Thanks for that gem LG. I was a teenager when that article was written. It makes me sick that it took me soooooooooooooooooo loooooooooooooooog to wake up!
Posts by 3rdgen
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by d0rkyd00d ini have come back from a 10 year haitus with a renewed vigor, but i'm too short on time now to explain.
when i first posted here, i was a sophomore in high school....it's hilarious to look back at my 2002 posts and see how much i've changed and grown!
anywho, let me dig right in, from page 30..... "one way we can benefit from jehovahs loving direction is through personal study.
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I have allegedly been charged with apostasy
by Igot2bme ini recieved a letter today and it reads:.
sister jennifer b****,.
we request your presence for a judical hearing.
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(((((((((((((IGotToBeMe)))))))))))))) So sorry you are being shat upon by these weasels. You seem like a smart lady. You are running a successful business, and if your avitar is a picture of yourself, you are beautiful as well. Jealousy could be fueling the lies being spread about you-especially from family and sisters. I'm personally fed up with backstabbing people accusing a sister of religious wrongdoing when the TRUTH is they are simply jealous and refuse to admit it even to themselves.
You are very wise to seek advice from others who have dealt with JCs. You are equally wise to seek an attorney as well as to educate yourself on the laws in your State. You are taking control of your own life. Regardless of the outcome with the JC you have already WON! You are no longer a slave to the WT$ and no longer even captive of a concept. You are doing things YOUR way. You go girl!
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Annoying JW Stories
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so we had a conversation with my in-laws last night that thoroughly ticked me off and this is the only place that i can vent about it, so here goes!.
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I didn't become inactive until i was in my late 50's. My mother was in an assisted living arrangement 250 miles away. Even with dimentia she was able to find out about our statis. Her realitives simply asked Jws they knew in our circuit if they had seen us at the CAs/meetings. They don't have to call elders. ANY publisher will gossip about someone in their hall when asked, "Have you seen so and so at the meetings lately?" Just one seemingly innocent question and you will be busted. Sorry, but it is impossible to "fake it" without attending.
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Today I was told I've been reported to authorities for elder abuse!
by 3rdgen inthis is a very long story-probably requires at least 2 threads, but i'll try:.
my 93 yr. old widowed destitute mother has dementia.
i am her only child.
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Hello again friends, Further update: Hubby wrote a terse e-mail using some of the helpful phrases and info you provided . Guess what? It WORKED!. It appears to be a scam. They backed off after they were informed of several State and federal laws they had broken. He let them know we will transfer mom out of their facility AND persue our legal remedies against them. Hubby received an e-mail saying There must be a "miscommunication" and not to worry. Good Grief! I nearly had a breakdown .
Indeed money brings out peoples TRUE colors. My therapist wants to see me FREE of charge for a while bc she knows the amount of stress that has been nonstop for almost 15 years. She is so happy I have left the cult but thinks I'm too fragile to handle all that has/is going on. I assured her that leaving the cult has actually been the BEST thing that has happened in years. She answered,"you are smart". This "worldly" woman is sacrificing her time(which, of course, is money) on me. OTOH, my own family and the WT$ doesn't care enough to even pay their debt much less help out bc of the past generous gifts they received. Who is the "evil slave"? The facts speak for themselves.
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Today I was told I've been reported to authorities for elder abuse!
by 3rdgen inthis is a very long story-probably requires at least 2 threads, but i'll try:.
my 93 yr. old widowed destitute mother has dementia.
i am her only child.
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Hello friends, Just have time for a quick update before I have to get ready to leave to the Doc. (we live 40 min. away) Early this morn. moms SIL, an extremely pious-sneer left a message berating us for abandoning my mother etc etc. She stated SHE has been in the hospital herself (implying health issues are no excuse for dereliction of duty.)How does she know I've been in the hospital? You are the only people I've told. She was married to one of moms deceased brothers. Over the years, THEY borrowed over a HUNDRED THOUSAND DOLLARS from mom. They would borrow 50,000.00 then when they paid it back They would rollit over into a new loan of 50,000.00. This happened at least 3 times that I know of. Then her son (my Elder cousin) started doing the same thing. There was scarcely any paperwork and whether or not they completely paid her back is murky. When Hubby asked them over3 years ago to pay her back because we were broke paying her expenses, they sent ANGRY letters denying any debt. This is when the entire JW family began shunning us. Obviously, there inteny is to deny and counter alledge. It has worked wellfor them and RUINED my reputation.
There is more regarding her loans and gifts to other family members and the WT$ but that is another thread My destitute mother was once a multi millionare. The Borg cleaned her out and has left a widow who was baptized along side of THE Max Larson in 1937. (75 years of slaving) To ROT and are blaming me. NIce huh? Never my daughter and I lost our entire inheritance.
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Today I was told I've been reported to authorities for elder abuse!
by 3rdgen inthis is a very long story-probably requires at least 2 threads, but i'll try:.
my 93 yr. old widowed destitute mother has dementia.
i am her only child.
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Dear FHN, Roski, and BlackSheep, Thanks you for your kind words, I feel a little better-thanks to you and the other posters. Hubby heard me sobbing and comforted me too. It's now 1:00AM and I must shut down for tonight. Tomorrow I have a doctor appt but later I hope to visit here some more. You are kinder, and closer to me than any of my family except hubby and daughter. I wish I could hug you all. Good Night
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Today I was told I've been reported to authorities for elder abuse!
by 3rdgen inthis is a very long story-probably requires at least 2 threads, but i'll try:.
my 93 yr. old widowed destitute mother has dementia.
i am her only child.
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Thank you Aza, Imallcool and Sizmik, You are very comforting. I wish we all could meet. When we are hurting this board rises to help and I really appreciate all of you. The stress is making Hubby and I snap at each other terribly. I really a friend tonight thank you for your company.
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Today I was told I've been reported to authorities for elder abuse!
by 3rdgen inthis is a very long story-probably requires at least 2 threads, but i'll try:.
my 93 yr. old widowed destitute mother has dementia.
i am her only child.
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Thank you Broken Promises, ((((((((hugs)))))))) My mother has always been a very odd headstrong person. The irony though is, she was a good mother the first few years of my life and I bonded very tightly with her. I love her so much and always sought to please her-but never quite measured up to her expectations of me. Now I fear life has broken me.
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Today I was told I've been reported to authorities for elder abuse!
by 3rdgen inthis is a very long story-probably requires at least 2 threads, but i'll try:.
my 93 yr. old widowed destitute mother has dementia.
i am her only child.
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3rdgen
This is a very long story-Probably requires at least 2 threads, But I'll try:
My 93 yr. old widowed destitute mother has dementia. I am her only child. Why she is destitute is a separate thread. She didn't let me know until it was too late to keep her from giving her last $ to the WT$. My hubby and I took her in to live with us when she became broke, even though she was rude and hurtful to both of us. She only stayed with us a short time but I assure you it was HELL!She stayed with several different friends and family after she left our place in a huff. (I would have NEVER kicked her out) Each time she was asked to leave after only 6 weeks.
We then set up living arrangements for her at the nicest assisted living home in her hometown. (6 hrs from us) Two of her brothers were also living there and she had friends and other family nearby. She Literally kicked and screamed when we took her there but soon she grew to like it. It cost hubby and me $2400.00 a month. After 2 years of this added expense WE were now completely broke ourselves. At this point we had no choice but to get her government assistance. Hubby did this for me since I was a basket case at this point. We were still active JWs at this time but were being treated like lepers. (still another thread). I got a call from a sister saying that my mom was telling friends and family that I had taken ALL HER MONEY!!! Meanwhile all her family start shunning me WHILE I WAS STILL ACTIVE. I was crushed and hubby was furious. Meanwhile, one of her bros died and the other is very ill.
Last year mom had a stroke and was hospatalized and not expected to recover. She did though and was put in a different home as she needed much more assistance. In time she got well enough to be "aggressive" and put in still another facility. None of this was with our knowledge or consent. A couple of months ago Social Securiy informs us that her benefits had been cut partly because she was living at home. WHAAAAT??? She had been passed (dumped) from 3 places but never was at home. At the same time, the newest facility e-mailed us saying she is on a hunger strike and at the rate she was loosing weight she only had a few months to live. Meanwhile, there is another death in the family, I hear about it in an e-mail from a witness in their hall. My health declines, I have to have surgury, we mentally exit the cult, our house is in forclosure,Hubby trying to start new business, and today we awake to a curt message from the only sibling of moms who is of sound mind.
He says "When are you going to take care of your mothers needs. You have failed to fill out her paperwork properly and now the rest home is going to put her in the street. Is that what you want?" He doesn't know or care how we are and didn't ask. Before we could process that, hubby reads me TODAYS e-mail from the home saying we owe them $24,000.00 for only 4 months care. They accused us of embezzeling her social security money and said they have already turned us in to the authorities.
I'm now quite literally crying in my beer. Sorry for the length but I simply don't have a friend in this world-except you and I realize I don't even know you or visa versa.
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My grandmother has died - All I am thinking about is the JW funeral...
by exjehovah inmy jw grandmother passed away last night after a long battle with alzhemers disease.
she suffered a lot at the end of her life, a shell of who she ounce was, so i am happy she is at peace.
as i mentioned my brother died a short three months ago.
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(((((((((((exJehovah)))))))))) I'm sorry for your loss and feel for you at this sad time. It's like heads they win, (if you attend and are shunned) and tails you loose, (if you feel bad for not paying your respects). What is the relationship between you and her child? (your Parent) How will they feel seeing you shunned vs seeing the flowers and card you send? The memorial is definately for the living. Do what is best for yourself and the parent who has lost their mother.