It looks pretty good but I didn't see anything about it being for women? Just saw it was about Ex-JWs now following Jesus, maybe you should have put that in the title of the thread, not everyone here wants to be religious anymore...though for me, it's good, I am trying to convert to Christianity so I feel happy whenever I see anything about other ex-JWs following Jesus :)
lilbluekitty
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Ex-JW Women website!
by Chemical Emotions ini just created a website for jw and ex-jw women.
please visit it and tell me what you think (and maybe sign up hehe)!
it's a work in progress.
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Is there any way around this? (Preaching when you don't believe)
by venusinfauxfurs ini figure i can do more to wake friends and family up on the inside than the outside and i didn't come to that decision without a great deal of pain.
i know it's not "the truth" but it isn't a bad life for me,and i still very much believe in god.
the witnesses aren't right but neither are the mormons, the catholics, etc and i have other family devoted to both those faiths.
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lilbluekitty
I wouldn't know how anyone (who doesn't believe that crap they teach) could do it if they have a partner at the door with them without them freaking out and "telling" on you. I'm inactive and never spoke up while I was active, I just basically stopped going and quietly faded away. If you're okay with the fact that some of the JWs with you in service might get offended or rat on you, go ahead. Though if you're a guy maybe you can go to the doors by yourself, then it's cool. I can't tell which gender you are, I'm female so I always had another "sister" with me.
I applaud you for still believing in God and the Bible! A lot of people who don't want to be JWs anymore are so angry they stop believing in God, or they never did in the first place. I'm learning how to convert to Christianity (the real kind), so if you have any interest in that, my suggestion would be to read another translation of the Bible, for me it's the NIV translation which makes it soooo much easier to understand! Anyway, that might be too soon for you since you say you have to be in for now. But just a suggestion anyway. :)
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Is anyone else getting ready for Christmas?
by juni ini was in the mood today... got the tree cheap (came w/lights), decorations and ribbon for half price and made the bow myself to save money.
i was going to put it aside until after thanksgiving, but couldn't resist completing the project.
i just have to get some fiber fill for "snow" at the base.
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lilbluekitty
I put up my tree (my first ever!!!) a couple days ago. I'm sending some cards to some ex-JW friends and some non-JW family members, also some non-JW friends who've been sending cards for a couple years, now I can send them one back :)
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Me at the Circuit Assembly Today
by ranmac inhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lsmabta4sxi&feature=related.
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lilbluekitty
LOL they thought so at least, they kept going on and on about it =P
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Me at the Circuit Assembly Today
by ranmac inhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lsmabta4sxi&feature=related.
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lilbluekitty
*likes*
Were you at the one in Plant City, FL? My aunt and her family just went to that one.
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Very superstitious, the Devil's on his way...
by Londo111 ingrowing up jw, the paranoia over demons oftentimes seemed to reach a medieval frenzy.
there was no shortage of places where demons were hiding, ready to possess those who stumbled upon them.
is there any religion on earth more superstitious (aka demon-fearing)?
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lilbluekitty
Oh man, this whole thing is totally all the things I was taught, especially about not praying out loud! It got to the point that I was terrified all the time of everything. I remember I bought this amazing silver ring that had these Celtic symbols that I liked (Celtic knots or something) and that night I had horrible nightmares so I threw the ring away. I always just assumed it was the ring but sometimes I just have nightmares because of what I put into my mind. I'm not saying I don't believe in those things but I don't know if every single object can cause things like that. It's kind of dumb. To me, if you have faith and trust in God you're going to be okay. Dude, I watched The Rite recently and nothing bad happened to me. I felt guilty for watching it but that's about it. *shrugs* The dumb things the org teaches us...
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Multiple Abuse ...
by talesin ini wonder how many posters here are not only in recovery from spiritual abuse (jws) , but other traumas,, such as sexual and physical abuse,,, or rape as a young person (ie, child or teen).. .
how many of us are recovering from double - or triple - trauma ... ?.
anyone want to share?.
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Oh by the way my mother has many, many privileges now, especially going to RBC meetings every week (she's some sort of administrator) and drama rehearsals to do the beards and makeup stuff. She is not, however, a pioneer and only pioneered regularly once when I was a kid. She barely makes 10 hours a month (much of it faked) last I knew but loves to brag about how everyone knows her and how hard she works and all the extra stuff she does for the org. It totally sucks. If they only knew...
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Multiple Abuse ...
by talesin ini wonder how many posters here are not only in recovery from spiritual abuse (jws) , but other traumas,, such as sexual and physical abuse,,, or rape as a young person (ie, child or teen).. .
how many of us are recovering from double - or triple - trauma ... ?.
anyone want to share?.
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lilbluekitty
I was physically, verbally, emotionally abused. Basically everything except sexually. I was born prematurely (weighed 4 lbs at birth) so I was always small my whole life. My father didn't believe there was anything wrong with me even though I stopped growing at age 10 or so and weighed about 45 lbs. My mother went to the other extreme and took me to the doctor's all the time once my parents got divorced. I had to have growth hormone shots which thankfully helped me grow 10 more inches so that I'm 4'10 now (and a much healthier weight LOL). However most of my teenage years were spent in the hospital going through various tests both physical such as the dreaded Insuline Arginine test (they lower your blood sugar as low as it can go without you dying and then hope that certain hormones kick in) and psychological/neurological tests because my mom said I wasn't like other kids. I was diagnosed wrongly with bipolar disorder. I do not have it but I was made to take so many medications that one of my doctors in New England could not believe I was on so much medication. I spent most of my teens and 20s totally drugged up and not in a fun way. My moods were out of control because if you put a non-bipolar on bipolar meds, you act bipolar. So they would keep putting me on more and more meds. Lithium was the worst. I was always sick to my stomach and my hands still shake now even though I'm no longer on any meds.
There was also horrible physical abuse at the hands of my mother. She is obese and I was always small so the only way I ever got away is because I'm fast but once she'd find me I'd still end up getting it. It started out as spankings and then escalated to beatings and hair pulling and face punching. She broke my glasses several times. She'd beat me the most while she was driving us to the meetings, sometimes telling my sister and I that she was going to swerve into the opposite lane so that a truck would hit us and we'd all die. She did that many, many times. It should be noted that she was at her worst the NIGHT OF THE MEMORIAL, every single year, making me dread the memorial.
I think the worst thing is that on the drive to almost every meeting, she'd scream at us, or hit us, or both and by the time we pulled into the KH parking lot, my sister and I would either both be in tears or my sister would be very angry (we dealt with the abuse differently, I was always depressed and guilty, often suicidal, my sister was always angry and wanted to rebel against her.) But the thing is, we had to smile and look happy when we entered the hall. Sometimes my smile wasn't real enough and people would ask me what was wrong. I had to lie and say I was tired or something. It wasn't until I was in my early 20s that I would finally say, when people said how are you that I wasn't doing so great and then I wouldn't bother explaining why because I was embarassed to still be spanked and beaten in my 20s.
Thankfully I'm away from that whole mess, married now to a non-JW who doesn't yell and scream and hit. He's very laid back and quiet. I am socially awkward, due to the whole way I spent most of my life and also the fact that I have Asperger's (high-functioning autism, basically) and didn't have much social interaction in my life. I still have flashbacks and nightmares about the abuse but mostly I don't think about it.
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WHY IT IS WRONG FOR ELDERS, MINISTERIAL SERVANTS AND PIONEERS TO SOCIALIZE WITH THE WEAK ONES!
by AvocadoJake inthere is a sister in our hall who has made it clear why her "jehovah" does not like weak ones.
her husband the po, will refuse to work with those who are not getting ten hours or more a month.
the weak ones "are spiritually dangerous and will bring you down.
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Oh, and LongHairGal, you said "JWs this self-righteous should wear some sort of a badge or identifying object so that everybody ELSE avoid them." (I don't know how to quote on this forum yet LOL)
You don't even need it. Just look at them. How do they stand, how do they speak? Is their heads held high with their chins up? Do they speak down to some and praise others? What I mean is, are they only friends with pioneers and elders and their wives? I've heard people say "he's ONLY an MS." I always made it a point to talk to EVERYONE, even the little older sisters who everyone either ignored or pretended to like. Some of my best friends were those old ladies. I didn't talk to only people my own age or a certain status in the congregation. Anyways, you can just tell when you look at those people who are totally SR (self-righteous). You can tell by their comments in the meeting. They go on for like 5 minutes or more. You can just tell. My own grandmother is totally SR.
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WHY IT IS WRONG FOR ELDERS, MINISTERIAL SERVANTS AND PIONEERS TO SOCIALIZE WITH THE WEAK ONES!
by AvocadoJake inthere is a sister in our hall who has made it clear why her "jehovah" does not like weak ones.
her husband the po, will refuse to work with those who are not getting ten hours or more a month.
the weak ones "are spiritually dangerous and will bring you down.
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I have definitely met people like that, no matter where I've lived in the US. Up in New England, they're like that. Down here in TX they're like that. One elder's wife told me I could not go to her party because I didn't have enough hours in field service (something she is supposedly not supposed to know.) Another sister told me, after I asked if we could hang out after the meeting, that we would have to wait and see if my meeting attendance and hours in field service improved, then she might invite me. As though I was a dog that needed to do more tricks in order to get a treat. The Bible says to assist those who are weak. The people who act like that do not read ALL of the Bible, only the scriptures that make them feel good.
Like I mentioned on a FB group recently, the JWs taught me to hate, Christians are taught to love.
