It seems I can only log in under my previous user name, rubadubdub. I would prefer to keep my new account and log in under the user name SailAway. Can this be corrected, or do I need to start a new account? Thanks in advance!
rubadubdub
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I can only log in under my old user name
by rubadubdub init seems i can only log in under my previous user name, rubadubdub.
i would prefer to keep my new account and log in under the user name sailaway.
can this be corrected, or do i need to start a new account?
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Building Your Own Rudder
by Coded Logic insome thoughts on meaning, human nature, and the initial difficulties of learning ttatt.. .
it's not just the fear of the wild, the untamed, or the untraversed regions of the mind that drives jws to seek shelter in the dim and dark citadels of their ignorance - seemingly protected from the insoluble mysteries of their universe.
but it's also the fact that the winds of reality can, at times, be cold and harsh and can rain storm and thunder upon everything they thought they knew.
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rubadubdub
I took an online course called The Science of Happiness this fall (brief course description below). One unit recommended viewing the film, Every Three Seconds; It’s Time. This an amazing film that shows how ordinary people can effect monumental change and find meaning and happiness in their lives. I highly recommend the film and the course. You can take the course for CEUs or audit it for only $50US.
“Created by UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, the course zeroes in on a fundamental finding from positive psychology: that happiness is inextricably linked to having strong social ties and contributing to something bigger than yourself—the greater good. Students will learn about the cross-disciplinary research supporting this view, spanning the fields of psychology, neuroscience, evolutionary biology, and beyond.”
http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/news_events/event/the_science_of_happiness
Edit: Oops, I'm logged in under my old user name!
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Four BOE Letters
by pixel infour boe letters.
read and discuss:.
requesting where can we find answers to lifes big questions?
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rubadubdub
Minimus a group overseer is an elder (a ministerial servant is the assistant) who is assigned to lead the field service groups from individual homes and the KH on Saturday mornings. This began when the book/bible study was moved to the KH. The field service groups are roughly the same as the former book study groups (arranged geographically).
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How Long Have You Been Viewing Thiis Site? Does It Serve Its Purpose For You?
by minimus ini've been here forever.... this site still gives us some of the most up to date info about jws .
it keeps evolving.
sometimes it is the place to be and i think that's especially true for newbies.
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I've been biting my tongue as this thread has unfolded. I have been reading and posting for about two and a half years. For me this site serves the purpose of keeping up on current JW antics and ever-changing doctrine. It is helping with fogging my JW in-laws. I read it daily for that purpose. Sometimes there is a funny thread of post that serves as comin relief for me. I appreciate those.
I have come to the point, though, that I find it exceedingly uncomfortable to post. It feels just like it did at the KH for me. I was the outsider-- a "sister" with an "unbelieving mate" who was excluded from the cliques and the inner circle. JWN has its lovely members. Some have PM'd me with very helpful information, and I have formed a friendship with one member outside of the forum. But JWN also has its bullies. I find some of the posts sarcastic, unhelpful and mean spirited. The character assassination comments and threads make me cringe. There seems to be an old boys' club that is just plain immature. I left the KH to get away from all of that.
Let the insults fly, if you must. I don't engage with bullies. My father was a master of sarcasm. I've had my fill of that as well. My mother attacked my character and has disowned me three times in my life and yet I have been her primary caregiver for over 15 years, and I'm in the process of moving her out of her home into a higher level of care. She has always been mentally ill and now has Alzheimer's Disease. I can hold my own agains mean to be sure. I just have had enough of all the bull sh*t in my life. Enough said.
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What's Your Favorite Comfort Food?
by minimus inthis weekend i had the most delicious chicken pie filled with white meat, a few veggies, gravy and the chicken pie had a hard crust, not puff pastry.
yum!
that with a soft wheat roll and butter......
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rubadubdub
Brick-oven pizza, pasta with fresh marinara or homemade mac 'n cheese. Life is good.
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so happy today!!
by XstuckX ini'm married with small children.
my wife and i both born-in and baptized jws.
i began my slow drift about a year ago.
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rubadubdub
Congrats XStuckX!
I read your post to my hubby. He laughed and said, "That's sounds awfully familiar!" One day after 42 years in, I said to my long-faded husband, "I'm not going to be a witness anymore." He did not see that coming!
The thing is, leaving is a process for each of us, and we all do it in our own way and in our own time. Yesterday was not likely the beginning of your wife's journey out of the WT. Things have been brewing under the surface. I agree with jwfacts that your wife will need to learn TTATT, sooner rather than later. I, too, left based on both my own reasoning and emotions. Once the euphoria of feeling free (In your wife's case baking birthday cookies and celebrating Christmas) passes, the reality of the magnitude of losing her entire belief system will set in. Your wife is not mentally free yet.
You know your wife and your situation best. My thought is that you might want to slow everything way down. I just walked away and ignored all contact (nearly daily) for over five months. They are basically leaving me alone now. (Two elders did come by with the RNWT-- I accepted it, thanked them and told them it wasn't a good time to talk.) There are advantages and disadvantages to writing a DA letter. Explore them with your wife. This can be a reasoned decision, rather than a reactiive gesture if you slow things down a bit. Why not wait until after the holidays to decide?
You have received great advice about your employement situation.
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Please allow me to apologise.
by quellycatface ini have been posting on here for a few weeks now and i know i have been quite colourful in my language.. i hope i have'nt offended anyone, if so, i am sorry.. i'm just so damn angry about everything.
i feel like an idiot.
i'd been falling for the bs for so many years.. will these feelings ever fade?.
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rubadubdub
Quelly, we have all been there, and it will get better! You are grieving. The five stages of grief are:
1. Denial & Isolation (You are not there; you are here!)
2. Anger (You are here; Rant away!)
3. Bargaining (There was no bargaining for me; I was done.)
4. Depression (Get help if you get stuck here; I did.)
5. Acceptance (This took me almost two years.)
You will move in and out of each stage.
I hope this helps!
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Ever consider joining The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints?
by rawe inhas anyone here left jehovah's witnesses to join the churuch of jesus christ of latter-day saints?
what was your motivation for doing so and how has it worked out?.
if you haven't joined the lds or considered it, as an ex-jw, what is your general view of the lds faith?.
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rubadubdub
http://i.imgur.com/NTp2eRl.jpg
I've read about Mormons, because I knew a Mormon woman at one time. Some of the things mentioned in this thread and that she told me seemed unbelievable, but it was what she believed and practiced. She told me that she couldn't pray directly to god, only her husband could pray on her behalf. That was troublesome to me at the time.
jgnat, I took your test and scored 100% Universal Unitarian. This was actually the only church I checked out after I left. I just didn't get the concept of a church with no set doctrine after 42 years of being told what to believe. At this point (2.5 years out), I don't feel a need to join a community of faith.
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Ladies, How Big Is Your Diamond Engagement Ring?
by minimus ini notice a trend that suggests that many ladies either have a one carat or bigger diamond ring or much smaller if any.. do you have a diamond ring and if you do, what size carat is it?
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Min, you have a right to your opinion. I was trained to adhere to industry standards by G.I.A.
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Ladies, How Big Is Your Diamond Engagement Ring?
by minimus ini notice a trend that suggests that many ladies either have a one carat or bigger diamond ring or much smaller if any.. do you have a diamond ring and if you do, what size carat is it?
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Jewlers will talk about the 4 Cs-- Color, Cut, Clarity and Carat. I've always loved pretty rocks and am now a gemologist. For me the first three Cs are more important than carat weight. That being said, there is a difference in price between a light quarter, half or full carat diamond. It is unethical for a jeweler to sell a .24 carat, .49 carat or .99 carat stone as quarter, half or full carat stones respectively. There should be a nice price break for a "light" stone.
When we got married and were young and poor JWs, I had a gold band with tiny diamond chips which I loved. It was eventually stolen by a non-JW family member on cocaine. For our 25th anniversary I bought my own diamond at wholesale, since I was working for a jeweler. I chose a .78 carat, E color, VS1 claritey very well-cut diamond. In my opinion the cut is most important, as that is where you get your fire (brillance). As long as you don't go below G-H in color on the scale, the untrained eye will likey not see the difference. I can see it, so I chose E, as D is the top of the scale and way too pricey. Even a SI1 clarity should be acceptable to the untrained, naked eye. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I love a gorgeous blue or pink sapphire. Sapphires make beautiful engagement rings and will hold up to daily wear.
One way to get a really nice stone is to ask a few reputable jewlers if they have any pre-owned diamonds in house. Often a jeweler will take a diamond ring he/she previously sold in trade toward a bigger stone. The jeweler will then remove the stone and from the old setting and keep it on hand until a new buyer comes along and chooses a new setting.
The old rule of two months' salary went out the window a long time ago.
Hope this helps!
