@Smiddy, yes.
Posts by 3rdgen
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222013 CA and SAD programs released. More Safegaurd your mind control stuff.
by darthweef insong no.
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Spare the Rod and spoil the child, How did that work for you
by jam inin proverbs there are several verses on the wisdom.
of using the rod for discipline.
the notion that children.
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3rdgen
The question has been raised about hitting a child/toddler baby? VS hitting an adult. I want to raise another question: What about hitting/beating a puppy or a dog? Most of the spankers out there probably would hesitate to beat their dog. Why are kids worth less?
When we got a puppy we bought a book about German Shepard dogs and how to train them. We learned that positive reinforcement works MUCH better than other methods, however, CONSISTANCY is crucial. Why would anyone be more patient with a mere animal than their own child??????
Turns out that our male dog was terribly willful. He would not obey even if he knew EXACTLY what the command was. We almost got rid of him because he started to get aggressive. We decided to use what he loves and hates to train him. He loves food, so EACH and EVERY time he obeys he gets a small treat. He HATES being alone so EACH and EVERY time he disobeyed he was scolded and put in isolation in our laundry room for an hr.
He has not disobeyed in so long I can't remember. Why don't parents put at least as much time and effort in reading parenting books and taking classes as people do with dogs? When parents are pushed or tired they revert to what is easy. I know because I was guilty of this myself. Thankfully, I realized my children were worth the investment of time, patience and consistancy. I abandoned the literal rod and substituted consistantly withholding what they wanted when the behavior was unsuitable. They could predict with a certanity what the consequences would be if they disobeyed. Along with this ,there was praise (lots of praise) affection, and yes, REWARDS for doing the right things.
Parents are the adults. It is up to them to be smarter and wiser than their kids. Parenthood is NOT for sissys or bullys!
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3rdgen
Hi canary. You've lurked a long time! Congrats for taking the step to join and post. Please tell us more about you.
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Trust me ...I'm a doctor ;-)
by Kudra inas of this morning, i *am* a doctor!.
dr kudra, phd!.
la de da!.
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3rdgen
Congratulations!!! You did it the hard way. You could have acheived the same results simply by regularly reading your Awake magazines. LOL
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How is it possible to go ...and not know about Sparlock?
by carla inhow is it possible for a jw to go to the dc and not know about sparlock?.
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MIL: "We had such a good meeting Sun. Hubby: "Really?" "Was there any new light?" MIL: "Well, no." Hubby: "Then what in particular was so good about it?" MIL: Blank stare...
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Credit card machines at district conventions
by OneDayillBeFree inso it's true they are real.
i never thought i'd see the day when the org.
would be so desperate for money that they would do this.
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3rdgen
Kirtbethel, thanks for posting that cartoon lambasting OTHER churches for being greedy and emphasizing donations rather than the message of Jesus. WT$ probably hopes those old enough to remember the cartoon are either dead or senile.
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Spare the Rod and spoil the child, How did that work for you
by jam inin proverbs there are several verses on the wisdom.
of using the rod for discipline.
the notion that children.
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LITS, Thanks so much! I couldn't be more grateful.
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Truth behind Scientology revealed - KATIE HOLMES TELLS ALL !!!
by talesin injust kidding, but wouldn't it be cool if she divorced tommy, and revealed the truth about this cult?
hehehe.
tal .
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3rdgen
Doh!!!
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Spare the Rod and spoil the child, How did that work for you
by jam inin proverbs there are several verses on the wisdom.
of using the rod for discipline.
the notion that children.
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My earliest memories are of being a toddler and told by my father to "wait till we get home". then told to stop crying on the way home or the beating would be worse. At this point I went into an involuntary convulsion trying to stop crying and not being able to breathe. All the while my mother would say nothing and do nothing in my behalf. What can a toddler do at a 2 hour+ meeting that lasts late in the night that requires beating with a belt? Such fear produces either rebellion or submission mixed with resentment that in time turnes to hate. The latter was the case with me.
My father died when i was in high school and all I felt was relief. My mother was the oddest person I personally have ever met. I have no way of knowing whether she would be as insensitive as she has always been without the influence of Judge Rutherford or not, but at this point I don't care anymore. The damage has been done, both to me as well as her grandchildren. She was so indifferent to them(their whole lives) that when he was grown, I couldn't even PAY my son to visit her. As bad as it sounds,when she dies I will feel a HUGE burden lifted.
BTW, I raised my children with boundries not beatings. My mother accused me of "making Gods out of your children". What does that even mean??? It just so happens my grown daughter just paid for an airline ticket so I could visit her. (She PAID to see ME!) You be the judge.
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A further clarification: They are the WT$ fav bank and the one used in the Menlo Park debaucle. Need I say more?