from my JW husband in July 01. haven't been DA'd or DF'd (can't think why, i haven't exactly been keeping a low profile!).
I have been shunned by JWs in the street, JW neighbours won't even look at me (these neighbours of mine are just like the Flanders family from the Simpsons!!)
My JW (soon to be ex)mother-in-law saw me and my four year old in a supermarket the other week. (Soon to be ex)Mother in law saw us, turned the shopping trolley around, and walked quickly in the other direction, dragging my (soon to be ex) father in law in tow. I had to laugh, they are elderly , my father in law uses a stick, it got all caught up in the trolley and caused confusion because he hadn't got a clue what she was up to and why they were suddenly turning round!!!
But it made my daughter cry and say "There is my nanny". She couldn't understand why her nanny wouldn't want to talk to her. Don't worry folks - I explained it to her as best I could.
To make a child cry just to comply with the JW shunning rules is TOTALLY UNFORGIVEABLE.
But then my (soon to be ex) mother in law isn't a nice individual anyway - fully of duty towards family, but no real feeling of love for them. The JW organisation suits her down to the ground.
Nowfree