It is unfair to your wife, kids? and yourself to start a relationship before you have exhausted every possibliity of reconciliation with your wife. Ie: counciling etc. If it's obvious you are beating a dead horse, by all means divorce. Only then will you be in any position to pursue someone else. Remember: It is just as easy to love a non- believer as a JW. Why are you asking for grief?
Posts by 3rdgen
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20What can I do??
by Nenmco infirst, i am married, but the marriage ended 11 years ago.
no sex, no emotion, just roommates paying the bills.
i met a wonderful jw gal about a year ago and we have been friends.
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I bet you can't sit still while listening to this
by Hortensia inhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aoatqo82k-k.
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3rdgen
Wasblind, LOL You are 99.99% right about those that didn't dance to that music were dead. E X C E P T my husband. He is without a doubt devoid of all rhythm. He told me hilarious stories where back in the day he was in a mostly black cong. The sisters spent hours trying to teach him to dance (God love em) But even they eventually gave up!
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Millions now living will never die... *could* still be true...
by ILoveTTATT inplaying devil's advocate here...
researching online, i found that approximately 1% of the world's population is 90 years of age or older.
this means that, come 2015, there will still be around 70 million people who fit the bill of "now living" in 1925 and still living.
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3rdgen
My grandmother and father were among the "millions" who were believers at the time of Rutherfords prophecy. They are long dead. In fact, grandma died BEFORE I was born. Those people alive at that time are mostly all dead. period
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When "The Persecution" Comes - What a Let Down that turned out to be!
by cofty inwhen i was young there was endless speculation about "the persecution".
i have very clear memories as a child sitting in the old kingdom hall in coatbridge hearing it talked about from the platform.
it was a frequent topic at home.. sometimes there was lurid detail about what sort of torture "they" might use against us to make us betray others.
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Oh the memories these "persecution" stories produce. Like most of you I was exposed to the sadistic details of the dreaded persecution as a young child. I just can't find any humor in it because it was yet another form of child abuse to be endured or risk being disowned by our parents. I don't think some appreciate the effect these terrifying accounts have on children. Talk about paranoia! You can't trust ANYONE. You can't express fear- without a lecture on your lack of faith. You can't trust the brothers,-they might be tortured and give you up. You can't rely on your parents protection- they might be hauled off to jail or a concentration camp. You can't even trust YOURSELF because you might compromise your faith if the excruciating pain becomes too intense. You can't even trust God because if you waver he'll leave you like the others who ended up "failing the test".= Dead Cofty, this is a great subject because it highlights the anxiety growing up JW produced. No, I was never "let down" by not being physically tortured. But I SURE am trying to recover from the emotional effects.
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I bet you can't sit still while listening to this
by Hortensia inhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aoatqo82k-k.
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3rdgen
Hortensia, good music. You have a PM
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Newspaper Article: Press Telegram-JWS BRING MILLIONS OF DOLLARS TO LONG BEACH - (JW beliefs discussed including date setting)
by AndersonsInfo inhttp://www.presstelegram.com/social-affairs/20130829/jehovahs-witnesses-bring-millions-of-dollars-to-long-beach#comments.
go to the website to read the comments by xjws.. jehovahs witnesses bring millions of dollars to long beach.
jehovah's witnesses hold a series of regional conventions in long beach every summer, bringing some 150,000 witnesses from across the southland over the course of 15 weekends.
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3rdgen
Thanks for posting this article, Barbara. I can see why there is a mutual admiration society between JWs and Long Beach. Both benefit from the DCs being held there. Some years ago BaalamsAss and I drove to LB to attend the convention because my daughter was being baptized there. I must say it was by FAR the best convention venue we had ever experienced- upscale in every way. The weather is incomparable. The vibe of the town is cool. Even the witnesses were bordering on coolness. Not a polyester suit in sight. The woman were very attractive and actually fashionably dressed. The problem was the pesky religion- but we didn't see that at the time. LOL
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Insot4, yes I was captured by the "British Invasion" in the mid 60's. First the Beatles (Of course) then the Stones, Kinks, Yardbirds, The Who etc etc etc, Yet the Stones are in a class by themselves. Whenever i feel rebellious they are the go-to group! Also: you have another PM
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tell me not to cry...
by losingit inafter more than a month of not attending the meetings, my girls will be returning to the meeting tomorrow.
their father is taking them.
i was so happy because my girls were free from the boredom, drudgery and mind control inflicted upon those that attend.
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3rdgen
Nathan N, excellent illustration and teaching points!
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tell me not to cry...
by losingit inafter more than a month of not attending the meetings, my girls will be returning to the meeting tomorrow.
their father is taking them.
i was so happy because my girls were free from the boredom, drudgery and mind control inflicted upon those that attend.
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Loosingit, I'm sorry your girls are being manipulated by their fathers religion and his desire to conform to THEIR rules. I believe Jnat said that children have a way of sorting things out in time and I agree. My situation once was the opposite of yours. My 2 teenagers chose to move in with their DFed dad who was living like a rock star and openly Bi-sexual. At the time I was an active Dub remarried to an elder. I was terrified that my kids would "leave the truth" which they did while in his company. Newsflash: kids like having fun better than meetings and crazy rules! When they left his house to attend college they decided to become JWs. I was elated! What I hadn't counted on is that college teaches critical thinking skills and soon after baptism my living child left the Religion for good. Meanwhile, elder hubby and I left JWs and rock star dad died. My point: The father of your kids has some influence on them and so do you. Your girls will probably adapt to their surroundings- when with you they will pick up your beliefs and when with their father, they will do the same. Time and critical thinking skills will help them to sort out their OWN beliefs. By teaching them critical thinking NOW they will be ahead.
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Do I have PTSD. I comment on three exjw blogs almost everyday
by trujw ini guess i have issues.
or am i just soo awesome.
please don't tell me i am becoming danny hazzards twin.
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3rdgen
If you have to ask if you have PTSD you don't. Maybe OCD?