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  So my JW wife cheated on me. Need some help or at least a sympathetic ear.

  by JonathanH in

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  i have neither friends nor family to turn to.

  the result of being born in a cult.

  but i need to talk about this.

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  IMHO, The best advice you have received is to seek professional marriage counciling. If she agrees to go with you that is a good 1st sign that she is willing to work on the relationship. If she refuses...well that is also a sign. Either way you need to know if you even have enough to salvage.

  My ex and I benefitted from counciling. Even tho we ended the marriage I could sleep soundly at night knowing I had exausted every possible avenue to save it. Because the therapist is an impartial 3rd party(no dog in the fight like the elders) it's easier to take their advice . Every case is different. In mine, the professional couldn't believe I had put up with so much and stayed so long. He explained the issues and helped me to reason without all the drama. No matter what the out come you will get through this. ((((((hugs))))))
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  The more stories I read on JWN make me long to go back to the hall...

  by serenitynow! in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i read the stories of those stuck in, or those who are out but still experience unwelcome, intrusive visits from dubs and i want to go to your hall.

  or be at your house when the jackass elders come over.

  i could say all the things you want to but can't because you're afraid to out yourself, or because you are just really nice.

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  3rdgen

  OK, Serenity, sounds like a plan. I have a couple of jerks I'd like to turn you loose on. LOL
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  How long has it been since you communicated with your love ones.

  by jam in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  since you left the cult how long has it been (communicated) only.

  family members.

  your mom, dad ,brother, sister, son.

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  3rdgen

  Where there is life, there is hope.
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  How long has it been since you communicated with your love ones.

  by jam in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  since you left the cult how long has it been (communicated) only.

  family members.

  your mom, dad ,brother, sister, son.

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  3rdgen

  All of you whose children refuse to speak to them: ((((((hugs))))))) This is an indescribable pain like no other. I have some irony for you though: When I was a true believer, my teenage kids chose to live with their DFed father who wanted nothing to do with JWs. They lived 10 hr drive from me. I called, wrote, begged, for visits.... Nothing. They were having too much fun to want anything to do with me and my JW lifestyle. I was completely devistated. Heartbroken. I saw them only 3 times in 4 years. Then they left their fathers home, went to college, and decided to (wait for it) become JWs!!! I was extactic. Then Son had a tragic accident, died before baptism, daughter gets baptized, father dies, daughter leaves borg. Mom and elder hubby #2 wake up, daughter and mom united FOREVER.

  Moral: Nothing with children is permanant. They are works in progress. Also, anyone can change under the right circumstances. If I can after 60 yrs ANYONE can. The future is uncertain, enjoy what you have today!
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  Divine Flan of the Ages - Recipes for Disaster [with thanks to Punk of Nice!]

  by ziddina in

  1. social
  2. humour

  crap..... now i can't think of anything... .

  uh, wait a sec..... take one young upstart greenhorn clothing store magnate who reads the bible and has tons of arrogance and self-righteousness.. marinate him in a "doomsday" atmosphere, such as a "second-day adventist" environment, until he's thoroughly loopy.... carefully extract him from that stew and place him carefully in a special echo-box surrounded by yes-men,.

  throw in a few "end-times" dates, and let the whole mix simmer, occasionally adding a few suckers - er, followers, until the end time runs out - er, the timer runs out..... let him stew in his own juices, exposing him to a hot kitchen warmer as the embarrassment of his false predictions puts heat on him.... then bake in an oven of heated public opinion, due to his scandalous behavior towards an underage girl and his very public divorce.. serve with half-truths and contradictions.... next up - baked rutherford steeped in whiskey - gin - wine - beer - and whatever else you've got, that's alcoholic!!.

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  3rdgen

  LOL Rebel8 I believe every word of your story. Been there, done that, too, except for the napkin headcovering. Our hall kept a hidious looking ladies hat in the back room but a greasy napkin would have been more attractive.
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  Have Jehovah's Witnesses (The WTBTS) taken the Best Years of your life?

  by Hairyhegoat in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  having been a born in for 44 years i can say yes to this question.

  my 2 sisters and 1 brother and my dad have nothing to do with my family now we have made our stand against the jw's.

  i was always downtrodden at school for been a jw.

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  Punk, #4 is halarious! Aren't JW rumours ridiculous!?!?!?
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  QUESTION: How have Franz books helped you?

  by binadub in

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  Reading COC took my out of focus doubts and clarified things into a sharp picture. Reading that book changed my life and that of my husband. I don't know how any honest hearted JW could read that book and still belive the WTS is Gods organization.
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  Have Jehovah's Witnesses (The WTBTS) taken the Best Years of your life?

  by Hairyhegoat in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  having been a born in for 44 years i can say yes to this question.

  my 2 sisters and 1 brother and my dad have nothing to do with my family now we have made our stand against the jw's.

  i was always downtrodden at school for been a jw.

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  3rdgen

  Absolutely! I will have my 1st birthday in about 3 weeks. No one except my husband and daughter will acknowledge the 60 years I've spent on the earth. I will never get those years back but at least I've found a group who understands the sadness and regret I feel.
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  Rutherford era, view of marriage not sacred cuz Superior Authorities said so

  by FatFreek 2005 in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  several days ago a poster cited the fact that rutherford had several women (though not at the same time) living with him at beth sarim.

  that it was well known and winked at during those years.

  that his view -- and the view of bible students of that time -- of marriage was negative because the superior authorities were in charge.

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  3rdgen

  My parents were married in the mid 40's. They were both reg pioneers. ON their wedding day they put on their service clothes, went to the justice of the peace, got married without any friends or family present, had lunch, made some "back calls" and showed up for a study they had with an elderly lady. The lady sent them home when she found out it was their wedding day!

  Like BOTR' parents there were no rings exchanged. After a number of incidents with men "hitting" on my mother my dad bought her a wedding band. After Knorr married, mom received a diamond ring.

  After 9 yr of contunious pioneering and special pioneering, mom wanted a child. When the "friends" learned she was expecting, she got many snide comments. For quite some time I was the only young child in our cong. I was the only Witness in the various schools I attended until 7th grade.
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  The biggest lie

  by sizemik in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  it's the biggest lie that's ever been told .

  a lie i've heard more than any other .

  all through my life i keep hearing it.. everybody tells it .

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  3rdgen

  The fear for me is pain and isolation that often is associated with death and the sadness that life is so short.